Splitting up - Help

Chinkle

How horrible and sleazy is he. Obviously thinks he can have his cake and eat it.

You need to put some distance between yourself and him. If he won't move out, you do. Tell him you won't be able to afford both rent and mortgage though so he will have to stump up for it.

If that's not possible, it means locks on bedroom and bathroom doors, separate everything household from cooking to cleaning etc. Make it abundantly clear you are only still in the house because finanical circumstances dictate.

Please be strong, you accepted his choice and therefore moving on. If you put yourself in temptations way this will drag on and be no good for your self-esteem. Take action now.

Stephb1986_2

Put something behind the bathroom door when your in there has he never heard of privacy?

Also put something behind your bedroom door so he can't get into bed with you. He made his bed he should bloody lie in it too the filthy pig. If he's "turned on" tell him to get his end away with his fancy woman and to pi ss off!

How dare he treat you like this who does he think he is!!

Steph xx

AlwaysWorking

Hi Pinkfairywings. Being in a similar-ish situation, I completely feel for you. I think you need to have a talk with him and tell him that if he is having a relationship with someone else, he cannot expect to still have one with you. So no hugs, no kisses and definitely no showers together! Trust me when I say I know how difficult it is, but unless he 'needs' you so much he is prepared to finish with this other woman and put all of his energy into his relationship with you, being physical with him will only hurt you more.

Littlemadam83

Oh my goodness, this would be the hardest thing for me. I had to talk to my ex for two years every day after we split and it took me so much longer to get over him.

I think as hard as it is moving out is the best option, and making him pay of course. Also, if his parents have said no due to their opinion of you pushing him out, he needs to go back to them and be a man. Not come running back into your bed which is disgusting by the way. He is the one that wanted to leave you, so he needs to move back to mummy and daddy end of!

Please be strong and just slap him if he comes near you again, i know you still love him, but you dont deserve to be his bit on the side when he needs some. He is a proper !!!!!! xxxx

lill

tell him that as you are no longer in a relationship the next time he tries anything like that your going to report him to the police for sexual assult! how DARE he treat you like that!

movingforward2010

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daska

Pinkfairywings wrote: »

last night he recieved a text from her saying she is uncomfortable with him seeing me as a friend! He is now in a mood, wont talk to me and I dont know what to do!

I would suggest that you tell him to go and live with his new best friend, help him pack, bin bags are traditional...

And after the latest behaviour, if he won't move out then you put locks on all the rooms you live in and use so that he can't pester you.

GEEGEE8

That is shocking how dare he try it on with you after getting all dressed up for the other women, what an idiot and a fool for letting you go.

I hope you keep resisting, don't give in to him, otherwise he will keep stringing you along.

You should tell the other woman what he did too! (actually, not sure if you should, but I would..)

daska

LOL - send her a message asking her to sort it out with him so that you don't have to put locks on the bathroom and bedroom doors to keep him out...

Brecon_Beacons

Please don't allow this to happen to you, pink fairy. You are being USED by someone who is showing not one jot of respect for you, your feelings, or your body.

Think about this:
- every time you "let him", he will have less and less respect for you and there's only one place that is going, and it's NOT towards reconciliation. He will end up using you like a piece of meat.
- do you really want to get an infection/std? He is going with someone else, and could pass on anything/everything, straight to you
- don't let you self-esteem be trampled like this. This is a time when you need to be 100% SELFISH. God knows, he has!:mad: