I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

stir_crazy

My bridezilla moment this week.

OH's friend has been really P*&%ing me off. First of all he was complaining about being invited to the wedding (before the invitations were even out) because he would have to hire a suit or kilt. Then on the RSVP's he told us he doesnt like onions or mushrooms, he also asked OH to sort out his hotel room for him and then moaned about the price but told OH to ask if he can get checked in early so he can get changed. He then informed OH that he was going to be going up to his hotel room periodically through our wedding day "to have the odd half hour" romp with his girlfriend. He's now split up with said GF and told OH that he'll find "someone" to come along with him to the wedding. With 11 days to go. So basically he's treating us like we should be f*&%ing privaledged that he's even coming????

74jax

stir_crazy wrote: »

My bridezilla moment this week.

OH's friend has been really P*&%ing me off. First of all he was complaining about being invited to the wedding (before the invitations were even out) because he would have to hire a suit or kilt. Then on the RSVP's he told us he doesnt like onions or mushrooms, he also asked OH to sort out his hotel room for him and then moaned about the price but told OH to ask if he can get checked in early so he can get changed. He then informed OH that he was going to be going up to his hotel room periodically through our wedding day "to have the odd half hour" romp with his girlfriend. He's now split up with said GF and told OH that he'll find "someone" to come along with him to the wedding. With 11 days to go. So basically he's treating us like we should be f*&%ing privaledged that he's even coming????

OMG.:eek:
What is it with weddings where guests lose all ability to book a taxi or hotel! Like you don't both have a million other things to do.

As for finding someone, how do you feel about a stranger (and someone he may only have known a short while) at your wedding?

The cheek of the guy! Your feeding him, entertaining him and he's acting like a spoilt child who wants everything his way.

74jax

sdr2211 wrote: »

I'm a Bridezilla and my confession is.....

I am really happy that you have found someone you want to spend your life with, but is it really necessary for you to target my wedding day as the day on which he proposes? You have, as MoH tried to veto dresses, shoe selections, jewellery, complained about your hair, the Make up artist and have asked for a bolero 'just in case it is chilly' on the day. I have humoured you so far, but I am so angry that you can't let us have ONE day on which you aren't thinking solely of YOUR SELF. Because it will be romantic, won't it?
No - it would be selfish and it is un-necessary. Try the other 364 days between now and then...
That's better

You see a spur of the moment proposal by a guest of ours would be lovely (to me)I'd like to think they got wound up in the romance, but not a pre-planned 'let's do it at ajax's wedding' errrr why? Like you say, do it on the other 364 days and leave my day alone!

stir_crazy

74jax wrote: »

OMG.:eek:
What is it with weddings where guests lose all ability to book a taxi or hotel! Like you don't both have a million other things to do.

As for finding someone, how do you feel about a stranger (and someone he may only have known a short while) at your wedding?

The cheek of the guy! Your feeding him, entertaining him and he's acting like a spoilt child who wants everything his way.

I wasn't happy about him bringing the GF to our wedding as we've never met her, and they'd only been going out for around 2 months at the time (I also only wanted OH's friend there in the evening as I don't like him). But OH talked me round till I eventually said ok, as he's one of OH's best friends.

I told OH to tell his friend that he either brings the on/off GF, or his ex wife (another long story, but the gist is that he sometimes gets back together with his ex wife too), or he comes alone. He's not getting to bring any Tom, !!!!!! or Harry to the wedding- or their female equivalents!!:rotfl:

Faith177

Why dont companies come back to you when they say they will don't they know how important these things are!

Contacted my caterers on Monday to re-arrange an appointment still waiting a callback.

E-mailed my cake people as they weren't answering the phone no answer.

E-mailed a woman about balloons no response.

Grrrr

sdr2211

Thanks Stir_crazy, 74jax and johannalf88 - I am sooo angry about it but caught between a rock and a hard place - if she goes ahead with her plan she will try to completely overshadow my day, if he doesn't take the hints and do it, she will be so miserable that it might overshadow the day. Actually shared the post with my OH who didn't know about her plan as it was easier than telling him (I tried but struggled to get it across as I was so angry) and he has said he is going to have a word with her partner. 74jax, I would agree that a spur of the moment thing would be wonderful but I think in that instance the happy couple might have the sense to keep it quiet until afterwards.
Stir_crazy - I hope your OH has sorted his friend out and that you don't have to put up with people you don't want at your wedding. I think you have done really well to agree to invite someone you don't know and he is seriously taking the mickey here. Rise above it and enjoy your day - I am sure there are lots of other people who you could spend the time with . Good luck with that one!

Faith177 - this is a particular bug bear for me irrespective of the context. I always try to call or e-mail back if I have missed something as soon as I can, even simply to acknowledge that I have seen the e-mail or heard the message. Manners cost you nothing and even if you can't deal with the query immediately at least you can let people know that you are trying.
The only thing I would say for e-mails in particular - I have terrible problems when making a first contact sometimes as my e-mail address is considered spam (I work for a University?! so not sure how that happens) and so sometimes they go into a black hole. No excuse for phone messages though.

bubbles0169

the bus is picking you up and dropping you off in the same place and at the same time as stated in the invitation which took me days to make and which you received 3 months ago please !!!!!!! read it!!
no its not ok to let me know the day before if youre coming to the ceremony and having a vegetarian breakfast because you might have to work
aaaaahhhhhh$%$^&&$££*(

eleanora_

sdr2211 wrote: »

I'm a Bridezilla and my confession is.....

I am really happy that you have found someone you want to spend your life with, but is it really necessary for you to target my wedding day as the day on which he proposes? You have, as MoH tried to veto dresses, shoe selections, jewellery, complained about your hair, the Make up artist and have asked for a bolero 'just in case it is chilly' on the day. I have humoured you so far, but I am so angry that you can't let us have ONE day on which you aren't thinking solely of YOUR SELF. Because it will be romantic, won't it?
No - it would be selfish and it is un-necessary. Try the other 364 days between now and then...
That's better

I used to work with a girl whose OH proposed at their friend's engagement do. All pre-planned on both their parts. Bizarre!

Faith177

Just ordered BM dresses.

One BM asked if I could have it sent to her house so she doesn't have to pick it up.

Ermmm no you can't as I'm not paying 2 lots of delivery charges when you live 20 mins away

BugglyB

I don't want a bloody veil!!!!!!

Even after 'oh but it looks so nice' 'oh well it doesnt matter if its the long one or the short one but you have to have one' 'oh you just haven't found the right one yet' 'you can't get married without a veil' - even after the blimmin wedding dress shop lady chimes in with 'darling you really need to have a veil' (?!#*)

I DONT WANT ONE

:mad: