How to come to terms with a termination.

dmg24

GemJar, the Samaritans are available to listen. Their number is 08457 90 90 90.

heretolearn_2

Hi Gemjar

There is lots of help out there, you've been given some numbers, but if you want to post on here then I'm sure people will also help as much as they can.

sorry you are in a hard place right now.

Torry_Quine

GemJar wrote: »

I know this is an old thread but I need some help and someone to talk to, if anyone out there can help me, i'd really appreciate it.

Will send you a PM

cleomolly

I haven't even finished reading this thread yet and will be sure to pm Ravenlady to offer my support and advice but wanted to comment on how rude, insensitive, un appropriate your comments on this thread are pigpen. I find your comments very upsetting and would ask that you consider deleting them to save others from reading such insensitive words and feeling as upset as I have over what you have wrote!!!!!

Kimberley82

I am sorry you are finding it so hard. Professional help is probably your best bet.

kathy206

Ravenlady, hello.
Sorry you are feeling so wretched regarding the termination. I would echo what other posters have said, that it was the right decision you made at the time, seeing as your OH hasn't been supportive making him choose between him or the pregnancy. When you are feeling better I would seriously consider whether he is the man you want to be with, he seems to have no regard for how you feel or what you want at all.

I discovered I was pregnant as a student nurse, aged 20. Boyfriend was a complete tool, stealing from me, friends and family and displaying classic signs of being controlling. So I binned him and terminated the pregnancy. Even now, 18 years on, happily married with children to my husband, I still think about it.-the "what ifs" etc however I know that having that baby would have tied me to that idiot forever-and my life would have been a lot different than it is now and not for the better.
Your grief I think is more than the pregnancy itself and the termination. I think you would definitely benefit from counselling from Marie Stopes -experts who are objective and understanding in this area.
I truly hope you find some comfort and support. Please PM if you want to offload

Gemjar if you need to chat you are welcome to PM me

Plans_all_plans

Hi GemJar, there is a charity called LIFE who offer post abortion counselling over the phone and face to face if you want to try them.

I've not used the post-abortion service myself, so I can't tell you what they're like in this respect (but I did speak to someone there when I found myself unexpectedly pregnant and unsure of what to do, which I found helpful)

Here's a link if you want to try them http://www.lifecharity.org.uk/after-abortion

My thoughts are with you.

sueeve

It will soften in time, but may return unexpectedly even years later. But you will cope. You can only take decisions based on what you think right at the time.

pozalina

I have PMd you.

themull1

I had a termination four years ago, it gets easier, but you never forget.