Neighbours hate children!

POPPYOSCAR

By the way have you spoken to the other neighbours about this? What do they say?

deedee71

I would get your OH to go round and complain to her about HER noise.

A few veiled threats about ASBO's against banging on the walls and ranting in front of your children, may take the wind out of her sails.

the_cat

Think VERY carefully before getting the authorities (council) involved.

If it becomes 'official' you will have to disclose that there have been problems with the neighbours if you do at some time decide to sell your house, which would potentially put people off and leave you stuck there next to her!

hollykate

thanks for all your replies. for the poster who asked about other neighbours - no one speaks to them - only two out of the row - and them they quickly go inside their house. When my neighbours go on hols - they all come out gardening or having bbq's - it would be funny if it was so serious.We get on well with all the neighbours - they love my children and enjoy hearing the baby play.
to the poster who said that i am the issue - my baby wasn't screaming or crying but laughing excitedly. My neighbour was ranting like a lunatic - at one point she was even screaming. We did try to get on when we moved in - but i have never liked her - some of the things she used to say about her own family were horrible - but i am polite and would say hi and chat. But after the slamming doors and screaming i find it impossible to even contemplate being nice to them . I just ignore them and go on my way. ( but i have never said anything to them when the dog barks, or they are mowing the grass at 7.30am or 8.30pm, having bbqs and getting drunk inthe afternoon on the weekends)
I have always had nice neighbours - we lived in a terrace before and each side were older and we all got on great, we only moved because this was suppose to be a nicer area - so i am finding this really difficult.
Don't know about the council - as they have also bought their house.
I just want my family to be happy - we going to put the house up for sale - we just want a nice life.

Zazen999

Have you thought of shouting 'shut the F up you idiot' back at her when she is ranting?

hollykate

Yes i thought about it many a time - but unfortunately i am too much of a decent person to stoop down to her level!

aliasojo

hollykate wrote: »

I just want my family to be happy - we going to put the house up for sale - we just want a nice life.

I feel so sorry for you, you sound so down. I hope you feel more settled soon, whether it's in that house or a new one.

hollykate

i have never felt so down before - i keep telling the kids to be quiet - even when they aren't making any noise, I just asked my DD to walk quietly up stairs - and she replied - why? Is somebody in bed? I know its ridiculous. Didn't even stay in house after OH went to work this afternoon - gave children food and then went and stayed in the park. Both are in bed now.
The other neighbours (who are older) all have their grandchildren over very regularly - and they are playing outside and she doesn't say anything to them.
My DD is having her first friend over for tea tomorrow and is so excited - but i am worried if they want to go in the garden that the neighbour will start again.

Zazen999

You are just pandering to her! You need to make as much noise as you want [give her something to moan about].

If she moaned that she could hear you breathing, would you stop? No - you wouldn't.

Telling her to shut up isn't lowering yourself to her level, it's sticking up for yourself.

SUESMITH_2

personally i would just carry on making the normal amount of noise - tbh i think im braver than you cos i would tell her to go forth and multiply. i would also put my lovely powerful hifi near the shared wall and just play my death metal a little louder than normal.

let your husband go round and speak to them