Bullying

gravitytolls

Pity she's not so keen to contact Social Services. She should've flagged her concerns to the head already, and he should be very concerened by the act of complete humiliation, which urinating on another is, and the graphic sexual knowledge.

It's horrifying, for your daughter, for other children, for the teacher, and for himsself, as he is clearly being let down somewhere. Thank Heavens you're not simply prepared to accept these things happen.

Good luck, do let us know how you get on.

MrsE_2

Kick up an almighty stink. Go to the police make a complant about attempted assult & assult. Write to the inspectors, write to the world & his granny.

I think the head is letting your DD down very badly by not making time for her.

I'm livid for you & your poor little girl. Have you approached the bullys mother?

meritaten

MrsE - while I can see why you say to approach the mother as she may not aware of her sons behaviour at school (to its full extent) I wouldnt advise it. for one thing she has no control over what happens in the classroom or the school itself and for another she may not be ABLE to control her sons behaviour. and this may not be her fault! I wouldnt want to diagnose her son on here but it sounds as if he has very severe behavioural problems the school are not coping with and not dealing with adequately!
gunsandbanjos - time to make a stand I think!!! situation has gone on for too long and your daughter is at risk and suffering. you obviously think so too or you wouldnt have posted on here.
go protect your daughter hun, you have my support at least and i suspect most people on here would support you too.

Amanda65

If the Head will not see you tomorrow morning as an emergency, ask his PA for a copy of the schools anti-bullying policy and the telephone number and address of the Chair of Governors and don't leave reception until she gives this to you - then watch the Head make him/her self available !!! .

This is completely unacceptable behaviour and tbh I canot believe that the teacher has not addressed your concerns and moved the boy.

bunty109

I would ask for a copy of the School's anti-bullying policy: if they have a website it may well be on there. It would definitely help you if you could read through that and use it to support your case with the Head. This certainly sounds like way more than just an over-excitable 6yo, but if you are able to cite where this child's behaviour could be classed as bullying according to the School's own policy it will really help you should you encounter any lack of support from the Head when you seem them.

ETA: the School really should have a policy for dealing with bullying so if they haven't it needs to be raised with Governors ASAP

andrealm

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

Yes they knew he tried to push her down the stairs, my hubby went to speak to her teacher. They decided to try and get this boy to try and 'help' my daughter, to try and get them to get along i think? He was meant to be looking out for her, clearly not working.

I don't feel intimidated by the school, i'm a fairly strong person and have no problem on that front, my BS detector is pretty good!

The teacher moved your little girl to sit beside this boy AFTER he'd tried to push her down the stairs?:eek:

Good luck with getting this sorted, don't let them fob you off.

BitterAndTwisted

It sounds to me like there might be a difference of views about how to deal with that young tyke between the class-teacher and the Head, which is why the teacher encouraged the OP to make an appointment with the Head. I suspect this young bully is on some form of "three strikes and you're out" and he's just had the two strikes so far.

I'd be sitting outside the head's office until they could make time for me and I wouldn't budge until they had.

daska

OMG! That is totally unacceptable. The fact that the teacher was anxious for you to go to the Head is a strong indication that the school is not dealing with the problem.

The correspondence address for the Governors is quite probably the school address.

Ring tomorrow and leave a message telling them that, given the seriousness of the situation you expect the Head to want to meet with you on Friday and that in the event that he is not willing to meet you on Friday you will inform the LA and the Governors that you are keeping your daughter away from school for her own safety.

gunsandbanjos

MrsE wrote: »

I'm livid for you & your poor little girl. Have you approached the bullys mother?

Mother is really not approachable! She clearly also has no control over him from what i've seen in the playground so not really an option.

Thank you so much to everyone who has replied. I will keep you updated.

MrsE_2

gunsandbanjos wrote: »

Mother is really not approachable! She clearly also has no control over him from what i've seen in the playground so not really an option.

Thank you so much to everyone who has replied. I will keep you updated.

I had a feeling you were going to say that.