I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

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donnacarteruk wrote: »

I'm a Bridezilla and my confession is....

I want a really lush reception in gorgeous shabby chic dusky pink with birdcages and roses, trailing vines and butterflies, candles and little cupcakes - all in a gorgeous converted barn or country house on a midsummers day.
Instead we are having the upstairs function room to a social club and decorating with balloons. I am trying very hard not to sulk and stamp my feet and feel sorry for myself.

I also wish that my bloody mother would take a miniscule of interest in her daughters wedding and gush and ooh and aah and help me choose, instead of FB messaging me ''that's nice''. Humph!

Maybe you can still transform it by using drapes or masses of organza.. or something? Use dusky pink feathers for table confetti or in vases as table centres (use cheap feather boas to put in vases or strip them down!) and matching or cream candles in clear tea light holders. Scower ebay used items for bargains. If you want to go really opulent see ifyou can get some cheap masquerade things on sticks to stick in the vases. Golds or silvers or creams maybe... And once the wine is flowing, people will start having fun with them and you could end up with some really cool pics!!
You could even transform the room with those coloured light bulbs if the light fittings will permit. I know you can get rose coloured ones..


I know what you mean about your mum, mine is not a typical MOB to say the least and i have felt disapointed at times. All she seems to do is roll her eyes at my ideas! But then i look at how many people wish theirs would butt out and we must consider ourselves as fortunate as at least we are not being overloaded by their wedding ideas. But it would be nice to have a happy medium!!
Good luck x

emz118

I am in a really bad mood... my stepsister, whose baby is due in 2 weeks, has just announced that she's engaged.

You might think "so what" but I have a horrid feeling that she'll decide to wait until her littlin is walking and slightly less dependent on her... so she could choose the same weekend as us. (Easter 2012, we have booked the Monday) (

The other annoying thing is my Stepmum (her mother) won't let my Dad contribute to our wedding at all. I'd be willing to bet that she'll do all sorts for her own daughter. Grrrrrrr!!!

AND... my Stepmum's side of the family, who have always been really kind to me, live between 5 and 7 hours drives away. If she has her wedding close to mine, they'll come to hers but aren't going to make the effort to come to mine, and I want them there. ARGH!!!

Finally, her hubby is on £75,000 a year, so they can have anything they want, and we're not on anywhere near that combined!!!

Hubby to be says I'm being unreasonable, but I can't help how I feel.

I'll see her on the 29th for our Christmas day, so I might find out more then. We'll see!!!

lindaatno9

Aw Emz, didn't want to read and run.
Families eh? Especially step ones!!
Do you really think she'd be that callous as to choose the same weekend as you? And would your father not speak up?
Don't even think that because the H2B earns so much they can have whatever they want. You can too. That's what we are all here for. I'm in the market for making dreams come true so give me a hollar if there is anything you need. I'm always happy to help. xx

emz118

Thanks Linda.
I'm not feeling so stressed today... there's nothing I can do, and we've only booked the church, so if I need to change it I can.
I wouldn't put it past her to go for slightly before us, she's 29 going on 9!!!
As for my Dad speaking up.... well, I love him to bits but he's so soft it's pathetic! Especially when it comes to my stepmum. He's completely under the thumb.
Never mind, my day will be my day and it will be perfect, whatever people try to do to stop it!!!

ellay864

(((hugs))) emz...first try to calm down a little, if your stepsister does want everything just perfect she won't choose a clashing date, if only cos she'll want to make sure she has attention on her day! And if she has hers before yours well that's not a problem....you'll know things she has done and can tweak yours if need be to make things different. What you may want to do is keep fairly quite on details so she can't 'steal' things from you! My mate did this a few years ago...her H2B's best man's fiancee was a real cow and did her best to make sure her wedding got more attention that my mates. My mate kept pretty quite about most details, and laid red herrings about others so the other wedding bore very little resemblance to hers...seemed petty but was justified!!
And Linda's right about the money...you can do so much to put your own stamp on things and have the wedding you want with whatever budget you have. And just remember that if your stepmum does throw money at your stepsisters wedding she's also likely to be more interfering in her wedding and leave you in peace to plan just what you want for your perfect day

codemonkey

I can sympathise emz. My friend got engaged at Christmas. I knew it would happen as everything I do has to be done by her but bigger and better. Eg. I move house, she moves too but to a house in a better area. We get engaged and she started bugging her oh immediately to get married, so they get engaged but that's not good enough so they also decide to have a baby. So I know she'll need to have the wedding first to beat us and its possible because they want to go to Venice and it'll have to be better and more romantic than mine.

But...pffft. I'm marrying the greatest guy in the world and nothing can ruin that.

ellay864

If she marries in Venice though she won't get as many guests trawling out there...have your perfect day at home, your guests will remember a wedding they've been at far more than tales of hers with just some photos

emz118

Thanks Ellay and codemonkey.
I knew I'd calm down once I'd had a bit of a rant and a vent on here!
It'll all turn out ok in the end, I know that, and codemonkey... we are all very lucky to be marrying the man for us.

Dekazer

emz118 wrote: »

Thanks Ellay and codemonkey.
I knew I'd calm down once I'd had a bit of a rant and a vent on here!
It'll all turn out ok in the end, I know that, and codemonkey... we are all very lucky to be marrying the man for us.

Heehee, sounds like everyone's sharing the same one!! But you're very right - it does help to remember that it's the marriage that matters! Otherwise it can be so easy to get a bit envious, can't it?!

Hooray for our men

codemonkey

I take back all the nice things I said about him.

Today he told me that he doesn't love me anymore and wants to see other people.

He was joking. The git!!

My friend is getting married next year so at least I don't have to worry about her stealing my thunder.