I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

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Kheeli wrote: »

For example I had a small paddy because h2b didn't understand that he has to wear a certain pair of socks. As do his groomsmen.

....why? Ha ha!

I'm hoping you all have perfect days and that I don't go all BZ if I'm ever lucky enough to be proposed to!

HBS x

redfragglebiker

I have to say that you have all entertained me a ridiculous amount. Now I have a daft confession to make - me and the OH aren't even engaged yet (been together nearly 5 years though so I have hopes!) and I am already dreading my wedding day as both my sister and his sister are naturally slim size 8 skinnyminnies with gorgeous blond pokerstraight hair where as I am a curvy 12 with dark frizzy hair and a rather large bust. I just know I am going to feel like a bit old frump next to them but I can't think of anyone else I would rather have as my bridesmaids.
I am therefore worrying about a wedding I don't even know will happen for definite! I think this qualifies as insane... I need a lie down somewhere!

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I'm not engaged either, ha ha, just hopeful!

You'll be so happy on the day you'll outshine everyone

HBS x

Mojisola

redfragglebiker wrote: »

me and the OH aren't even engaged yet (been together nearly 5 years though so I have hopes!) and I am already dreading my wedding day as both my sister and his sister are naturally slim size 8 skinnyminnies with gorgeous blond pokerstraight hair where as I am a curvy 12 with dark frizzy hair and a rather large bust.

I just know I am going to feel like a bit old frump next to them but I can't think of anyone else I would rather have as my bridesmaids.

Just keep in mind that it's you he's been with for 5 years - not the blond skinnyminnies!

74jax

redfragglebiker wrote: »

Now I have a daft confession to make - me and the OH aren't even engaged yet (been together nearly 5 years though so I have hopes!)

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I'm not engaged either, ha ha, just hopeful!


HBS x

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3283450 check out this thread

redfragglebiker

74jax wrote: »

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3283450 check out this thread

Glad to see I'm not the only one! Thing is my OH would mega upset if I proposed. He's faaar to traditional!

mixenvixen

Just wanted a little advice from you other bridezillas on whether I am close to reaching bridezilla status yet!

We've just recently handed a lot of our invites out and I think this has literally been the most stressful part of the whole thing so far! We were really adamant that during the ceremony we just wanted close friends and family. We are by no means rich so we figured people would understand- boy was I wrong.

I've had my bridesmaid have a full on tantrum that her bf is not invited (who did not even recognise me and my OH in the pub the other day!)

I've had my estranged parent request if their partner can come- who they cheated on my other parent with.

I had an acquaintance come up to me at a party and tell me (despite not receiving an invite) how excited they are about coming to our wedding because they love any excuse for free food and drink!!!

I had another BM ring up and ask if her entire family can come!!!

Then I got an RSVP today which actually made me go into full bridezilla melt down. One of my OH's cousins (who my OH has not seen for 10 years) was sent an invite which was clearly addressed to him, just him. He RSVP'd for his entire family and in special requests put 'lots of drink'. He also put that he was really looking forward to my OH meeting his family- as they have met about twice naturally my OH has not met them.

Am I being completely unreasonable??
Am I totally missing the point? I thought a wedding was supposed to be about people close to the couple celebrating the commitment they're making. Not a chance for people to get free food and drink. I didn't think it was supposed to be a meet and greet. I just feel so upset and livid. I feel like a whole bunch of people who wouldn't even bother coming to my birthday party. Suddenly feel they have some entitlement for me and my OH to take their whole family out for lunch. I am so fed up by the whole thing. Me and my OH are about this close to packing in the whole thing and just getting married at city hall!!!

Phew bridezilla rant over!

cats2012

mixenvixen wrote: »

Just wanted a little advice from you other bridezillas on whether I am close to reaching bridezilla status yet!

In a word - no.

I wanted to quote your whole post but decided it was a tad excessive lol. I can't belive how unreasonable these people are!!

I have to say in my opinion you are fine to be annoyed as we haven't had any problems like this. The only thing I would say though is we haven't "split" any familes e.g. invited only part. But if that's your choice then you're entitled to it!

I hope you get it sorted x

mixenvixen

Thanks

Yeah I probably didn't explain the family situation very well! My partners mum and dad are both from big families (one in 5, one in 6). All these aunts and uncles have their own partners and children- one of them has four children. A lot of these cousins then have their own families. So we decided that we would invite all the aunties and uncles and cousins. But only those cousins own family who we have met before. If that makes sense?

74jax

I have a large family (I'm Irish) but an only inviting cousins I'm close to and speak to frequently.

I certainly wouldn't have people there I don't speak to all the time or even send Birthday/Christmas wishes too, and definately wouldn't have people neither of us have ever met.