I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

LEJC

I'm sort of with you on the honeymoon after the wedding thing... but what would drive me really nuts is waiting 7 months to find out where we were going...or will you OH tell you at the wedding?

74jax

LEJC wrote: »

I'm sort of with you on the honeymoon after the wedding thing... but what would drive me really nuts is waiting 7 months to find out where we were going...or will you OH tell you at the wedding?

No. I don't want to know until the very last minute. Ideally on the plane when the pilot does his announcement, however I recon I'll find out at the Gate.

cats2012

We're having our honeymoon 4 months later and my boss had hers 8 months later - both very much still honeymoons we just couldn't afford them straight after the wedding and wanted them to be perfect.

Not sure how this helps if you really don't think you could get used to the idea though...sorry...

Faith177

My honeymoon won't be until a year after the wedding due to holiday leave entitlement, saving up ect.

I don't think this detracts from it being a honeymoon at all (but I can see how some might).

I am quite happy to wait for my perfect holiday and we are having a small weekend away at a festival shortly after the wedding.

I personally just don't buy in to all this the honeymoon has to be x amount of time after the wedding. Unfortuantely life sometimes doesn't give you that option

leithia29_2

I've recently returned from my honeymoon.

Like you, husband planned it all as a surprise, I found out at the airport, it was amazing! We went to Mauritius. Kudos for another husband to be trying it out!

We also waited about 2 months between the wedding and the honeymoon, and I really enjoyed that aspect. The practical reason was that the weather was better in October than in August when we married. On an emotional level it gave us both time to come back down from the highly charged time of a wedding and prepare better for the honeymoon without having the planning overlap. It still felt like a honeymoon though, in fact it brought back some of that post wedding "glow", having the anticipation there again as great.

74jax

leithia29 wrote: »

I've recently returned from my honeymoon.

Like you, husband planned it all as a surprise, I found out at the airport, it was amazing! We went to Mauritius. Kudos for another husband to be trying it out!

We also waited about 2 months between the wedding and the honeymoon, and I really enjoyed that aspect. The practical reason was that the weather was better in October than in August when we married. On an emotional level it gave us both time to come back down from the highly charged time of a wedding and prepare better for the honeymoon without having the planning overlap. It still felt like a honeymoon though, in fact it brought back some of that post wedding "glow", having the anticipation there again as great.

Yey, sounds amazing.

Well my 24hours of a bridezilla are up. So we have a wonderful holiday in December, just how can I be silly over that!

He is planning and sorting this for me, who'll be his new wife :T me being daft as its not within 3 months of our wedding is so not me, so I'm hoping I've had my bridezilla moment and that's it. I feel a bit more 'normal' as I was so laid back I was starting to worry!

Thank you all, this thread if fab!

heartbreak_star

Daisegg, my friends had a ceilidh (it was AWESOME!! I danced all night!!) and they didn't have a first dance - the caller asked for the bride, groom, bridesmaid and partner and best man and partner, and if possible parents and we did a short dance where we formed an arch for them to skip through. It was great, and they didn't feel embarrassed

HBS x

citizenkitten

Depending on finances we plan to have our honey moon on our first yr anniversary, want to spread the wedding love for as long as possible.

74jax

Bluefire wrote: »

74Jax, can you not plan a mini-moon? That's what we did - 4 nights in the Peak District in a log cabin with a hot tub straight after the wedding, then 4 months later we jetted off on our honeymoon. Worked out brilliantly, it was so nice to just relax after the wedding, especially as we were both exhausted & I ended up with a really bad cold! Had we been on actual honeymoon I think it would have ruined the start of it (especially as we were in Florida, no time to rest or be ill there!)

That's what I'd like, but the minimoon would be our honeymoon, I think its the first holiday after the wedding that I would class as our honeymoon. But when I mentioned it to OH he wanted December to be our Honeymoon. So we're going with that. I'm mot sure what happened to me last week ha ha ha I hope that's my only bridezilla moment.

If you like lodges we've stayed in a few and Faweather Grange is lovely as is Woodland Forest Grange. We've stayed there a few times when we've fancied a weekend away and would highly recommend.

daisiegg

Argh, ok, it is my Bridezilla moment, please excuse the ranting nature of this post!

Just spoke to my mum on the phone, apparently some of my dad's relatives in Scotland have been moaning about not having proper info about the wedding so they can book flights and hotels etc. The wedding is in April...they had STDs a year in advance, which said where and when, and the invitations are literally going out next week. They all know our area and have been to visit before, know how to get here by plane or driving, and they have been told the date of the wedding and the location so really, if they needed to book flights they actually could have done anyway without further information! But now because people are moaning I have had to set our wedding website to go live before the invitations are even sent out so now, the invitations that me and my mum have slaved over making are going to be pointless as half the people will have already been on the wedding website. May as well have just saved ourselves time and money and done the whole thing by email!

Also she was telling me that various people have already said they aren't coming (before getting the invitation!) ...and I can just see being in a horrible situation where we need to start inviting random people to make up the minimum numbers and then we don't have any extra people coming for the evening and the whole thing is just embarrassing argh I'm already worrying about the whole thing as OH and I don't really have many friends (I don't care if that sounds embarrassing, we are very happy the way we are) and he has virtually no family (literally - there are 5 people from his family coming!) so it's going to be a weird bitty mish mash of people as it is, and my huge family were meant to be the bulk of the guests and if they start dropping like flies we will have a big problem!

You're not meant to dread your own wedding day! It feels like it highlights problems in our life....but it doesn't....we are very happy and don't care that we don't have loads of friends....but it just makes it feel like that for the day....and makes me wonder if we just picked entirely the wrong sort of day Right now I am actually dreading more aspects of it than I am excited about. That's not right