I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

lanavdt

bubbles0169 wrote: »

we have to use the resident dj so i emailed the venue to ask if we could collude with them re our tastes and they replied with something along the lines of 'we know what a dj should do do you think were stupid? a dj has to cater for loads of different tastes not just yours'
i really want to reply but dont want to come across BZ and accuse her of being condescending which i think she is
if you want to see the actual reply ill pm you
oo im getting so peed off with it all im starting to think ill be glad when its all over
that wedding surfbaord i kept telling people to hold tight and ride out? its chucked me off too many times so now im drowning

I went to my friend's reception and she'd specifically requested no cheesy cha cha slide or a couple of others. The dj claimed people had requested them along with the ketchup song when no one had been near him all evening!
She was not a happy bunny and he was so rude about it :mad:

So relieved mine has requested a playlist although it will possibly be more of a 'do not play this and this and...' rather than requests

And JTR- it's absolutely gorgeous!

lisajane8482

lanavdt wrote: »

So relieved mine has requested a playlist although it will possibly be more of a 'do not play this and this and...' rather than requests

I'm considering asking the DJ not to play a couple of songs which will be don't look back in anger and mustang Sally as thats my h2b ex's name and for one day I would like her name not to be mentioned.

dingdongavoncalling

Just wanted to say I completely understand how your H2B is feeling. I too suffer from anxiety, and although I can't wait to be married to the man I love and have been with for 8 years (so clearly no commitment issues there!) and although at times, and on good days, I can get excited about wedding planning I also get very anxious and feel sick thinking about the 'big' day. I felt sick going to try on dresses for the first time, something everyone seems to get excited about!
Has he been to the doctor? I have been perscribed beta blockers which help to slow my heart rate down. You can also get 'kalms' and 'rescue remedy' over the counter.
Good luck

White_Sapphire

I'm having a bridezilla moment, as H2B announced that he has agreed to his brother inviting his girlfriend of 2 months to the wedding. As well as her 2-year-old child.

Thanks for consulting me then, honey.....

In my opinion, if you weren't together when the invites went out, it is not an established relationship yet; for all we know, they'll split up soon after our wedding, and we'll have photos of a woman we've never met before and will never see again in all our wedding photos.

But, as he's already said yes, I can't do a damn thing without coming across as unreasonable.

I could quite happily throttle him right now...

:mad:

EDIT: I've calmed down (the above was written about 2 minutes after he told me!!), he's apologised for not consulting me, and for the way he told me, and she may not come anyway, as she and his brother live abroad. Plus, although I'm slightly annoyed at his brother for asking, I know him well enough that he wouldn't ask if it were just a fling, so she obviously means quite a lot to him.

Deep breath, and on to the next item on my to-do list...

Roz_V

White_Sapphire wrote: »

and we'll have photos of a woman we've never met before and will never see again in all our wedding photos.

Photoshop is a wonderful thing If you don't want her in the group shots, don't include her on the photographers list :beer:

Hope you're feeling better this morning, and that she doesn't turn up at the wedding after all

wannabemrs

Roz_V wrote: »

Photoshop is a wonderful thing If you don't want her in the group shots, don't include her on the photographers list :beer:

Hope you're feeling better this morning, and that she doesn't turn up at the wedding after all

At my sister's wedding, she invited my OH at the time to be an usher...and we actually split up at the wedding! Felt terrible, but thankfully she didn't notice on the day, and clever working with photographs means he isn't in any of the ones in her album.

Totally agree about being together when the invites go out.

LEJC

This "photo" story has got me thinking...its a snapshot of social history...I'd let her be there in one maybe and you can all look back in 20 years and either say "that was the start of it " or..."what the hell did you bring her for".....

I was in a situation when we first got together that his brother and wife had just produced first grandchild,and to mark the occaision there was a family portrait....not to include me as I was seen as the "new girlfriend" and not family....20 years on and I'm now in the family,but they don't proudly display the photo as brother in law and his wife have split up!

White_Sapphire

I agree LEJC; I'll let her be in the large group shots, and as we're having a photo-journalistic thing going on it'll be impossible to avoid having her in any (although I will have a quiet word with the photographer to make sure she's not in loads of them )

clearing_out_my_pockets

White_Sapphire wrote: »

I agree LEJC; I'll let her be in the large group shots, and as we're having a photo-journalistic thing going on it'll be impossible to avoid having her in any (although I will have a quiet word with the photographer to make sure she's not in loads of them )

I think that's the best approach. I'd been with my DH for four months (but this was the second time we'd dated - we were together for a year the first time) when his aunt got married. We were both invited to the day and I was in no photos at all. Not even the group ones. It hurts quite a bit actually.

johannalf88

That's what I always think... If they end up married etc, how will they feel being left out of all the photos.