Do I do too much??

AnnaLicious_2

I also agree, 50/50 is the best way. As I can only go by what you've written, I'm making lots of assumptions here. To me, I think you may have some resentment over money issues. No idea if I'm right, just making an observation about things you've written. You mentioned the difference in incomes, and that her income pays her personal debts. Could that be simmering away in the background, and making you angry that she's not doing more around the house? Just a thought, and I could be dead wrong.
With the vacuuming - you said she says she'll get to it. I think this may be a situation of standards. My ex-in-laws used to have this argument. My ex-mil was bedridden for a few months. She would get so upset that the house was dirty. But my ex-fil honestly couldn't understand it, to him the house was fine. He thought he was doing a great job of keeping it tidy and looking after her.
You need to have a good long talk with her, not us. Tell her that you're tired, you need sleep, you need to feel appreciated, and you're not happy with how things are split in the house. Maybe have a household rota? My partner and I split things - I never take out the bin, so if it's full it's his job to sort it. Then there's no arguments over the bin.
I wonder if you had these problems before your baby was born? A lot of men get pushed aside in relationships. Maybe you feel like you're just there to pay the bills and do the housework? Maybe she's struggling with being at work all day away from the baby, maybe she's upset you're working weekends and misses you and family time? Just thoughts, as I don't know you. But a good long open and non-argumentative talk will help. You're obviously upset and hurting, and I think there's a lot more here than just the household duty split.

lincsdan86

thorsoak wrote: »

Alongside the fact that he earns more, and pays the bills, it was the OP who made this point.

again factual things??

I may be annoyed and aggrevated with the misses but that does not mean i love her any less than i did before i posted this thread, just a little venting. we all like a little moan to our "friends", strangers everynow and then, it helps put things in perspective (sP?)

AnnaLicious_2

lincsdan86 wrote: »

it helps put things in perspective (sP?)

I think it does. It looks to me from what you've written you're looking at other issues, and thinking it all through. Vent away!