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Neighbours hate children!

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  • Zazen999
    Zazen999 Posts: 6,183 Forumite
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    Holly - I'm willing to send you some very loud very obnoxious metal for your delectation if you want it.

    You can't go on shushing your kids! They have a right to be able to walk round their own house and play in their own garden.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    hollykate wrote: »
    thanks for all your replies. for the poster who asked about other neighbours - no one speaks to them - only two out of the row - and them they quickly go inside their house. When my neighbours go on hols - they all come out gardening or having bbq's - it would be funny if it was so serious.We get on well with all the neighbours - they love my children and enjoy hearing the baby play.
    to the poster who said that i am the issue - my baby wasn't screaming or crying but laughing excitedly. My neighbour was ranting like a lunatic - at one point she was even screaming. We did try to get on when we moved in - but i have never liked her - some of the things she used to say about her own family were horrible - but i am polite and would say hi and chat. But after the slamming doors and screaming i find it impossible to even contemplate being nice to them . I just ignore them and go on my way. ( but i have never said anything to them when the dog barks, or they are mowing the grass at 7.30am or 8.30pm, having bbqs and getting drunk inthe afternoon on the weekends)
    I have always had nice neighbours - we lived in a terrace before and each side were older and we all got on great, we only moved because this was suppose to be a nicer area - so i am finding this really difficult.
    Don't know about the council - as they have also bought their house.
    I just want my family to be happy - we going to put the house up for sale - we just want a nice life.

    That is irrelevant, anyone causing trouble to their neighbours can be reported to the council as it is anti-social behaviour.
    Be careful about all the expense and trouble moving you might not know what you are going to get for neighbours there!!
  • Zazen999
    Zazen999 Posts: 6,183 Forumite
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    If you don't want to swear at her; why don't you AND your OH go round and ask them to desist from shouting abuse at your children or you will take further action. And make sure you start taping the abuse that they are exuding in your general direction....for evidence purposes. Even better; make sure that they know you are taping it.
  • Steel_2
    Steel_2 Posts: 1,649 Forumite
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    The reason she doesn't say anything to your neighbour's grandchildren is probably because she would get a mouthful back from her neighbours. Have you had a chat to them about her weird behaviour and whether they've ever noticed anything over the years?

    Bullies escalate their behaviour unless they are challenged and she has chosen you as a victim because you do not stand up for yourself. Standing up for yourself is not stooping to her level, but you are scared of confrontation so you are going to allow yourself to be driven out and lose money in moving fees at the same time.

    I'm a pretty mild-mannered laid back person but if I had experienced what you had I'd give her an option: either she shuts up and controls her foul ugly mouth or you will play the top 100 greatest heavy metal songs of all time at full volume every time you hear her ranting. Every. Single. Time. If she starts you hit the play button and drown her out.

    I'd point out to her that if she thinks you're noisy now, that NOTHING compared to what you could be if you actually really tried hard.

    Then double-dare the !!!!! to open her mouth and if she does let rip with some choice tunes like The Number of the Beast by Iron Maiden. Or You've Got Another Thing Coming by Judas Priest.

    She'll soon learn quick enough to appreciate the quiet in between the hard rock.
    "carpe that diem"
  • chris_n_tj
    chris_n_tj Posts: 2,659 Forumite
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    hollykate wrote: »
    i have never felt so down before - i keep telling the kids to be quiet - even when they aren't making any noise, I just asked my DD to walk quietly up stairs - and she replied - why? Is somebody in bed? Let your kidies be, its your home and they have a right to be kids, and kids sometimes make a noise.


    I know its ridiculous. Didn't even stay in house after OH went to work this afternoon - gave children food and then went and stayed in the park. Both are in bed now.

    The other neighbours (who are older) all have their grandchildren over very regularly - and they are playing outside and she doesn't say anything to them. She leaves them alone because she knows they wont take it from her.
    You need to make her realise that she wont stop you and your family from living.

    My DD is having her first friend over for tea tomorrow and is so excited - but i am worried if they want to go in the garden that the neighbour will start again
    Just let them play and have fun, and if its fine then let them play in the garden. Thats what its there for after all. Just blank next door mad lady out. Pretend its an empty house, or that a 10 ft high wall is there.
    Dont stop looking keep your head high, and just imagine her in her bra and knickers lol that will make you smile.
    Can you give us a small clue as to where you live?
    Hugs cos you sound like you need one Chris n TJ xxxx
    RIP TJ. You my be gone, but never forgotten. Always in our hearts xxx
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    You are his life, his love, his leader.
    He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart.
    You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.
  • hollykate
    hollykate Posts: 84 Forumite
    I think she has mental health problems. I haven't gone around because at the moment i feel like ripping her head off!:mad:
    OH and i will go around - but i don't know if it will do any good.
    Live well. Laugh often. Love more.
    Always look on the bright side of life.....:beer:
  • Steel_2
    Steel_2 Posts: 1,649 Forumite
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    edited 13 May 2010 at 7:31PM
    Zazen999 wrote: »
    Holly - I'm willing to send you some very loud very obnoxious metal for your delectation if you want it.

    Snap! Great minds think alike.

    When the going gets tough, the tough drown everything out with heavy metal.

    For nice people we wear headphones so not to disturb them. For nasties, watch out!
    "carpe that diem"
  • hollykate
    hollykate Posts: 84 Forumite
    Spoke to other people about her - 1st house she use to have violent (drunk?) relationship with hubby - lots of screaming inside and in the street, Treated daughter terrible. I know they moved again because they fell out with new neighbours - don't know what happened there. Now they are living next door to us. We bought the house off an elderly couple.
    Live well. Laugh often. Love more.
    Always look on the bright side of life.....:beer:
  • Zazen999
    Zazen999 Posts: 6,183 Forumite
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    If you have other kids round, get 'I predict a riot' cued up and make the game that they have to shout and drown it out each time you play it. When she starts, kick the CD player on and loud....and all of you scream and try to drown it out.

    Lets face it, if she calls the cops then its just some girls playing out the back, right? No trouble whatsoever....:D
  • frannyann
    frannyann Posts: 10,970 Forumite
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    hollykate wrote: »
    I think she has mental health problems. I haven't gone around because at the moment i feel like ripping her head off!:mad:
    OH and i will go around - but i don't know if it will do any good.

    How awful for you, if she shouts at your children tell her firmly but politely to stop speaking to your children like that as you do not tolerate that behaviour in front of them, and repeat it every time she does it. She is a bully and bullies don't like it when you don't rise to the bait.
    :rotfl:Ahahah got my signature removed for claiming MSE thought it was too boring :rotfl:
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