Neighbours hate children!

pulliptears

donquine wrote: »

You're not the first poster to suggest doing something like this and I think it's cruel. It's obvious the neighbours don't like hearing children play and this would be an attempt to deliberately wind them up.

The OP shouldn't feel uncomfortable in her own home, but equally, her neighbours shouldn't feel uncomfortable in theirs. A compromise needs to be sought for all parties concerned - your suggestion will just make matters worse.

How is it possibly cruel to encourage young kids to play out in the fresh air. The problem is the neighbour, its entirely her problem.

As for compromise, the only compromise neighbour would accept would be OP tethering her kids in the house I imagine.

The only reason neighbour feels uncomfortable is because she has what seems to be a totally irrational hatred of children, which although unfortunate is 100% HER problem NOT OP's and why the hell should OP's kids suffer and be kept indoors because of it?

donquine

pulliptears wrote: »

How is it possibly cruel to encourage young kids to play out in the fresh air. The problem is the neighbour, its entirely her problem.

If the neighbour is disturbed by the OP's children playing in the OP's garden, that is one issue. If the OP invites dozens of kids round with the sole aim of annoying her neighbour, then yes, it's cruel. That's not about encouraging children to play out in the fresh air - that's about encouraging the OP to wind up her neighbour and aggravate the situation.

pulliptears wrote: »

The only reason neighbour feels uncomfortable is because she has what seems to be a totally irrational hatred of children, which although unfortunate is 100% HER problem NOT OP's and why the hell should OP's kids suffer and be kept indoors because of it?

The OP's children can't live outdoors. They will need to go inside at some point, to have dinner, to have a bath, to do homework if applicable... If the neighbours are aware of a regular time when the children are indoors and they can be outdoors, that might be enough to placate them.

Rather than go in all guns blazing, why not try to work out a solution? The OP doesn't want to move - if her neighbours wanted to move, presumably they'd be less annoyed. If something can be worked out where all parties are happy staying in their own homes, why not work something out?

pulliptears

donquine wrote: »

If the neighbour is disturbed by the OP's children playing in the OP's garden, that is one issue. If the OP invites dozens of kids round with the sole aim of annoying her neighbour, then yes, it's cruel. That's not about encouraging children to play out in the fresh air - that's about encouraging the OP to wind up her neighbour and aggravate the situation.



The OP's children can't live outdoors. They will need to go inside at some point, to have dinner, to have a bath, to do homework if applicable... If the neighbours are aware of a regular time when the children are indoors and they can be outdoors, that might be enough to placate them.

Rather than go in all guns blazing, why not try to work out a solution? The OP doesn't want to move - if her neighbours wanted to move, presumably they'd be less annoyed. If something can be worked out where all parties are happy staying in their own homes, why not work something out?

Ahhh so OP's kids can never have friends round incase it upsets the troll next door? I think not.

Why the hell should OP have to stick to times when her kids are not in the garden to placate the neighbour? Kids dont work to timescales and neither does decent weather, I wouldnt keep my kids indoors on a blazing hot day because I'd agreed with the troll that 6-7pm was 'homework time'.

If neighbour wants a quiet child free existence so badly I would suggest she ballsed up big time buying a semi with the possibility of having kids next door.

Like I said, this is 100% Neighbours issue, NOT OP's.

Mely

hollykate wrote: »

thanks for the reply - we moved next door to her! when we came to look at the house she jsut seemed like a noisy old women.
(See complains about all the neighbours who have families - even though she has a daughter - who she never sees)

Op...the womans daughter obviously knows what shes like and thats why she doesnt visit. That says a lot! Dont let this woman get you down and rule your life. You MUST ignore her and let your little ones play in the garden and use the garden yourself. Invite family and friends over, as if that woman didnt even exist! Put your back to her when you hang your washing out. She is at fault and not you! Enjoy your home and think s od her!!!!
Mel x

PolishBigSpender

Behave like she wasn't there and ignore her.

gabyjane

I ahve to say without reading all the posts she sounds completely childish tbh. I understand some people dont like children but at the end of the day without sounding harsh it is juts tough..it sounds like a form of bullying in way what she is doing. I would completely ignore her..don't look up at the window and just carry on as normal..has she ever been round and said anything? if not if she has such an issue with it i guess she will with summer coming up..if this si an ongoing thing then she may soon get bored.

When we moved in here i posted about our neighbours, they have about 4-5 children and one imparticular used to sit/hang over our fence and scream to our rabbit..he used the throw everything he could over too knowing my dd would go and get it so we stopped for a while..he soon got bored! I got called a child hater which made me laugh as im a childminder so love kids..i do however mind the screaming and whining that comes from their garden EVERY time the rain goes in..some kids are just whingy i guess! they have been round and asked to put a fence up..they have moved the toy that the child used to climb on to get on our fence and said it annoyed them (never said anything to that!)..now we hear the odd noise from them but dont really see them which is fine by me! My garden is exactly that..mine!
Your garden is yours..ignore her!
Good luck x

Mojisola

Although it might be satisfying in the short term to wind up the neighbour by having loads of noisy children around, it will be playing into her hands because she will then have a genuine complaint.

Just ignoring her is the best way to go. Lead your life as if she wasn't there. Do what you can to screen your garden.

delain

I feel bad for you, so far I've been very lucky with my neighbours, only got one set that report people to social services for no reason, and they seem to be OK with me, only reported me once, I think social services just call people to let them know there's been a report but will be no action taken when they get a call from them.

I would say, like everyone else, enjoy your garden.

Keep a diary, inform the council (not sure if rented house, owned, council or what?) and if all else fails tell the police that your neighbour spends a lot of time watching you and your children and is making you feel ill at ease in your own home.

lauren_1

Crucifix perhaps?

mommame

I remember when we moved in here with 3 kids,4/2/newborn, new years day my husband said happy new year to next door as he was going up the garden path and he replied happy "new year but can you keep the noise down in the evening please as we can hear it in our house".
Hubby asked what kind of noise as the kids were in bed by 7 and only us sitting watching telly which we could,nt have very loud cos it would wake the kids.
It just became a catalogue of things after that,once he told hubby he had been woken in the night by someone flushing our loo so can we please stop it.

The last straw was on a lovely summer afternoon when my 3 teenage sons were in the garden sunbathing and were listening to a chat show "moyles" on the radio when the neighbours daughter 50ish told my son"can you turn that thing off please I am trying to sunbath.
I came out of the house with snacks and said" who turned the radio off I was enjoying that" then son whispered "next door told us to turn it off "

I went to see her and said it is 3 o clock on a sunday evening and if my sons and I want to listen to music in my own garden then I will do as it is not loud.
I went on to tell her they could be out stealing cars like her own son instead of spending family time in their own home.

Just let the old bat moan away you are the one in the right here.