I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

Gemmzie

Mojisola wrote: »

You don't have children, do you?

No I don't but several other friends/family are leaving their children with babysitters and one is letting their 10 year old watch a film during the meal.

NoAngel

MrsDrink wrote: »

Slightly off topic here - but can we decide what the purpose of this thread is?
Is it so we can poke fun at ourselves at our stupid whims and wants regarding our weddings? (Like the OPs desire for all her guests to wear her colours). Or is it so we can offload our serious gripes and complaints about the planning process? I think there is a need for both, but maybe not necessarily in the same thread - I don't know.

Yesterday I wrote a fairly lengthy reply about reasons for not attending a church ceremony, but still wanting to be part of the day and celebrate with the couple. But then I talked myself out of posting it because this thread originally wasn't about criticising each other. Just somewhere for us to offload. But we can't have 'omg that is so justified' posts and not expect 'you are being totally unreasonable' replies at the same time.

Why am I writing this? Because I read this thread, but don't reply to anyone because I no longer know what the purpose of this thread is. I don't mean to upset anyone, just throwing this out there so to speak.

As originally intended, a light-hearted laugh at ourselves and occasional reassurance from others! I think the posts where we've just listed our gripes and made each other laugh is the direction we should be heading back towards?

Angel_of_Tomfoolery

In terms of a petty bridezilla-ism...My mum said today that my dad would buy a new suit for my wedding next year, but then said that as a family friend is getting married this year he could buy one for hers and then wear it to mine as well...for some reason that really annoyed me! I know it would be a waste of money for him to buy two suits just for my benefit but I can't help wanting everyone to be in brand new outfits!

sugarwalsh

Angel, I was marginally annoyed today when my Mum showed me the suit she is wearing to our wedding as she has worn it once before. She is notorious for buying new outfits for EVERY occasion. She has, at least, bought a new dress for the night!! It was only a momentary annoyance though, especially when she opened her enormous wardrobe which is fulll of things she never wears!

I don't mind which route this thread takes, sometimes things gt serious, but not for long. I don't think it requires defining!

And the kid thing... We are only having family kids. Everyone else has to organise babysitters. There are 17 kids coming as it is and I can neither afford OR want more there. And yes, 4 of them are mine, so I am talking with experience of children. I personally would not have a problem leaving the kids to watch a film, I think it depends completely on the parents an whether the kids could be trusted. If the kids are gong to be in the htoel though I can't understand why you would shut them up in a room. Either ask them not to bring them or invite them.

MEegan

Mojisola

Gemmzie wrote: »

No I don't but several other friends/family are leaving their children with babysitters and one is letting their 10 year old watch a film during the meal.

sugarwalsh wrote: »

There are 17 kids coming as it is and I can neither afford OR want more there. And yes, 4 of them are mine, so I am talking with experience of children. I personally would not have a problem leaving the kids to watch a film, I think it depends completely on the parents an whether the kids could be trusted.

Babysitters are fine - could the families get together and share the cost?

I think whether you can leave kids depends on the kids rather than the parents. I know families where you could happily leave one child but not the other.

As the parents have come up with a solution - one stays with the children, the other joins the wedding party - I would let them get on with it.

sugarwalsh

Sorry, I meant it depends on the parents - whether they are happy to leave them, and the kids - I can trust my older two, but I know lots of kids their age who you wouldn't dream of leaving on their own!

Megan

Em88

My BM is planning my hen do and I am being left in the dark. I gave her a few ideas of things I would and wouldn't like so I completely trust her and chose to not know anything else. She has set up a facebook group and my mum keeps moaning about bits of it to me. Now I have already given in on loads of stuff to keep my mum happy and she know's I want it to be a surprise so it is really annoying me that she keeps moaning about it to me. I have told her, more than once, that she should talk to my BM about it now me but she doesn't listen. ggggrrrr

Gemmzie

Just to clarify, none of the children were invited, people have just decided to bring them

sugarwalsh

gemmzie - can you explain that you didn't want to invite children and you would be happier if they left their kids with a baby sitter? I know it is a difficult subject, but I think it needs tackling. If you don't want to do that then I think you will have to accept the kids with good grace and let their parents deal with them.
MEgan

bettyB_2

I think this thread serves a dual purpose - laughing about our silly wedding related stresses and occasionally serving as a reality check!

Thanks roz_v you are right, and maybe I just need to check my emails less often (and with a glass of wine!)