I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

Faith177

I know I was really pleased when i was able to say that

dragoneye454

I got that too. Got engaged last december and the wedding is next december.
People were always saying oh you have so long to go, don't start doing anything yet and now I have just over a year left!!


Bridezilla moment last night. We have an appointment with the cake maker today. All I want is for the OH to take a little bit of interest and pick out some designs he likes, but apparently games on facebook are so much more of a priority right now GRRRR

andy.m_2

my wife told me to get a haircut, a suit and four guys in matching outfits.
The rest was up to her and being honest, that way she got what she wanted.

You want him to show an interest, but what if he then wants to make wholesale changes.

dragoneye454

I understand what you mean, but I would have been happy if he wanted something different because we would have included both our ideas and then came up with something that involves us both.

I know alot of women are happy to take charge, but I don't see the point in having a big day with personal touches if the only personal thing about it is from me. It's our day, not just mine.

Anyway, he was very good when we went to the cake maker and helped alot with ideas so all pans out well

andy.m_2

it is your day.

I added a smilie to emphasise the tongue in cheek, but it is the bride's day.

Faith177

dragoneye454 wrote: »

I understand what you mean, but I would have been happy if he wanted something different because we would have included both our ideas and then came up with something that involves us both.

I know alot of women are happy to take charge, but I don't see the point in having a big day with personal touches if the only personal thing about it is from me. It's our day, not just mine.

Anyway, he was very good when we went to the cake maker and helped alot with ideas so all pans out well

Dragon I have learnt VERY quickly that it is pointless asking OH for his opinion on ANYTHING regarding the wedding but cause all his "ideas" have been stupid.

His latest one is he wanted one of our friends to be ordained so they can marry us.... sounds nice doesn't it one problem he wants them to dress as Darth Vader :eek:

I had to sort his suit otherwise he would have worn pink (yes I do worry about him)

He can't understand why we have to decorate the tables as place settings are enough apparently.

He can't see why we have to buy people presents (BM's Ushers MIL2B Mum ect) Also why do we need favours

Bloody men!

rachel90

Faith177 wrote: »

Dragon I have learnt VERY quickly that it is pointless asking OH for his opinion on ANYTHING regarding the wedding but cause all his "ideas" have been stupid.

His latest one is he wanted one of our friends to be ordained so they can marry us.... sounds nice doesn't it one problem he wants them to dress as Darth Vader :eek:

I had to sort his suit otherwise he would have worn pink (yes I do worry about him)

He can't understand why we have to decorate the tables as place settings are enough apparently.

He can't see why we have to buy people presents (BM's Ushers MIL2B Mum ect) Also why do we need favours

Bloody men!

This made me laugh out loud! :rotfl:
I keep asking my fianc! for his opinion on colour scheme etc, all I get in reply is "Nothing stupid!". Ever so helpful!

We're only very early stages of planning, hoping to have a 2014 wedding, I suggested around Christmas time and he replied "Its too cold" I don't know if he thinks we're getting married outside or what.
I'm leaving him to watch some racing on Sunday whilst I go to a wedding fair, I asked if there was anything he could think of that he wanted me specifically to look at/find out about. His reply? "Cars, as many leaflets and pictures as you can get".

With regards to the comments about people losing interest when you say your wedding is a couple of years away, I went to my first wedding fair shortly after we were engaged in 2010, a man selling suits asked when we were planning on getting married, I said maybe 2014 and he replied "You're the most laid back b2b I have ever met, you need to sort everything out now, you don't have time to mess about!" :eek:

Faith177

Thing is Rachel that is just a few of the stupid things he has come up with!

I'm convinced he is doing it on purpose to get a rise out of me or to get me to leave him alone.

I can't believe he said that to you that would have made me panic soo badly lol. I'm getting stressed now with 5 months roughly to go and only have a few things left to do

daisiegg

Faith177 wrote: »

Dragon I have learnt VERY quickly that it is pointless asking OH for his opinion on ANYTHING regarding the wedding but cause all his "ideas" have been stupid.

His latest one is he wanted one of our friends to be ordained so they can marry us.... sounds nice doesn't it one problem he wants them to dress as Darth Vader :eek:

I had to sort his suit otherwise he would have worn pink (yes I do worry about him)

He can't understand why we have to decorate the tables as place settings are enough apparently.

He can't see why we have to buy people presents (BM's Ushers MIL2B Mum ect) Also why do we need favours

Bloody men!

The thing is...I'm not sure how stupid all that actually is! A lot of people don't have favours and think they are pointless or a waste of money. Not everyone buys presents (we won't be - we're already under strict instructions from my mum not to!)...... That said, this is the bridezilla thread so of course you are entitled to your rant! And saying that...I am about to do my own!

daisiegg

You know how all the wedding magazins and forums etc say 'it's your day, don't feel you HAVE to do things just because it's tradition'? Well...I was talking to OH about this last night. There are two things really stressing me out. Firstly, I really really really really really do not want a first dance. If you asked me to name on of my worst nightmares it would be being put in a situation where I am forced to try to dance and people are looking at me! I know OH isn't looking forward to it either so I suggested that we just don't have one.....it was met with a blank look and 'don't be silly, we have to' and that was it, no more discussion.

The other thing is speeches. I wish we didn't have to do them it just feels weird. I'm worried about the day as it is as there are going to be so many different groups of people there who don't know each other or even don't know one or other of us (I.e. OH's work friends who I have never met....my old uni friends who OH has never met...my family and his family will barely have met once before - etc) that speeches somehow don't feel like the right thing to do as people won't have the same sort of frames of references and I'm worried they will just fall flat and I will be sitting there mortified. My dad, I love him to pieces, but he has a rubbish sense of humour that no one 'gets' and I know his speech will be terrible and I'll be the only person doing sympathy laughing. OH's best man is his brother who I have only met once and who is an unemployed ex heroin addict who lives with his mum...............I'm not convinced he'll even be able to stand up and do a speech, let alone a good one!

But again...OH says we 'have' to have speeches too.

The thing is, if it was that he really wants a first dance or really wants speeches then that would be ok. But I know he has no strong feelings like that about it. It's just he feels it's 'expected'. Those two things are really stressing me out and almost making me dread the day