Bullying

Valli

MrsE wrote: »

. Have you approached the bullys mother?

noooo

don't go there - therein lies BIG trouble.


This needs referring to the head ASAP who should be concerned about certain aspects of the boy's behaviour which are age-inappropriate, and referring to the appropriate person.
Yes the head's busy but it is his (or her) job.

Ditto Grateful's advice. You can write to Ofsted, via the school by the way.

Dustykitten

G&B

Firstly are you sure you have missed the deadline. I know you are in Scotland but we can hand our forms in on the morning of the inspection. Here you can also ask to speak to an inspector and maybe that is something you would like to do.

The school may have a policy but if it isn't being enforced then the governors and inspectors should know this.

When DS2 was bullied it was the most miserable of times for both him and us and it was verbal, not physical like your poor mite has had too. I kept him home from school until I had seen the head and then until the situation had been dealt with (I wanted my son switched classes).

If you can encourage other parents to write to the Governors as well then hopefully they will see that it is more than just 2 kids not getting along.

Good luck to you both.

gunsandbanjos

Form had the 28th of April as a deadline on the top of it unfortunately.

gratefulforhelp_2

I would send the form directly, ignore the deadline, your child was in hospital, write that on the form if necess, I can't think of an inspector I've met who wouldn't look at it.

daska

Send the form anyway. You have nothing to lose by sending it whereas your daughter and the other kids this boy bullies have everything to gain.

The deadline is most probably so that they don't get everything turning up at the last minute and that they get a picture of the school from the parent's POV which helps uncover issues such as this.

I think the Head has been very remiss in delaying meeting you. When DS1 (12) was hit I was in the Head's office the following day and he was telling me what he had already done to start sorting things out. (Unfortunately it was the first time that I had been made aware of the extent of the bullying and it had already done too much damage, my son promptly moved 200 miles to get away from it).

Gingham_Ribbon

I'm so sorry to hear about this. The school has a duty to keep your child safe and so far this isn't happening. The boy sounds very damaged and there's probably a lot going on behind the scenes, but at the moment that isn't helping your daughter, who MUST be better protected than she currently is. I wonder if it's worth contacting Ofsted (or whoever is carrying out the inspection) before they come into school?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Excuse me if I'm wrong, but if your daughter has medical conditions which count as disabilities, surely they are also in breach of some specific acts in that respect, as they are allowing a physically stronger child to dominate one who wears an 'appliance' (sorry, don't know the accepted term, as it's a long time since I wore one)?

And surely Social Services would be interested in a child acting in a sexually inappropriate manner (bearing in mind that urination is also a known fetish (ewwww))?

Standing in reception on inspection day insisting that you must see the Head because you have had enough of being told to keep another child's inappropriate behaviour towards your DD quiet until after OFSTED will get you action very quickly. Positively light speed, I suspect.

gunsandbanjos

My daughter is actually registered as disabled JoJo. I wasnt aware that would make a difference to the schools handling of a complaint?

bunty109

To me it sounds like OFSTED have been and gone. Each School should have a complainst procedure so if you aren't happy with how the Head deals with this then I suggest you ask to make an official complaint and then the Governors would have to investigate officially.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

It could make a difference, picking on a disabled child rather than one without physical vulnerabilities has to be breaching something or another with regard to inclusiveness or access to a safe education - the classrooms reached via the stairs aren't accessible if there is a good chance some little toad is going to shove her down them again, for example?