When is the best month to have a baby?

brians_daughter

All depends on circumstance! In our house end of year is good for us, for many reasons - but mainly for bonding...see below

In our house my oh cant have holidays from March to May (written into his contract ) - ds1 was born beginning of April, and oh felt he couldnt take much time off, as its frowned upon. DS2 is a NY day baby and ds3 is a christmas day baby! ( i will try anything to get out of going MIL's for xmas lunch :rotfl::rotfl:)

End of the calendar year works well for us as we can save holidays from that year and I have had 3 weeks off prior to starting my mat leave, then when i go back i have 5 weeks hols to extend my mat leave.

It also meant that my oh could save his holidays and have time off in December to be with me and the kids prior to baby being born, and could have a week or so off in Jan and then he splits his holidays so he does a 3 day week for a few weeks, then a 4 day week for a few weeks then back to 5 days - whilst still ensuring he has holidays left for the rest of the year!

Academically Sept- Dec is thought the lo will do better initially as they are older, however I was the youngest in my school year (born 31st August lol) and always excelled so there are exceptions, but this is the general rule

I have enjoyed all my pregnancies as i have never been heavily pregnant in the summer heat (when we do get some!) TBH all we have worried about is
1. Getting pregnant
2. Baby and me being healthy
3. And far down the list, but still important...My oh can take take time off to be with his family after abby is born, we learnt the hard way with DS1. I felt overwhelmed as a 1st time mum whilst oh had to go to work at his busiest period, sometimes out 7 am-8pm.

All in all i would say dont worry about when you fall pregnant... just practice trying and see what happens! Good luck!

LJM

for me anytime of year my 2 girls were march and december babies i never had a proble carrying through summer or winter, the only thing i will say is i wish they were born a little closer together not age wise as our 3 year gap was perfect but month wise,i was just happy to be pregnant regardless of the time of year

pinkclouds

Wonder_Girl wrote: »

What I would like to know is when is the best time of year to have a baby?

I have spring and summer babies. I am quite thankful I avoided the winter months, after being snowed in at the start of this year. If you live any distance from your chosen/nearest hospital then there would be a slight worry that it might be difficult to travel there during winter. From the babies' point of view, they don't really care. They spend the first few months mostly asleep so it's not like they notice the weather!

As for people thinking about school, I believe the cut off dates are the start of March for Scotland and the start of September for England so it depends on where you think you'll live.

missmontana

I conceived my son in Feb, he was born in October so I had to carry him thru the very hot summer of 2002! (my mums always said it was payback for her having to carry me in '76!) Its not much fun, spent alot of time sat on the sofa in my undies cos I used to get so hot!
As a result, he had to wait a bit longer to start at school as he is one of the oldest but is in top sets of all his groups.

I am a Christmassy baby, which has never been much fun, so wait another month or so and then you should miss all that! plus you will be pregnant during the cold months so baby will keep you warm and in the spirit of MSE you can save on heating bills! And also with all that extra washing, you'll be better of having baby when it gets warmer and you can hang it all outside rather than having to dry indoors or in the tumble dryer... lol x

galvanizersbaby

missmontana wrote: »

I conceived my son in Feb, he was born in October so I had to carry him thru the very hot summer of 2002! (my mums always said it was payback for her having to carry me in '76!) Its not much fun, spent alot of time sat on the sofa in my undies cos I used to get so hot!
As a result, he had to wait a bit longer to start at school as he is one of the oldest but is in top sets of all his groups.

I am a Christmassy baby, which has never been much fun, so wait another month or so and then you should miss all that! plus you will be pregnant during the cold months so baby will keep you warm and in the spirit of MSE you can save on heating bills! And also with all that extra washing, you'll be better of having baby when it gets warmer and you can hang it all outside rather than having to dry indoors or in the tumble dryer... lol x

:rotfl:I was pg at the same time with DS - (he was born 2nd October 2002) - I don't recall it being a particularly hot summer that year though - perhaps there was still enough of a sea breeze down here to cool things down.:o

DD was born in March 2004 and I think this was a nice time of the year (though things were so hectic at that point with 2 close in age I can't remember very much!)

To be honest I wouldn't get too hung up over it - personally I didn't enjoy being pregnant any time of the year but the end result was worth it

samandona

You should speak to some of the woman on the Trying To Concieve thread. They would be happy for a baby in any month of the year.....

bestpud

My three are November, May and October.

Personally, I think May is great because you have the summer to take them out and about and the 'new baby' washing is easier when you can get it dry and they are wearing less anyway. Breast feeding is also more pleasant when it is warm and you have less layers to navigate.

Also, it is only just starting to warm up when you are heavily pregnant so you don't have to cope with the summer heat.

Potty training is also easier in the summer and you'd generally start that when they are around two.

Later on, they will be one of the younger children at school but that has never held dd back - in fact she is probably the most academic of my three.

Parties tend to be easier to arrange as you can have outdoor ones if you are lucky.

There is a nice gap between their birthday and Christmas so you don't have to think of toys/clothes that need to see the year out - they can have summer toys/clothes for their birthday and winter ones for Christmas.

You know what they say about the best laid plans though, so just relax and see what happens.

LEJC

I always said I never wanted a January baby as both husband and I have January birthdays 11 days apart.....

guess that went out the window a bit when our son was born at the beginning of January!

On a practical note if ever there is one..its easier if your child is born after 1st sept for the school year,as those born in July may not be included in a particular school year intake.

Britwife

I don't think there is a better month, you could be due in one month but baby decide to come the month before or even after. If you are ready to ttc then you just go for it!

If you do end up with a Christmas baby, you just plan to get things done before hand and let family help out if you have dinner at home. My 17 month old was only 4 weeks old at Christmas and I found it to be a great time, just a bit tired.

My other children were born in July. I think every month is a good month!

dizziblonde

samandona wrote: »

You should speak to some of the woman on the Trying To Concieve thread. They would be happy for a baby in any month of the year.....

I'm one of these. I originally dreamed (at a very similar age to the OP) I'd get up-duffed in time for an October baby (thought September was always pushing the possibility of being an August birthday and being the youngest in the year at school)... three years later and I'd welcome anything with the requisite number of arms and legs I guess... although considering I own a three-legged cat, legs appear to be somewhat optional in this house!

The thing I've learnt (and I'm not actually bitter typing this despite how it might sound - makes a change as I'm generally eaten up by infertility lol) - is that life will pan out however it's intended to pan out - you can plan all you like - but our three bedroom house with just the two of us in it shows just how those plans don't always go the way you intend them. You either have a one month bonk fest and then wait twelve months... or you go with what comes your way - right now personally I wish life would chuck us a lucky break but meh whatever.

I'm an early summer birthday - well, slap-bang in the middle of the year really, arrived bang on payday (how's that for planning on my part!)... means my birthday never gets clogged up with Xmas or whatever but I am toward the younger end in an academic year which I struggled socially with while at primary school.