I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

sammy_wheeler

god i wud kill him for that- make him pay haha!

celyn90

Your all making me feel better thank you!

So... my confessions...

I don't actually want anyone there other than us and the witnesses, but I've been guilted into it by my family who are already being difficult. And expecting me to foot for flights/accomodation and invite people I hardly know. I don't want any children there, but I can't see a way round it.

If I had my way the food would be veggie and there would be no alcohol. :rotfl::rotfl:

But...

I don't care what anyone thinks, my dress is electric blue, OH helped me choose it AND we are staying in the same room the night before the wedding. I will wear the silver boots with my dress, we will walk down the aisle together to a nine inch nails song.

I will not borrow something to carry just for the sake of it.

I can't be bothered to make cake and I'll just pick holes in it if somebody else does it, so I'm refusing to have cake. :rotfl::rotfl:No speeches, no bridesmaids, no disco

I mean come on, we've been living together forever; if our relationship can't withstand superstition and relies on luck, then there is no hope for us at all. :rotfl::rotfl:

Only I haven't had the nerve to tell my mum any of this yet :rotfl:

Eight weeks to go Should really post out the invites I don't want to send I guess :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

cel x

emz118

Update... my Bridezilla moment was completely out of control and out of context!!!

My stepsister came over today with her fiance and new baby. She asked about our wedding plans and I said we'd booked our church, but nothing else yet, how about you... she said "Oh, well, it'll probably be about 4 years yet, we want Theo to remember it, and we're not having a big do anyway, we're going to go abroad somewhere."

Hooraaayyyy!!!

emsbet

I'm having a total bridezilla moment and it's so absurd!

An old school friend is getting married the month before me and I'm worried that she will have the same dress as me
How insane is that! There are literally hundereds and hundreds of dress designs and the chances of us having the same one is so small, even though the town I'm grew up in (and where I'm getting married and got my dress from) is small and only has a few dress shops that only stock a certain number of dresses, the chances are still tiny!

But I can't stop thinking about it now it's in my head! I'm such an idiot- we don't even see each other anymore but we are FB friends and I'm have this thought in my head that people will see her in the dress then see me in the dress and think I look no where near as nice in it!

I'm such a wally!


xx

jojo2004

emsbet wrote: »

I'm having a total bridezilla moment and it's so absurd!

An old school friend is getting married the month before me and I'm worried that she will have the same dress as me
How insane is that! There are literally hundereds and hundreds of dress designs and the chances of us having the same one is so small, even though the town I'm grew up in (and where I'm getting married and got my dress from) is small and only has a few dress shops that only stock a certain number of dresses, the chances are still tiny!

But I can't stop thinking about it now it's in my head! I'm such an idiot- we don't even see each other anymore but we are FB friends and I'm have this thought in my head that people will see her in the dress then see me in the dress and think I look no where near as nice in it!

I'm such a wally!


xx

No you're not! Why don't you send her a Fb message and ask! She might be worrying about the same thing, for all you know.
If by any chance you do have the same dress, you can decide how to accessorize it differently etc to make each original.
But I'm sure it won't be the case. Don't panic!
xx

joho

I am a Bridezilla and my confession is........that our guests are seriously p***ing me off! We are getting married on Rhodes in September and therefore sent invites out very early with an RSVP date of 24th December (in the hope of getting lots of Christmas cards with the RSVP cards) but the majority of people haven't replied yet! Some that have replied are saying they can't plan their holidays that far ahead and will have to let me know nearer the time.

Which is all well and good when 2 or 3 or 4 people do that! BUT NOT WHEN 20 OF THEM ARE DOING IT AND I MIGHT HAVE TO CHANGE MY VENUE BECAUSE IT ONLY HOLDS MAX 46 PEOPLE!

And I already know it is selfish of me to have my wedding abroad in the first place, but that's why I've given people 10 months notice! Why can't any of them think that I might need some definite numbers more than 2 f'ing weeks before the date!?!?!? Grrr.

Rant over.

RainbowDrops

joho wrote: »

Some that have replied are saying they can't plan their holidays that far ahead and will have to let me know nearer the time.

I can understand your frustrations, but most people have their annual leave organised in 12 month slots, usually Jan-Dec.
Plus you've given an unusually early RSVP, and with a date which is for most people, the busiest time of the year.

Anyway, I hope you manage to sort it.
And BREATH!

ellay864

In all fairness there's no way I'd be able to say now whether I could travel in September...and in the lead up to Christmas there's no way I'd be looking at planning holiday travel as well...that would have to be something to wait for the new year. The trouble with weddings is that for the bride (and immediate family, and maybe VERY close friends) it's THE big event of the year (in your case, in your life) but to most guests - and this isn't meant to sound horrible - your wedding is a lovely social event but just won't be their number one priority. I agree with rainbowdrops that logistics like taking time off work often cannot be sorted until you're actually in the same calendar year, and if any of your guests have children they'll be back at school in September.
Have you invited more than your maximum? What if they had all replied by 24th Dec saying yes - you'd presumably have problems then. That can be a risky strategy in any case as I've found out now that a friend in Australia has hinted she would love to come to mine and I just hadn't reckoned on her being able to make it. At the moment we have one space left but she's only gone and found herself a new fella!
I think all you can is start contacting some of the closer family and friends on the list and ask them if they think they'll be coming. Some people may also just assume you know they'll be there even if they haven't replied, though I'd not be surprised if a good number really just can't have planned that far yet. I've never known before Christmas what I'm doing for the next summer holiday!

joho

Ok. Point taken, RainbowDrops and Ellay864. But I had thought the other way round - the more notice the better. If I hadn't sent invites until March, say, people would have already booked their summer holidays and wouldn't be able to go then even if they wanted to. Most people already knew the date of the wedding before invites went out, but that doesn't seem to have helped them decide. And you have to have some end date to these things otherwise there will be people turning up on the day!

Never mind. It's not a major issue - YET. I'll start chasing people with ANOTHER end date.

Ta ta.

MissPixie

I don't think thats unreasonable! Its a lot of money and if she knows how hard you are saving to pay for people to go to yours she has a bit of a cheek expecting you nevermind everyone else to pay that much.