Baby sleeping help - at our wits end!

Glamazon

AF - I answered on the Parent Thread for some reason.
I got it off eBay from a seller called DinoyDaisy - she also has a website if you google it. The amber is supposed to get warm when its against the skin and release stuff that calms them down. I got the anklet rather than the necklace as OH worried he would choke. They do bracelets as well. The anklet is 17cms and is slightly too big for J but I just pop under his sock.

Well, last night didn't go so well but I know its because he didn't want his bedtime bottle so woke up at 2.30am for a feed. Had the same problem tonight but fortunately he woke up at 8pm so I gave it to him then. He's woken up twice since but gone down with his lullabies and a quick back rub.

Another thing I've done (which may help those with LO's that want to sleep in your bed) is give J the t-shirt I've worn that day. It means he can smell me so he thinks I'm there (well thats what I think anyway). He's currently cuddling it

AF - Glad you seem to be making progess
Gizmo - stick with it and hopefully she'll get the message!

Do try the amber thing though - it has to be worn for 24hrs and I've noticed J is happier in himself during the day.

Off to bed now and hoping I get a few hours sleep at least! Last night, I was still awake when he woke up at 12am - went to bed at 10.30pm :o

angelfairy

gizmomum - how are you getting on?

glam -thanks for the name of the seller. i'll take a look. i think i'd be inclined to get the anklet too.

how has your night gone so far??? i like the idea of using your top to put in with Jack.

something i am finding works for us is saying the same phrase when i put LO to bed and again every time she stands up for me to lay her down. even when my OH says it to her when he is holding her, she rests her head on his shoulder.

wonders if it might be useful for anyone else?

i am still shocked at how every night since i started this last wednesday night (or was it thursday) that LO wakes initially bang on the 45 minute cycle. it is only the first waking that she does thing, but it is 45 mins every night

xx

Glamazon

AF - Hoping things start to get better for you

Another thought - fresh air.

Not heard a peep from him since I put him down at 7pm and I took him out for a walk for 2hours today - usually have to go up 2 or 3 times from then til now.

Will see if that helps tonight

On operation baby proof at the moment as he has started trying to pull himself up :eek:

Gizmomum - how are you doing??

mookiandco

angelfairy wrote: »

something i am finding works for us is saying the same phrase when i put LO to bed and again every time she stands up for me to lay her down. even when my OH says it to her when he is holding her, she rests her head on his shoulder.

wonders if it might be useful for anyone else?

Hi AF,

The phrase we use is 'ssshhhh sleeping time' . Its funny because I have said that phrase since Leila was a teeny baby just to comfort her when she woke up and without me realising it she started to associate it with bedtime.

We have only been sleeping almost through for the last couple of weeks and it was about a week after I started using the key phrase consistently. If Leila wakes I wait for a minute first to check if she'll settle herself (I used to leap up and go straight in). If she isnt settling (I watch her from the baby video monitor) then she'll be standing up in her cot holding the sides and bouncing up and down very very cross! I go in and say sshhhh sleeping time (no eye contact), then I pick her up (giving her a tiny little squeeze of a cuddle so I dont feel so cruel), and lay her straight down again repeating 'sleeping time Leila', 'sleeping time'. If she then puts her head up (she sleeps on her tummy), I repeat it and her head falls back on the mattress immediately. I repeat this if her head comes back up again and she'll go back to sleep (usually in a few mins).

On bad nights when she refuses to go back to sleep after all the above, I tell her 'mummy loves Leila but mummys going now' and I leave her and close the door. She will grump and shout for up to 15 mins (hurling herself round the cot) but will go back to sleep eventually. If she doesnt then I go back in and repeat all the above.

I feel bad because I feel like I have sort of trained her like a dog to sleep when I say the magic words but its the only thing after 10 months of regular wakings that has worked.

Another thing on the key phrase front - when Leila wakes in the morning I have been consistent in saying 'Good Morning' to her. If she wakes from a nap, I ask 'did you have a nice snooze' ? Hopefully coupled with the 'ssshhh its sleeping time' she has come to realise when sleep begins and when sleep ends and when its okay to be awake!

gizmomum

Hi guys, sorry I've been so quiet, have had a bit of a week of it with DD being very poorly (including for her first birthday) which as you can imagine has not helped the whole sleeping thing! This also meant that the leave I had taken to sort the house out was instead spent administering cuddles....very lovely at the time but am now totally stressed about the state of the house...how do other people manage this?
The good news is that DS now seems to be going down and sleeping really well so now that my little girl is on the mend I think it's probably time to bite the bullet, put her upstairs towards the start of the evening and ride it out until she settles
AF I've been using the same phrase thing with my son when he's struggled in the past and have also found that just pottering around upstairs shushing him every now and again so he can hear I'm there works. It's a great opportunity to sort out washing in the evening
Glam, I hope you're ok and that things are still going well...fresh air is magic isn't it!!

love to all

xx