MSE Parents Club Part 12

searching_me

BeenieCat wrote: »

haha i do love your style, you say the stuff that i think, but don't dare ever say

Now i need to look busy for when she gets back. And i need to think up some activities that we do all week that makes me "so busy"

I already have swimming and Beavers, but that only accounts for 2 nights. Footy on Saturday. How about "i look after my sister's kids every Monday and have cancelled that too" (see it's nothing personal, i did it to my own family etc)

ermmmmmmmmmmm no you dont .. hello 2 kids on your own is enough business for anyone .. how about you need sometime to yourself ....... lies are too hard to remember and usually spin off in to next realms .. you are busy plan and simple and unless she's willing to pay yu for your time then other things come before her and HER responsibilty x

Mazcabs

BeenieCat wrote: »

Argh!!

Well i didn't say 'NO' but i said "sorry i just can't do it i've taken too much on and it's hard as i'm on my own, i was even meant to be doing a college course but i need a job before that.."

I feel SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO bad :(:(:(:(:( But i have to keep reminding myself that this kid has 2 parents who work full time and it's not up to me to make sure he's looked after, they can more than afford a childminder for a few hours.

Well done Beenie...and dont feel bad.

Fitzio

searching_me wrote: »

ermmmmmmmmmmm no you dont .. hello 2 kids on your own is enough business for anyone .. how about you need sometime to yourself ....... lies are too hard to remember and usually spin off in to next realms .. you are busy plan and simple and unless she's willing to pay yu for your time then other things come before her and HER responsibilty x

Well said SM!!

And well done Beenie for sending the text. :T

BeenieCat

Ah thanks everyone, you're right, i shouldn't have to lie but she will question me and try and catch me out and somehow she'll manage to talk me round. So i feel like i need to have an answer to everything she is gonna say. She obviously sees that i'm a soft touch and she is the kind of person who everyone knows because she's so loud and has no shame.

On the upside, i've sent texts to loads of long lost friends and asked one with a newborn who i haven't seen since she was 5m preg (i'm a bad friend ) to come to the BF group tomorrow, she hasn't been before so she said as long as i meet her outside she'll go!
I was like ok but i've got someone meeting me outside aswell, cos i was scared too haha! (i've oly ever been to a diff smaller one and this is a big one for the whole town not just my area)

Fitzio

Just nipping on quickly whilst waiting on DH getting home and dinner being ready (lazy dinner - bought a reduced Gastropub Cottage Pie and reduced veg in M&S!).

MIL came for the day and we went to Mothercare as DH last night mangled the microwave steriliser. He put the bottle brush in it and it melted and the whole thing was stinking of burnt plastic! I think GISI had asked about them recently maybe? Anyway, they were half price in Mothercare which is why I went there to get another one.

Also, they had Pampers Sensitive wipes - boxes of 9 for £6.99. Thought that sounded quite good, but I already bought a batch at Asda at the weekend.

musogirl295

OK, I have a couple of weird questions coming up that are prob going to sound really stupid....

1. At what point is baby old enough (if it matters at all) to share a bath with me or DH? H is 3 weeks old now and we've been giving her little baths in her baby bath on the days that she manages to throw up milk all over herself (which is most days!) but she absolutely hates it and screams the place down. I was thinking she might be better in with one of us but not sure if she's too little.

2. What kind of thing goes on at a mother and baby group? I'm thinking about joining one but I'm not very good at social situations and making new friends. I don't have any friends where we live now and the last time I made new friends was at uni, a good 6 years ago!

Sarah_Joanne

Well done Beenie! Stay strong!

Muso, not silly at all. Holly can go in with you whenever you are ready, I'd just hold off on bubble bath etc. Alfie didn't like his baths at first but he soon got used to it and loves it now.

Mother and baby groups differ I think but it's mainly cups of tea, toys / singing etc for littlies and baby chat for mums. Nice way to meet people even if you are shy as there's always something to talk about (pooing, sleeping etc!)

Becles

Not read back yet so *hugs* to all who need them.

Been a very hectic day!

Was doing my essay when the phone rang at 10am and school said Josh had been sick so could I go and get him. School is 12 miles away so it's not like a quick journey.

Got back and I was really pushed for time, so I just rattled the essay off as it had to be in by 12pm. It's 400 words short and I know it's crap but I've struggled catching up since my holiday

Left to go to the hospital and got a text message when I was driving but couldn't look at it. Got to hospital and read a text from Josh saying school had rang to say James had been sick, so he'd popped along and collected him for me but he had a temperature. Texted back to tell him to take a paracetamol tablet and I'd be back soon or wake Craig if they needed an adult.

Had the allergy tests done. They tested for cat, dog, horse, various pollens, dust and some moulds. I'm not allergic to anything! She's going to let my consultant know and they'll write to me and let me know what they want to do next. Pleased it's not an allergy but that means I might need sinus surgery *scared*

Will catch up on rest of posts later once Charlotte is in bed.

searching_me

becs sounds like a very hectic day ... put your feet up with a cuppa ..

im squeaky clean after a bath ... now cuppa for me me thinks x

BeenieCat

Omg!!! :mad:

So she came back to get him, and stayed for a chat etc, and i was saying how i've even cancelled my sister's kids etc and everything is just too much. She was all sympathetic saying well i hope you haven't felt like i've been using you... I say no not at all i just need to put us first and stop doing so much every night as it is hard to get into a routine.

Anyway she was fine with this but was obviously just sweetening me up cos when she was leaving she was saying how difficult this makes things for her now and she can't alter her rota anymore than she already has etc, so i suggested a childminder and she says he won't go with a childminder cos he's fussy *sigh*.

Then she suggests paying me to still keep doing every week. I say no it's not about money or anything like that. She says but she needs to work and would rather pay me to know he was coming here. She suggests paying £10 for the 3.5 hours he's here...

I was saying no but she said please just think about it.

ARGHHHHHHHHH I dunno what to flipping do :mad::mad::mad: *cry*