Neighbours hate children!

sp1987

What a sad, lonely old bat.

If I had one similar who complained about noisy kids I'd tell her hidden hearing have a sale on and she could easily get her geriatric tinnitus sorted out once and for all.

I'd probably go a little further and complain about smelling ''stale urine'' to my partner if they were in earshot and ''maybe it's those old people next door, they don't look like they are managing well, bless them''. Maybe speaking on the phone in the garden to a friend and saying ''oh that lady is at it again, haha yes, she certainly is, ohhhh, yes, she is that too. I hope I don't end up like that''. She'll go mad wondering what those missing words were.

People like her get their kicks from thinking you are annoyed. Isn't it about time one of your kids had a garden party for the whole of their class? Invite the whole street's kids.

My partner had someone across the road complaining about fictional out of his backside ''local bylaws'' that meant the entire street was ''private property'' and thus we could not park our car there when visiting my mother. When he came to my mother's house quoting his residents only bylaws (street isn't even private, lol), he was told if he had a problem with our explanation of the obvious, he could ring the council. He did so the day after owing to his blatant lack of anything else to do and also rang the police (god knows what the alleged offence was, visiting family without old busybody permission?). Needless to say nobody gave a hoot about his boring and incessant whinging. Though he did come back the day after to seemingly measure the size of my mother's front gate?!?

Some people are mental and you are best just matching their annoying drivel with thoughtful one liners of your own.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

elvis86 wrote: »

I have to say I really object to this. Rumours and hearsay about something like that are really not helpful, no matter how miserable a neighbour someone is. IMO, shame on you/your son for spreading such malicious gossip.

RE the OP's situation, she sounds like a thoroughly miserable old cow and I would take the advice that many have given and ignore her. What can she actually do? Intimidate you? Only if you allow her to.

One interesting point is that the OP comments on this neighbour's garden overlooking hers, yet meritaten's family was perplexed that their neighbour should object to their kids overlooking them when bouncing on their trampoline. It does kinda show that there are 2 sides to every story and all that...:cool:

i'm sure meritaten wouldnt of comented about his sons neighbour being on the sex offenders register if there wasnt an element of truth! shame on her/her son! dont think so somehow, if it was the other way round knew but didnt say anything then this guy turned then it would be shame on her for not spreading the word! YOU NVER KNOW WHO YOUR NEIGHBOUR REALLY IS! i'm sure meritaten and her son isnt spreading it around ive read some of meritatens post and i think in one she mentions her/his cat and that her son lives in an housing estate if the word was spread her son lives next door dont you think her son would be in the fireing line of a lynch squad living next door to a sex offender! i would keep an eye on him yes but not spread it to every tom !!!!!! and harry just incase they decided to burn his house down!

on the OP's situation personally i would keep a diary on what she does and comments on that you catch, in the event that she starts shouting at your children or you you'd have documented evidence to go to the police!
as for the comments she wants you to hear LAUGH at them so she hears you! and this summer invite as many people around that has kiddies of their own for a BBQ when the weathers nice! let your child run and play in the garden as much as she wants to, get as many loud toys as she can carry to play with outside, and if she stares at you through her elevated window when putting out your clothes to dry just smile and wave! if she looks harder get closer she may have sight problems!! hang some windchimes if she insists on haveing her windows open! perhaps theyll drown out her rants! dont walk on eggeshells! its your home let them live in their misery while you live in hapiness! dont think of moveing and let them know that you love it where you are and that you gunna live there for many many years to come discuss it in your garden with your hubby so she can hear the convorsation! something allong the lines of "i love it here its so friendly, (your child) is happy in school getting allong with other kids, we get allong with MOST of our neighbours, our house is beutifull and PERFECT (youngest child) is growing so quickly, i'm NVER GUNNA MOVE AWAY, im gunna settle here for the rest of our lives because everything is working out JUST FINE i have no worries about anything or ANYONE!"
and at the end have a convo about inviteing everyone round soon for a party! and all the kids can run round and PLAY in the garden! if she hears that and goes mad thats her problem not yours!

ailuro2

This is a very sad tale, however if you don't feel you can do all of the suggestions above then perhaps you should consider moving....

to not enjoy your home that you worked so hard on is no fun at all.

I'd put up a big fence first, if she had a rant I'd shout out to my DH saying 'the old !!!!!! is still at it, we really need to order those leylandii and that outside speaker system cos I can still hear her!!

The thought of something worse might shut her up...

Bufger

Situations like this can never be resolved. Some old people have nothing better to do than moan about something, they also dont care much about others feelings because they've been around for so long they're obviously more important than you!

What i would do (which is extremely childish but fun all the same) is buy my kids the loudest most annoying toys possible and then sit there and laugh when you hear them moan! Make it funny to you rather than upsetting you. Certainly dont let it have an impact on your kids, explain to them that its not their fault (by stopping them from playing in the garden you are punishing them for something they didnt do).

Whenever she's staring at you give her a big smile and a friendly wave, this is the most annoying thing you can do to an old nosey croney and it works a treat!

- Bufger
Annoying old people since 1984

Little_Otter

Neighbours eh! OP - do as the others have said - ignore, be happy and live your life!
I live at home with my mum, bro and sis, my little brother is 11 - he plays football in our garden or on the street (v quiet non through road) he touched our neighbours wheelie bin with his ball on the road and the grumpy old sod came out and took it off him! I was so annoyed! Fair enough if its hit his window/cars/plants etc - but his wheeelie bin! Grrr :mad:
Some people are just grumpy! We have lovely neighbours next door to my OH's house - she is really nice and friendly - but has 4 dogs - all of which bark constantly!! all day and very very early in the morning - but we dont complain as she is such a lovely woman.....

ceebeeby

Here-here to all those who say play in your own garden!

I would make up my own CD with lovely, uplifting songs on it, and everytime she starts mumping, pop on the CD player to drown her out. She'll soon get bored of not having an audience!

Mupette

She sounds very lonely.

When i was a kid, my parents had older neighbours and she would always complain about the noise we made.

Not that i or my parents made much noise as my mother was ill.


It's a shame you feel you can't befriend her.

maybe buy some cheap flowers next time you go shopping (buy 2 lots) and give her a bunch of flowers and tell her you have too many for your vase and would she like them. It might be that the ice needs to be broken.

She doesn't know you as a family, only from what she see's when she looks at you from her window.

skypie123_2

I think if it was me I would be smiling and waving at the old witch every time I saw her - waving two fingers!
I have had nightmare neighbours before and it was a living hell. You sound like anything but! Your neighbour should be counting her blessings at having you next door.
One thing i've learned is you can please some people some of the time but you can't please all of the people all of the time and some people you can't please ANY of the time!
Get on with enjoying your life honey. If it was me a couple of well placed leillandi's would take care of the nosy old witch.

donquine

hollykate wrote: »

They have told everyone how they hate and can't stand children. [..] My oldest goes out into the garden sometimes, when she does the neighbour comes out slams and i mean slams the back door and is heard ranting inside. [..] My children are quite well behaved my oldest gets a bit excited sometimes but is not naughty or anything.

When you say excited, do you mean loud? I ask because normal behaviour for children can involve being very noisy. Fine if you like children, difficult to put up with if you don't.

Would it be possible to try to talk to the neighbours again and say that you've fixed playtime for your children so they will only ever play in the garden from X o'clock to Y o'clock? If your neighbours know they can sit outside in their garden after Y o'clock, with it still being nice and light outside and enjoy perfect silence, they might feel a little less stressed about the garden issue?

At present, you feel uncomfortable each time you let your children play outside and your neighbours hate it because they go inside their house - maybe if there was a set schedule, it might calm tempers a little?

It's difficult, because you're entitled to use and enjoy your garden and similarly, your neighbours should be able to enjoy theirs. It's just a shame you all have such different attitudes!

Indie_Kid

atrixblue.-MFR-. wrote: »

i'm sure meritaten wouldnt of comented about his sons neighbour being on the sex offenders register if there wasnt an element of truth!

Because of course, everyone always has their facts 100% straight, don't they?