Neighbours hate children!

nearlyrich

Our nutter next door conformed today....I knew exactly what would happen, we had a lorry delivering to us and they just had to get their car out in the 15 mins they were there, the access road is just about big enough for a lorry and they made him back all the way up to the main road. They are very predicatable and they don't go out on a Thursday usually only if they are being a nusiance.

Zazen999

How can anyone moan about children playing? Screaming yes, but just playing?

I'd hire a trampoline and put it right in their field of vision and invite all the village kids round. Or buy one and put it as close as you can to their house.

CRANKY40

Hire a bouncy castle and invite all your friends with children round for the afternoon. You will enjoy your garden, the kids will have a ball, and after they've all gone she will inderstand the true difference between noisy children, and children just playing in the garden.

silvasava

What a shame you have such a miserable old biddy for a neighbour. We have lived in our house for nearly 35 yrs (both retired now) & 3 years ago a young family moved next door with 3 boys. They play football in the garden, bounce on their trampoline & splash around in their pool in the summer - you know what, I LOVE it - I love hearing them score goals & cheering, I love hearing them giggling on the trampoline & splashing each other in the pool. They are all super kids (their mum also has 4 dogs & a pony - pony kept elswhere!! - I swear they have all been trained the same! Rarely hear a peep from the dogs and we're a pair of semi's. If children cannot play in their own back garden where they are safe where can they play?
Ignore this sour woman

mrsr

Noise can be a very thing ,very often we cant hear are own noise (if that makes sense)My nieghbours could proberly write about me and everybody would be saying what a misery i am.My nieghbours say there children are only playing but to my ears it's constant noise , I don't really sit in the garden but i do like to have the conservatory doors open I have to now keep all the doors closed.I am far from a misery in fact just the oposite but I bet my nieghbour wouldnt say that.They are a very nice couple and I am sad we have fallen out but i'm afraid I two am entitled to enjoy my home.As parents I dont think we always realise how much the noise are children make can drive other people mad.My nieghbours have there 3 children plus she child minds and now shes fostering two girls the noise is unbearable I think if she took a step back and really listened and thought about it from my point of view things might inprove. Anyway folks I just thought I would put a point of view over from the other side.

shellsuit

mrsr wrote: »

Noise can be a very thing ,very often we cant hear are own noise (if that makes sense)My nieghbours could proberly write about me and everybody would be saying what a misery i am.My nieghbours say there children are only playing but to my ears it's constant noise , I don't really sit in the garden but i do like to have the conservatory doors open I have to now keep all the doors closed.I am far from a misery in fact just the oposite but I bet my nieghbour wouldnt say that.They are a very nice couple and I am sad we have fallen out but i'm afraid I two am entitled to enjoy my home.As parents I dont think we always realise how much the noise are children make can drive other people mad.My nieghbours have there 3 children plus she child minds and now shes fostering two girls the noise is unbearable I think if she took a step back and really listened and thought about it from my point of view things might inprove. Anyway folks I just thought I would put a point of view over from the other side.

Fair enough, but what is your neighbour meant to do, gag the children?

mrsr

shellsuit wrote: »

Fair enough, but what is your neighbour meant to do, gag the children?

A lot of the noise is controlable ,there's no way i would have allowed my children to fight and scream in the garden they had to plav proberly if they made excessive noise i was straight out telling them to play nicely,At the end of the day she is being paid a fair wage to look after these children putting them in the garden all day is a easy option for her.Theres always bound to be some noisey moments when children are around its normal and aceptable ,it's unreasonable when its hours on end .I have now got to the point where things i dont normal take any notice of grates my nerves theres a fountain outside in the garden which trickles i never noticed it before but now it drives me mad .I don't say anything about it because i know why it's annoying me and it's only because i am stressed.So what i am basically saying noise can cause real stress .Next door who i do really like would prob be saying i'm a misery which is not the case, she just cant hear how much noise there really is because it's coming from her.Just for the record i am not the only one who can hear it and has made a comment its a bit much and there not right next to it .I do really hope we don't remain on bad terms ,she didn't like me telling her i needed some piece some of the day but it got to the point where i had to say somthing i need to live here as well ,the only time its quite is when it rains, i pray for rain every day.

Mojisola

mrsr wrote: »

I think if she took a step back and really listened and thought about it from my point of view things might inprove. Anyway folks I just thought I would put a point of view over from the other side.

You are right - what's acceptable for one person can be making someone else's life a misery but, from the OP's description of things, I don't think she is like your neighbour.

hollykate

just an update, haven't taken children in garden since first post. Took baby outside today was only out 5 mins when she started next door. Ranting about screaming bloody kid...etc etc. My daughter has laughing and playing with her doll. Then her dog started barking - she loudly proclaims "bark all you want , you were here first, go out in the garden and bark at them....more of ranting, crashing of things in kitchen, screaming about my baby. And saying things like - how did her sleep with her (about me) and how she wants peace. etc. etc. Screaming and shouting lasted even after we went inside. I have had enough and i don't know what to do. I can't sleep - she's been slapping on the walls through the evening. the doctor has said i'm very depressed. I'm crying all the time - i feel like a prisoner in my own home.My oldest child keeps asking when am i going to be happy. I can't afford to move - we still have work to do before we could sell - that would go down a treat. (Last time my oh boxed a pipe in (6 nails) she slapped the wall for a week.
What should i do? My OH wants to go around and speak to her - but she is the type of person who loves confrontation. Pleas help!:(

gunsandbanjos

Huge hugs for you Hollykate, have been following your thread since you started it and i feel so sorry for you. What a horrible, miserable woman your neighbour is.

Don't really have any different advice to add to what has already been posted.