MSE Parents Club Part 12

musogirl295

Beenie - I agree with susan. Using the legal line might be the best way forward. That woman sounds like a complete user, she's clearly trying to back you into a corner.

I'm just going to have to be brave and go to a mothers group. I've found one thats got good reviews on the web. If not for me, I don't want Holly to grow up being as awkward as me in social situations.

We just tried the bath - DH got in with her and I washed her from the side. Was far more successful with far less screaming!

My_Fathers_Daughter

FWIW - I pay my CM £10.50 for 3.5 hours so she is not taking the pee with the money.
You are nearly there now Beenie - just stick to your guns and say no for all the reasons you have already given.

musogirl295 wrote: »

OK, I have a couple of weird questions coming up that are prob going to sound really stupid....

1. At what point is baby old enough (if it matters at all) to share a bath with me or DH? H is 3 weeks old now and we've been giving her little baths in her baby bath on the days that she manages to throw up milk all over herself (which is most days!) but she absolutely hates it and screams the place down. I was thinking she might be better in with one of us but not sure if she's too little.

2. What kind of thing goes on at a mother and baby group? I'm thinking about joining one but I'm not very good at social situations and making new friends. I don't have any friends where we live now and the last time I made new friends was at uni, a good 6 years ago!

You need to be really careful that the water isn't too hot when you bathe with baby. We have had Benjamin in with us since about 6 weeks...IMHO it is easier when they are holding their head a bit more.

Is the water too cold in the baby bath? A couple of friends say that this was a problem with them.

Also - you can give her reassurance without being in with her. I used to hold Benjamin along my arm so my arm was under the water and just use one hand to wash him so he always felt secure.

Hope this helps.

Oh and don't worry about mum and baby groups - conversation usually revolves around feeding / sleeping / stitches / childbirth etc and if you don't want to join in you always have a baby to occupy you

Evansangel

Beenie, give me her number? I tell her where to go! lol.

Can i pick your brains please? I need an ebay title for DH's old ipod.

Its an Ipod Classic, black, scratched on the back, 30gb and the headphone socket doesn't work well. It only lets you hear out of one earphone.
I dont want to put 'Faulty' as during my research all the 'faulty' listings only had upto £12.

It works perfectly fine other than the headphone thing

Somnium

PP - Thanks hun I think we are on BF charts I know the HV got confused for a second cos mine were new and different. The HV wasnt rude about the weight issue she just wants to monitor it, and I dont have an issue as long as T is ok and gaining some weight, just if I can do better by her then I will try what I can. Will remember carbs and am not a big caffine drinker, just a coffee in the morning to wake me up and maybe a tea at night after dinner, we mainly live on OJ and lemonade and water.

boo - hope you and Isla both feel better soon x The bbok your reading sounds intresting and its a valid point too. I wouldnt have been worried about her weight had I not known altho she has been out of sorts a lil have been putting that down to Jabs and being out of routine what with the visit to Mums.

Aless - thanks for the support and will remember to keep away from the coffee lol, the sleep deprivation isnt so bad thru the day its the night when am listening to OH snore!! And we get lots of wet nappies tho she now only poos ever 2 or 3 days!

Fitz - yeay about the referal and totally agree with you on the monitoring Ts weight.

Newbie_maz - thanks, I promise not to get in a pickle about the weight thing, I just figure I could eat better and I know am suffering with a lack of sleep and have been a lil teary/moody lately, and I know these things will only be better for T. But its good to know if those things dont work then its not unusual, and like Evie T is for the most a very happy content lil lady Oh and T is still in 0-3 clothes with room to go but I wouldnt say there big on her.

Beenie - lol at liking being kicked up the bum, but agree its nice when people care. Its one of the reasons I wont miss baby massage cos as much of an effort as it is to get there I always feel way better after. Yeay for new pushchair Oh and Stick to your guns and keep it at NO! Its so not worth it for £10.

3 - agree with the others about the mat trousers, not your problem.

MFD - that pic of B is soooooo cute

EA - Boo at your manager/company! But yeay for making some ££

Sami - eek at your MIL not looking after pets better its not fair on them poor lil things

mel - hate car expenses, especially right when you need said car.

SM - hope the job app is a success.

Gym - poor you and Guy x

Well baby massage didnt work Am currently listening to T cry on the monitor She did have a 40 min sleep after but that was it till now. She's really fighting it, I hope we dont have a repeat of last night. I really hope this is cos of the jabs and normal service resumes. Oooh she's starting to go quiet, will give her a lil while longer and fingers crossed.

Picked up our pixi photos this afternoon, talk about flippin expensive!!!! £50 for the first print then £15 for each one after that, MIL wanted to buy one so we got a second but wont do that again. Have already scanned them into the comp so can send copies out bit more MSE.

pinknico

Just popping on to add to the "keep saying no Beenie" posts and agree with Susan. xx

BeenieCat

Thanks everyone! I said about it being illegal and she just laughed it off and said well who's gonna know?

I also said, well i can't keep having him when i've cancelled having my nephew and niece and she said "well your sister won't know"

*rolleyes lots* ......... The more i think about it the more i really really really don't want to keep having him. Yes the extra money would be nice but it's really really not worth it, i spend most of the week dreading it cos he really grates on me.

My friend with the new baby just text me saying "i've just heard the bad news, child tax credits are getting stopped and income support is being frozen and phased out"

Is that true?? I would have thought i'd have heard already if it was. Unless everyone knows and i'm just dumb

Fitzio

Beenie - I was going to say what Susan said about it being illegal. And also to agree with MFD - I think the rest of you must be overpaying your childminders!!! It varies from area to area, but it's around £3-4 per hour up here.

Evansangel

OMG. Heart attack.

Lily is on the floor rolling around and all of a sudden started choking really loudly.

DH ran to her and i was saying "She's been sick!:eek:"

It was dribble, she was stciking her fingers so far into her throat she was retching _pale__pale_

Edit: Wha??? I didn't know that Beenie! I shall google it

Fitzio

BeenieCat wrote: »

Thanks everyone! I said about it being illegal and she just laughed it off and said well who's gonna know?

I also said, well i can't keep having him when i've cancelled having my nephew and niece and she said "well your sister won't know"

*rolleyes lots* ......... The more i think about it the more i really really really don't want to keep having him. Yes the extra money would be nice but it's really really not worth it, i spend most of the week dreading it cos he really grates on me.

My friend with the new baby just text me saying "i've just heard the bad news, child tax credits are getting stopped and income support is being frozen and phased out"

Is that true?? I would have thought i'd have heard already if it was. Unless everyone knows and i'm just dumb

Hmm, I think your friend is a bit mixed up unless she knows something the rest of us don't. I think there are plans to reduce the threshold for tax credits and to possibly stop Child Benefit being automatic to everyone and make it means tested, but nothing has been set in stone yet.

Tell the woman "Look, I know it would help you out, but it's not about the money and my decision is final. I am sorry, I can't do it any longer". Make sure you use the right tone of voice. Be firm.

searching_me

beenie stay strong and i very much doubt the IS and TC part .. it wouldnt just be stopped like that x