60th Birthday, present & party ideas (merged)

margaretclare

susank wrote:

I agree with a spa/massage or girly day would be nice - maybe her and a close friend to share the day. Vouchers for that would be a real treat.

Yes, that's a fantastic idea. Focus on herself for a change, luxury, pampering, never mind the DILs who hate one another and the demanding kids!

We've been invited to a get-together with friends next July - at Niagara Falls! So that's something to look forward to, save for and plan for. There's always something to look forward to, every day is a bonus, we always count our blessings.

Margaret

margaretclare

Hi Cat

When I look back to when I was 60, life was not great. I'd been widowed in 1992 at 57 coincidental with redundancy from a senior job in the NHS. I had a mortgage, and for those few years life was a struggle just doing any kind of job to keep the roof over my head. But life changed completely when I was 62. That was when I met my (now) DH....I never thought I would ever meet a man who was attracted to me, I'd been out for a drink with various men who just wanted a replacement cook/housekeeper, not my idea at all! Meeting DH was different, I just fell in love with him, just like a daft teenager, he moved in with me when we were both 62, nearly 9 years ago, the rest is history.

DH and I were talking the other night about the people who wanted cosmetic surgery. They were focused on their appearance the whole time, and I wondered - is this because they're alone, or did some of the marriages fail because they just thought about their appearance all the time? I asked DH straight out. He was a good-looking young guy, tall, athletic, curly black hair and dark eyes - I've never been noted for good looks, and whatever I had of good looks isn't there any more. I used to have a tiny waist and a 34C bra size, I had an English rose complexion and blonde hair. Bra size is now 42DD, dress size 20 and I'm not quite 5 ft. The complexion has suffered and I'm losing my hair, so I'm vain enough to wear little bandannas, the kind they sell for cancer sufferers on chemo. DH said he never looked at my appearance, and he certainly wasn't interested in my housekeeping abilities (we joke about the fact that I never dust) - what he wanted was friendship, kindness, warmth, sympathy and intelligent conversation. That was when he said 'I found what I was looking for'.

So you see, 62 is not too late to fall in love, and not all men are looking for a dolly-bird as a trophy or a 'nurse with a purse' as a friend in the USA puts it. And some men can look deeper than 'skin deep'.

Margaret

Kinnairdy

No 1 - A Birthday Card that reads - 29 & Holding!
No 2 - A Coach/Train Day ticket to roam the countryside (you can cover a lot of ground in 12 hours).
No 3 - Arrange to meet somewhere for supper afterwards.
No 4 - A visit to a Stately Home/Zoo (60 is NOT too old to go to the Zoo)
No 5 - A day trip to Calais via Hovercraft/Chunnel
No 6 - A day return flight to anywhere you think she would like
If all else fails try this -
No 7 - A Fishing Rod/some flies & a day ticket for the local river/fishery (My personal favourite).
All good wishes to her on her birthday. Hope she get's over feeling old, it's only a number after all, she will not suddenly develop grey hair and sprout facial hair but she can choose to grow older disgracefully.:D

Sazbo

margaretclare wrote:

So you see, 62 is not too late to fall in love, and not all men are looking for a dolly-bird as a trophy or a 'nurse with a purse' as a friend in the USA puts it. And some men can look deeper than 'skin deep'.

Margaret

Thanks Margaret, that's good to know...

sparklymessygirl

Kinnairdy wrote:

she will not suddenly develop grey hair and sprout facial hair but she can choose to grow older disgracefully.:D

Ooooh - I think I must be advanced for my age:o

Sparkly

pdoff

my mum will be 60 in september & she doesn't want a big do cos of problema with my brother. i can't afford to take her to london so instead i got tickets for west side story at york & will book a hotel for sat night so we can have sat & sun in york. will de her (&me!!) good to get away for a night.
my gran was 90 last week & my aunty got her a cushion that said - i'm not 90, i'm 18 with 72 years experience. nice words but awful cushion - from internet & words just written in gold pen & the ribbon that holds it on the nail or whatever isn't even in the centre! dread to think what she paid, am sure you could make something like that much cheaper!
whatever you do i hope she has a great birthday.
& on the subject of falling in love when u have more experience my other auntie was married over 60 after a previous marriage to someone who turned out to be a rapist! she is happier now than she's ever been. never give up!

Nytehawk

My wife turned 60 in January, she is 9 years older than me and when we married 16 years ago you can imagine the family digs about toyboys etc etc. So the age difference while it makes no difference to how much we love each other allows for quite a lot of cultural differences. She enjoys theatre and I prefer rock concerts, I love Chinese food and hate Indian food and she dislikes Chinese food but loves Indian dishes to bits, so some of our differences are pretty coloured and varied.
Anyway I struggled for months to give the love of my life something that SHE would enjoy whether it suited me or not. I booked an overnight stay in a Hotel in Nottingham (she enjoys shopping) combined with a visit to the local theatre to see Lord of the Dance (not my sort of thing or so I thought), we then went to a glamourous Asian restaurant and enjoyed a good meal before we returned to the hotel for that 60th Birthday Champagne. Some 8 months on she is still telling people of the lovely surprise her OH prepared for her 6oth Birthday.
I think it's too easy to go out and buy perfume/ underware/chocolates etc, its the element of surprise that seemed to be the thing she appreciated most. The fact that everything was planned. I had to work for the morning prior to taking her away so I was to leave the tickets besides her cards, the phone call I got whilst at work spoke volumes to me. IT'S NOT WHAT YOU DO BUT THE WAY THAT YOU DO IT THAT COUNTS :kisses3: :kisses3:

LizD_2

It's my mum's 60th on Monday and i can't think what to get her. I've got a limited budget of £30, and i need to get something tomorrow. She's not into jewellery or clothes. She likes gardening and reading, but I'd like to get her something special. Any thoughts?

looneyleo

Oh Gosh.. Last minute and I'm not very good at that...have you tried ebay? Put in 60th Mum and see what comes up for ideas. I got my dad some lovely 60th birthday cufflink from his year of birth. how about some spring bulbs that will come up every year??? Or just a very extravagant plant? Good luck...as always...it's the thought that counts and she will love anything you buy her!

moo_moo

What about...

a hanging bird table
garden fairy or any other garden ornement (sorry spelling)
wind chimes
I know you havent got much time but when my hubby was 30 i got a scrap book and covered it in red paper and filled it with photos from when he was a baby to just before his birthday. I presented it to them saying 'This is your life...........So Far!
i will have a think and post more thoughts if i get them!