MSE Parents Club Part 12

musogirl295

OK, I have a couple of weird questions coming up that are prob going to sound really stupid....

1. At what point is baby old enough (if it matters at all) to share a bath with me or DH? H is 3 weeks old now and we've been giving her little baths in her baby bath on the days that she manages to throw up milk all over herself (which is most days!) but she absolutely hates it and screams the place down. I was thinking she might be better in with one of us but not sure if she's too little.

2. What kind of thing goes on at a mother and baby group? I'm thinking about joining one but I'm not very good at social situations and making new friends. I don't have any friends where we live now and the last time I made new friends was at uni, a good 6 years ago!

Sarah_Joanne

Well done Beenie! Stay strong!

Muso, not silly at all. Holly can go in with you whenever you are ready, I'd just hold off on bubble bath etc. Alfie didn't like his baths at first but he soon got used to it and loves it now.

Mother and baby groups differ I think but it's mainly cups of tea, toys / singing etc for littlies and baby chat for mums. Nice way to meet people even if you are shy as there's always something to talk about (pooing, sleeping etc!)

Becles

Not read back yet so *hugs* to all who need them.

Been a very hectic day!

Was doing my essay when the phone rang at 10am and school said Josh had been sick so could I go and get him. School is 12 miles away so it's not like a quick journey.

Got back and I was really pushed for time, so I just rattled the essay off as it had to be in by 12pm. It's 400 words short and I know it's crap but I've struggled catching up since my holiday

Left to go to the hospital and got a text message when I was driving but couldn't look at it. Got to hospital and read a text from Josh saying school had rang to say James had been sick, so he'd popped along and collected him for me but he had a temperature. Texted back to tell him to take a paracetamol tablet and I'd be back soon or wake Craig if they needed an adult.

Had the allergy tests done. They tested for cat, dog, horse, various pollens, dust and some moulds. I'm not allergic to anything! She's going to let my consultant know and they'll write to me and let me know what they want to do next. Pleased it's not an allergy but that means I might need sinus surgery *scared*

Will catch up on rest of posts later once Charlotte is in bed.

searching_me

becs sounds like a very hectic day ... put your feet up with a cuppa ..

im squeaky clean after a bath ... now cuppa for me me thinks x

BeenieCat

Omg!!! :mad:

So she came back to get him, and stayed for a chat etc, and i was saying how i've even cancelled my sister's kids etc and everything is just too much. She was all sympathetic saying well i hope you haven't felt like i've been using you... I say no not at all i just need to put us first and stop doing so much every night as it is hard to get into a routine.

Anyway she was fine with this but was obviously just sweetening me up cos when she was leaving she was saying how difficult this makes things for her now and she can't alter her rota anymore than she already has etc, so i suggested a childminder and she says he won't go with a childminder cos he's fussy *sigh*.

Then she suggests paying me to still keep doing every week. I say no it's not about money or anything like that. She says but she needs to work and would rather pay me to know he was coming here. She suggests paying £10 for the 3.5 hours he's here...

I was saying no but she said please just think about it.

ARGHHHHHHHHH I dunno what to flipping do :mad::mad::mad: *cry*

redmel1621

Mazcabs wrote: »

Mel which Renault garage out of interest as my sisters had her Renault in 2 different garages because the 1st one put too much oil in and messed the engine up. They were gonna have to pay £2500 but then the 2nd garage spoke to Renault and they are paying half the bill..... how old is your car, theirs is an 04 plate I think.... PS they live in Cheshire as well which is why I ask

Hi Maz...Chester, by the sealand road/greyhound park shopping park. Ours is a 51 plate, there is no way I would ever normally use a dealer garage but after being given different stories by different garages I wanted an independant one, and one that would have the correct diagnostic equipment, to have a look.

It cost £50 for them to look at it and also do a 25 point health check on it. It came back with a list of little jobs that need doing, a bulb, window wipers, battery failed some test or other aparrantly a crack on engine mount....all non essential jobs, well apart from the bulb which would need doing for the MOT.

The main reason we took it there was to find out if the leak was an oil leak or transmission leak....well it is both, although the oil leak can be done at some other time, we can just top it up for now, but the transmission is a bloody pain in the rear!! They wanted me to pay £108 just to drain it and fill it, then for me to drive about in it and book it back in for them to distinguish which part is the problem......although they think it is the hydrolic blah blah, which will cost thousands!!! Haha, I don't think so....I can get a gearbox from a breakers for less than £500 and have it fitted by my garage total cost maybe £700/£800 and voila, no more leaking:)

Sorry for car rant, I am just flaming annoyed with the stupid car because it is preventing me doing things, as I am reluctant to go too far in it!!!!!

musogirl295 wrote: »

OK, I have a couple of weird questions coming up that are prob going to sound really stupid....

1. At what point is baby old enough (if it matters at all) to share a bath with me or DH? H is 3 weeks old now and we've been giving her little baths in her baby bath on the days that she manages to throw up milk all over herself (which is most days!) but she absolutely hates it and screams the place down. I was thinking she might be better in with one of us but not sure if she's too little.

Not sure, sorry. I have always bathed mine on their own...until sitting up and then in with brothers:)


2. What kind of thing goes on at a mother and baby group? I'm thinking about joining one but I'm not very good at social situations and making new friends. I don't have any friends where we live now and the last time I made new friends was at uni, a good 6 years ago!

At my one the chairs are arranged around a baby area and then bigger toys/trikes etc are outside the square of chairs. Mums basically sit about on the chairs and chat while the kids play. It only costs £1 per child entry fee, and there is tea, juice and biscuits provided. There is also crumpets and a small dontaion is usually given to cover the cost of these each week, only say 10p-50p

I got chatting to the mums easily enough... as it is nice just to smile at the kids and then ask mum how old, name etc....

Beenie - well done, and just keep saying NO, NO, NO!!!!

searching_me

beenie .. stick to your guns the woman is taking the p!ss .. she knows you're a push over why else would she be offering you £10 for 3.5 hours thats a joke .. £25 maybe £30 yer but £10 .. on your bike missus .. cant afford childcare thats her problem not yours hes HER child and not to fob him on on to you because she cant fit him in to her life ... GRRRRR i feel so angry for you .. let me grab my coat and bag and i'll tell the cheeky mare myself x

Sarah_Joanne

BeenieCat wrote: »

Omg!!! :mad:

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I was saying no but she said please just think about it.

ARGHHHHHHHHH I dunno what to flipping do :mad::mad::mad: *cry*

Well done for not cracking!!At the end of the day it's really not your problem if her kid won't go to just anyone (and maybe that's cos a chilminder would be telling him off all the time for being a pita?!)

Just stay strong, you've done the hard bit You could even follow up with a text tomorrow saying you've had a good think about it but there's just no way you can do it and you wanted to let her know now so she (or the dad) has plenty of time to sort something for next week.

hammyhunter

Beenie, £10 is an insult! Stick to your guns and say no

redmel1621

Beenie, stay strong hon xx you have done the hard bit.

Childminders aren't the only option, there is two parents, surely she has family/friends locally too, or there are after school clubs too.....failing that she will have to do what every other parent does and work around your children. Tuff!!

Fwiw, I used to pay about £3.50 per child, per hour for after school club for my two older ones.

P.S Aless...No rush lovely, I am very, very grateful:D