MSE Parents Club Part 12

Glamazon

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

No probs Tara - anytime you want me to ramble at you give me a shout



I know this is not the advice you probably want but the minute I stopped worrying about Benjamin napping during the day (ie - just leaving him to it and waiting until he was really shattered or in his buggy or the car or whatever) that things fell into place. Fighting to get him to sleep has never worked...just made me into an emotional wreck.



aless - by most people's standards I leave Benjamin quite a lot, and have done since he was 6 weeks old. But there is no way at Finns age I would leave him with anyone that I didn't know and most importantly, who Benjamin didn't know. I have booked him into a creche for a while when we go away at the end of May and I am already worrying about it!!

Today he was shattered, MIL took him off for a walk in the pushchair and he just screamed and screamed. I tend to wait until he starts rubbing his eyes and then try to get him off - maybe I'll just leave him tomorow and see how it goes.
I'll probably be up in the night anyway! :cool:

tarajayne wrote: »

Glam, it was only a month or so ago that I was still getting Maddy to sleep in my arms. I made up my mind one night to let her cry and OMG, she went on for 90mins. I ended up sitting on the floor next to her cot with my hand through the bars. The next night though it was only 10mins, then 2mins. Now she goes down awake but occasionally cries a little. If she's not tired I can tell within about 5mins by her cry and I would get her back out for an hour, but when she goes back she still goes straight off. But I have to admit the 1st go was awful.

90mins :eek: I'll run that one past OH and see what he thinks - we have tried to leave him cry but sometimes he cries so hard we can't leave him :(

fattybooboo

Aww cute GISI, what sort of finger foods have you been doing? Like carrot sticks and broccoli? I think T is ready to start more of this but I need to get my A into G and get some bits ready. The lazy mum in me is looking forward to when he can have the ricecakes I have bought as I think that would be easier for him to hold, as carrots seem to slip about and out of his little hand!! Nite nite GISI.

workinmummy

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I know this is not the advice you probably want but the minute I stopped worrying about Benjamin napping during the day (ie - just leaving him to it and waiting until he was really shattered or in his buggy or the car or whatever) that things fell into place. Fighting to get him to sleep has never worked...just made me into an emotional wreck.

I agree with MFD. Alex had rarely slept in the day. So i stopped trying to make him. I don't at the weekend, if he falls asleep in pram, car etc, so be it, but i don't make him. Not much help to my childminder, who had been used to little ones that have big naps, but even she just leaves him to it now.

Alex also always used to go sleep in my arms around 8.30 - 9pm. I realised that this was far too late for him. I now put him down at 7pm, in his cot awake, seahorse on. I sometimes have to go up and put dummy back in, but sometimes, like tonight he is asleep before the seahorse goes off. He still wakes during the night for feeds, some nights are better than others, but still only one sleep through in 8 months. And i an extremly jealous of SIL, whose 11 week old sleeps all night.

I really feel for you I do. Going back to work may be the making of you and Jack. Alex was ill for about 6 weeks non stop when i returned to work. But after that, things fell into place. And his big smiles when i pick him up and the one first thing in the morning, when i get him out of his cot are the best times of my day. (And when he goes to sleep, is also ocassionally the best time, when its been a bad day )

My_Fathers_Daughter

Glamazon wrote: »

Today he was shattered, MIL took him off for a walk in the pushchair and he just screamed and screamed. I tend to wait until he starts rubbing his eyes and then try to get him off - maybe I'll just leave him tomorow and see how it goes.
I'll probably be up in the night anyway! :cool:



90mins :eek: I'll run that one past OH and see what he thinks - we have tried to leave him cry but sometimes he cries so hard we can't leave him :(

If he is shattered and in the buggy and screaming and screaming are you sure it wasn't wind or something? I still sometimes have problems with Benjamin if he has trapped wind.

I can't recommend singing as you leave / whilst outside their door enough. My life is 100% changed since I started doing this. We have gone from on average an hour for me to get Benjamin down in the evening to (touch wood) most nights just 1 or two choruses of Twinkle Twinkle.

We used to let him cry for 5 mins at a time (with the monitor on mute ) but it broke my heart every night.

Krystaltips

Why can't he have them now Boo?

fattybooboo

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

If he is shattered and in the buggy and screaming and screaming are you sure it wasn't wind or something? I still sometimes have problems with Benjamin if he has trapped wind.

Hmm thanks MFD, I wonder if this is what was wrong with T on Weds. I walked him down town in the pram and just as we started to head back he started crying and it was proper full on loud crying. I kept walking and normally he would quieten down but he didnt, so I stopped and sat him up in pram and tried to rub his back thinking perhaps it could be wind, but me doing that seemed to make him worse and he was arching his back and crying even more, so he literally carried on till we got home and I got him out. I wonder if when I sat him up it hurts more which is why he arched his back and seemed to create even more maybe? It was out of character for him to be like that on a walk.

workinmummy

Also need to add, that Alex isn't very mobile yet. So am expecting our fab bedtime routine to be in tatters, when he actually can sit/stand etc.

Have rememebed I logged on for a reason. Alex had very hard poo's. And now had a very sore botty. Sami had recommened a cream on more than one occassion and i think i book marked it on work pc, but that's no help to me now. Does anyone remember what it is, or have any recommendations, currently using bepantham. And also have sudocream, and i'm sure MIL gave me some kind of zinc cream months ago, if i can find it. Thanks

fattybooboo

Krystaltips wrote: »

Why can't he have them now Boo?

When I read ur question I thought hmm, why cant he have them now. I am not sure!! Only reason I said that is cos it said 7 months plus on the packet and he is only almost 6 months. But it does say they are gluten free etc. Do you think I could give them to him now as I am itching to!!

My_Fathers_Daughter

WM - morhulin is the one that you have to ask the pharmacist to get in for you.

I also use metanium, it is like a proper old fashoned ointment

and lots of water, grapes and satsumas for runnier poos

Glamazon

Thanks WM - I think he needs some independence from me so it might do us both some good.

I'll try the singing tomorrow night cos OH has vetoed the crying