My 5yo son may have high-functioning autism & I need help on how to discipline him :D

PasturesNew

Mics_chick wrote: »

Does keep throwing things around make any sense to anyone? Mostly pieces of paper or soft things that won't hurt or break but not always...

Or having a "fascination" with the toilet? Almost a "need" to flush things down the loo???

Not the first bit ... but the second bit ... I LOVE the way the water twirls and whirls around It's annoying it doesn't swirl everywhere round the bowl. I usually mentally redesign them so the water flow is different.

Mics_chick

PasturesNew wrote: »

Not the first bit ... but the second bit ... I LOVE the way the water twirls and whirls around It's annoying it doesn't swirl everywhere round the bowl. I usually mentally redesign them so the water flow is different.

The first bit was describing my son but the second part was describing myself...

PasturesNew

deannatrois wrote: »

Remember tho.., that Autistic Syndrome of Disorders is a collection of symptoms, any of which can be bundled together and called ASD. ASD in one person is different to ASD in another person., and one can show one symptom in an extreme way while another can show it mildly.

So its not always good to generalise about what ASD is.., rather to talk about what it could be (in terms of symptoms)

Anybody can go through the list of things and tick a bunch of the boxes and go "yeah, I do that".... but you know you've got a problem when for some of the symptoms in each of the groups you can (in great detail) come up with 100 times you've done it.

If I had to sit and write down all my "evidences", I think it would go to about 200 pages.

Stimming's an odd one. I never realised I was doing something that had a name ... and I have quite a few of them... although, thankfully, now I can stop appearing weird in public, now I am aware of it.

Mics_chick

What's stimming?

PasturesNew

Driving's a bad one. I'm a great driver, text book perfect. But, I can't drive if other people are in the car and talking. They go on and on and on and on ... and I can't listen to them AND drive.

I throw a paddy, do an emergency stop (if there's nothing behind me of course), then bang on the steering wheel and say "shut up, I can't drive if you don't shut up".

People don't always want lifts after that.

I had somebody in the car the other day that was natter, natter, natter, natter, natter... and I was trying to listen to them as they'd get arsey if I didn't respond... and after 5 miles I realised I was doing 30mph at a set point behind a van simply because my brain had switched off from driving in order to listen to them ... and so I wasn't making decisions like "he's going slow, it's dual carriageway, I'll overtake". Drives me nuts to have other people in the car.

Mics_chick

PasturesNew wrote: »

Driving's a bad one. I'm a great driver, text book perfect. But, I can't drive if other people are in the car and talking. They go on and on and on and on ... and I can't listen to them AND drive.

I throw a paddy, do an emergency stop (if there's nothing behind me of course), then bang on the steering wheel and say "shut up, I can't drive if you don't shut up".

People don't always want lifts after that.

This comes across as a sense of humour to me?
Did you think it was funny when you posted it?

penguin83

Hi Mics, my son (5) is Autistic but at the other end of the spectrum. Loads of great advice already on this thread but there is a great forum that really helps me as I have no knowledge of Autism before I had my son - linky here

My son throws everything - a piece of fluff, a toy anything that is around. He doesnt like toilets at all but loves taps - switching them on and off for hours! xx

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Mics_chick wrote: »

Does keep throwing things around make any sense to anyone? Mostly pieces of paper or soft things that won't hurt or break but not always...

Or having a "fascination" with the toilet? Almost a "need" to flush things down the loo???

Try a fascination with Loo Roll ., we reckon he eats it a roll at the time.., they just disappear (and he's only just 'outgrown' that stage at 14. And the number of times he's blocked the toilet trying to flush a whole one down.

But u do have to laugh lol.

Mics_chick

I'm SOOOOOOOOOOO glad I started this thread for myself and my son

I haven't been on MSE regularly for quite a while until recently but it's still my first point of call if I have a problem thanks to the luvverly peeps on here :A :kisses3:

Mics_chick

deannatrois wrote: »

Try a fascination with Loo Roll ., we reckon he eats it a roll at the time.., they just disappear (and he's only just 'outgrown' that stage at 14. And the number of times he's blocked the toilet trying to flush a whole one down.

But u do have to laugh lol.

I've never eaten loo roll but no matter how many times I block a loo I still "have" to do flush stuff (like leftovers, torn up paper) that shouldn't go down it again at some point and I'm 43 :rotfl: