Neighbours hate children!

SUESMITH_2

makes me very glad that we have lovely neighbours, they make noise, we make noise - thats life.

bank_of_slate

hollykate wrote: »

BBQ and tea are a no go!!!!
Her OH has never spoken to me ever! They don't speak or acknowledge us when we see them outsied the house - we just hear the comments or "ranting" - she opens her window so we can hear her.
I have try looking at her when she is in the window - but she just glares even more!

I'd be making two fingered salutes by this stage, how dare the cacky fingered old witch make you uncomfortable in your own home!
...Linda xx

hayley11

OP feel so bad for you Must be a horrible situation.

You can't let her get away with this, for your own sanity and also because your kids might grow up thinking it's acceptable for people to bully others. (not suggesting for a second your children will become bullies btw!) You have to be strong, even though it's hard.

She is a silly old bat, please, please don't let her make you miserable like this.

Stand up to her, report her to the police, to the council, just do something so she knows she can't carry on. You seem like such a nice person and it's awful that this horrid woman is making you miserable in your own home.

hollykate

thanks for all the posters who offered supportive comments. i won't play loud musci though -as i like peace and quiet too!
For the poster who said...
Couldnt agree more, parents seem totally immune to the volume of racket their children can make. And comment as seem in this thread, "theya re only playing" as if that mitigates the noise issue, I am considerate and dont blast my tunes or do diy after a set time, but it is deemed totally acceptable that my neighbours toddler can scream night and day and I have to tolerate it, or listen to the thing run up and down the garden screaming like a demented banshee.

Firstly - my daughter sleeps all night from 6 - 7. My oldest goes to bed at 6.30 and gets up at 7. the oldest is in school from 9 - 3.15,. My oh works full time, i work part time. I go to my parents all day on the weekend.
As the majority of the time my chidlren are only in the house from 3.30 - 6. I don't think that i am wrong in letting the baby play in the garden for 20mins. (about 1 a week). My neighbour also slams doors if i mow the garden - even though they mow their garden every week. Their dog barks a lot - but the above poster seems to think that this is ok. But a baby laughing (not crying), but playing happily is a lot of noise. What am i suppose to do? Gag the baby, keep her indoors until she is 10? Never go in my garden (Which we rarely do anyway). I think that soem people forget that they were once young children also. Sorry for the rant, only this has really got to me. And if you can't stand children as my neighbour says - why did she move into the middle of a very large ex council estate?

Anyway we have decide to move, not only because of the neighbours , but to be closer to family, and to be much financially much bette off. Wish me luck in selling our house. I hope the next occupants have a better time living here than we did.

hayley11

I agree with you 100% that you shouldn't have to keep your children indoors, you bought the house, which included the garden and you're clearly not an asbo family so why shouldn't you use it?

Good luck with the move, I hope you get nice neighbours next time around.

I do maybe think you should still report her to the council though or go round, it might take months and she will only get worse. And the "for sale" might spur her on even more!

[Deleted User]

Personally I agree that this woman has to be stopped. She probably does have mental health problems.., and the only way to deal with that is by official means, not by confronting her. Whatever her past, she has absolutely no right to disturb your enjoyment of your normal daily activities and your children, who u say do not play with a great deal of volume (unlike mine lol, my son just screams when he's tickled lol). Video her antics and what u are doing and report her to the police. It may sound harsh but this does have to stop.

hollykate

i'm bracing myself for her this week as we have some diy to do on a porch room at the side of the house (opposite end to hers), as this is the only thing that lets our house down. We started doing it up but run out of funds. now we have the money to do it - dry line walls and put up ceilings. I feel i can handle her better now - knowing that we will be leaving soon (hopefully)

tabskitten

Don' t listen to your hubby- don't ignore her, do the opposite, be as friendly as possible and everytime she gives you a bad look or comment SMILE, and be even nicer!!
Go out of your way to make excuses to knock on the door, taking the children with you with little gifts of cupcakes that they have made for their favorite neighbor- and have fun with knowing that the nicer you are the more she will probably HATE you- give her just what she doesn't want- an over friendly neighbor with skin as thick as her head must be!!

scottishchick27

I'm so angry for you OP. :mad::mad:
Why don't you let your kids out to play and as soon as she starts her ranting take out a tape recorder and record what she is saying? Make a big show of doing it so she can see it and it may make her shut up.
I know what it's like to have a misery living next door. Our neighbour who's in her 80's also hates kids but I know it's not a new thing. My dad used to live on this street 40 years ago and she was a cow even then, she used to report them to the police for playing football in the street even though her own son was one of the team :cool:. My granny who died recently, had alzeihmers and didn't know who her family was but every time I visited her she'd asked me who I was and where I lived, when I told her she'd say "oh no your neighbour X is a vile woman" :rotfl::rotfl: even my batty granny knew what she was like.

the_cat

No,no,no!
Please don't listen to the people telling you to report her! Not if you want to move. You will have to declare the problem to prospective buyers and that will put an end to the sale for sure! I agree that in an ideal world she should be stopped but that would hurt the OP as much as the neighbour in this instance

If it were me, I would not have a for sale board and would keep it quiet that I had the house on the market. The venemous old bag would probably love the chance to act up when she spots people coming round to view and I would want to limit that possibility.

Good luck with the move