MSE Parents Club Part 12

aless02

fattybooboo wrote: »

Hi Aless - I am exactly the same about leaving T. I dont mind leaving him, say with family or DH or whatever, but I think I feel like sometimes only I can settle him. I think this stems from me breastfeeding him crossed with him not liking taking the bottle, but it is ridiculous as eventually I need to tackle this!! I always assume T is gonna start crying and get really upset when Im not there, when in reality, the odd times I have left him for short periods he has been fine, lol!! Maybe its my sub-conscious not wanting to leave him!!

Well it's probably myself having dug my own grave here for not having left him for more than a very short period of time except once and the one time I did (with DH) it was pretty horrible. So I guess I'm too scared to do it again.

Plus the only person I could possibly leave him with other than DH is MIL and to be honest I don't really trust her for more than an hour at a time (she's fine and all but seriously doubt she could cope if meltdown happened).

Glamazon

Krystaltips wrote: »

Could you not take him upstairs and lie on the bed a while in the quiet and dark to calm him down?

And your OH is the polar opposite to mine... Mine would be good for roasting with his thick layer of fat

Yeah I just took him up and he fell asleep on our bed so he's now in the cot. Can't leave him on our bed because he tries to lunge off it now.
I'm so tired of him not sleeping - literally and mentally. I'm even thinking I can't wait to go back to work so I don't have to fight him to nap during the day

money_maker wrote: »

Evening all
Hope everyone is well and you all enjoyed setting up our MSE cabinet ... although I am not sure I want to be in charge of the banks !!!

Well Jasmine was at the docs this morning and she has been diagnosed with abdominal migraines and has been prescribed Zantac for a month and has to cut yeast out of her diet

Aw poor Jas.

Kindof - hun, it will get easier. Don't feel bad for wanting some time away from E, I wish we had family closer that could have J for a bit.
Whenever you feel like you need a rant just come on here, we are here to listen.

fattybooboo

Thanks Krystal, I hope so Can someone give me a poke as I need to wrap my pressies for SIL's baby shower tomorrow but as it involves getting off my arris, it is not happening!!

Ooh that reminds me, I am leaving T with DH whilst I go to the baby shower so am slightly worrying about this, although obvs nothing to do with DH, just me and my obsession that he will need me whilst I am gone, lol!!

tarajayne

Thank-you MFD! :A:A:A

Sometimes I find this grown up world a bit tricky! Getting on with people's sooooo hard!!!

fattybooboo

Glam - Sorry to hear you are still struggling with J's sleeping. How are the nighttimes going now? With regards to naptimes, I am having the same with T. Unless I walk down town with the pram, then I really struggle to get him to drop off at home. Sometimes if I am lucky he will using the swing seat, but sometimes he just doesnt wanna go!! Plus it wont be long before hes too big for the swing seat and then what!! Plus I think I keep getting hunger and tiredness mixed up, as there have been times I have been sure he is ready for lunch or dinner and he totally creates when I try to put him in his highchair, so I think he was just tired after all. Will this all become clear one day!?!

Glamazon

Anyone (AF?) know where you can get those wedges so baby thinks they are in your arms?

J will fall asleep on his side lying on my arm but I'm fed up of spending 30mins trying to get him off every night and for naps. When I go back to work I'll be too tired to do it and will probably nod off instead of doing what needs doing before the next day!

ETA - Boo, nightimes are no better. He ends up in with me generally around 3am - he's just wide awake and refuses to settle. It was easier when he was newborn!

workinmummy

Kind of - Big hugs. Went through all that with Alex, but not for that many hours, though most evenings and nights were spent with him screaming and crying. Well done on being asertive at the docs and insisting on something being done. I can only echo, that it does get better, really.

My_Fathers_Daughter

No probs Tara - anytime you want me to ramble at you give me a shout

Glamazon wrote: »

Yeah I just took him up and he fell asleep on our bed so he's now in the cot. Can't leave him on our bed because he tries to lunge off it now.
I'm so tired of him not sleeping - literally and mentally. I'm even thinking I can't wait to go back to work so I don't have to fight him to nap during the day

I know this is not the advice you probably want but the minute I stopped worrying about Benjamin napping during the day (ie - just leaving him to it and waiting until he was really shattered or in his buggy or the car or whatever) that things fell into place. Fighting to get him to sleep has never worked...just made me into an emotional wreck.



aless - by most people's standards I leave Benjamin quite a lot, and have done since he was 6 weeks old. But there is no way at Finns age I would leave him with anyone that I didn't know and most importantly, who Benjamin didn't know. I have booked him into a creche for a while when we go away at the end of May and I am already worrying about it!!

tarajayne

Glam, it was only a month or so ago that I was still getting Maddy to sleep in my arms. I made up my mind one night to let her cry and OMG, she went on for 90mins. I ended up sitting on the floor next to her cot with my hand through the bars. The next night though it was only 10mins, then 2mins. Now she goes down awake but occasionally cries a little. If she's not tired I can tell within about 5mins by her cry and I would get her back out for an hour, but when she goes back she still goes straight off. But I have to admit the 1st go was awful.

got-it-spend-it

kindofagilr wrote: »

Sorry I havent posted lately, Im having a rough time

E has been screaming since 6pm and even though he is shattered will only fall asleep in our arms but then wakes 5 mins later screaming again

Its getting too much

He is staying at MILs tomorrow, and it saddens me that all I have enjoyed this week is looking forward to him going there, and it hurts me cos it shouldne be like that, I should be enjoying my child, but its hard when he screams for about 7 hours a day

Dr was useless today, just said it was colic and he'll grow out of it, we pushed and pushed though so are getting an appointment with the baby doctor

OH has just taken a screaming E out for a walk, lets hope he falls asleep, he is shattered

Bye

Hugs Kindof. Nothing very useful to say except that unfortunately there is no definitive cure for colic, but as E gets older things will improve. As he heads towards three months things should start to settle down. I'm really glad that you have family who can give you a break now and again as it does keep you sane. Things do get easier, and you will start enjoying your baby more.

fattybooboo wrote: »

When I went to give T his dinner tonight he didnt want it. Not sure if I timed it wrong or whether he wasnt keen on my veg and lentil hot pot, doh!! Anyway, eventually I ended up giving him a BF as he was getting all het up. Ooh before he got het up though I gave him a piece of pear to hold but he wouldnt hold it so I put it to his mouth and he sucked on it, cute!! Not sure if he thought milk was gonna come out of it, lol!!

So anyway, in my head it means he has missed dinner tonight. Plus I am not sure if I would have enough milk to satisfy him for dinner and last feed as he has been having food for dinner for a good few weeks now so I figured my supply would have reduced. He took quite a lot of milk before going to bed, but I guess I am thinking he is bound to wake up more due to no food tonight!! Hope not!!

H was like this so I gave him a shortish BF then fed him some of his food on my lap and he did take some. I think if he gets too hungry he just needs the comfort of milk. Henry is doing well with finger foods now and it is so cute to watch!

Off to bed now.

Aless-I have still only left H with OH or my MIL (and only with MIL for about 3 hours). I am the same as you worrying that other people wouldn't cope if he had a meltdown, but we're leaving him overnight with MIL in a month, and I think I'm going to ask my Mum to have him for a few hours soon so that he gets used to being with other people. I would be very reluctant to leave him with people he doesn't know though.