I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

double_mummy

you can go to tenerfie for a week for much less than that sharpee but they are being very unreasonable

taking the little one out of school shouldnt be something they can expect you to do

have u asked if they are expecting you to pay or if they are? also what day is it on could you not just go out for a long weekend?

neilcrook

I'm really disappointed with OH family - strong Catholics so probably don't agree with the whole 2nd marriage but they show NO enthusiasm. Every time i've brought the wedding up to try and get the parents involved they just ignore me really... I try and try and try and Nothing, Nada, zilch.

sharpee

double_mummy wrote: »

you can go to tenerfie for a week for much less than that sharpee but they are being very unreasonable

taking the little one out of school shouldnt be something they can expect you to do

have u asked if they are expecting you to pay or if they are? also what day is it on could you not just go out for a long weekend?

Probably could do it for less if they didn;t want us all to go on the same flight, stay in the same hotel and basically dictate how we spend the week! Oh and the wedding is on a Sunday so can't even do a weekend.

We get married in Feb and we're trying to save up some form of a deposit so we can buy a house so we really don't have the money and refuse to sacrifice our honeymoon for the sake of going to their wedding!

abi-em-mum83

I think its totally unfair of them to expect you to take your son out of school!
Im being a bridezilla again, this time over the ceremony! Im catholic, h2b is not christened, although his grandparents are strict catholics. We have booked our wedding for 2013 and to save money having ceremony and reception at the same venue. We both decided we would like a religious ceremony but a Catholic ceremony can only be conducted in a church. We were told a Church of Scotland minister would marry us, but trying to find one is a nightmare! Out of the 3 our venue reccommended, 2 havent returned our calls, and when I called one he seemed a bit.....dottled!lol. I dont want a registrar marrying us, Id like a religious one but its the first big part of the ceremony that isnt going my way! Lol so far everything else has gone more or less my way! How spoilt am I!!!lol

double_mummy

abi cant you find a venue with a chapel attached?

wanchai_2

sharpee wrote: »

I'm not sure if this falls under as Bridezilla-ish but . ..

We really wanted to get married on the same date as our first day which would be a Friday next year. We thought long and hard about it and decided it would be unfair to ask our guests to take a day off work so have booked our Wedding for the day after so a saturday.

Now H2B sister and her H2B have booked their wedding for next year. No big deal there however . . .

They are getting married in Tenerife in June and expect us all to go out for a week!:eek: Now H2B doesn't want to go full stop so thats all sorted but his family are now all up in arms as they expected us to come:mad: This just makes me :mad: for the following reasons;

1. I might be being made redundant in March and hence no job and we lose 2/3 of our income.
2. I don't get a lot of annual leave and don't like the fact that the wedding would turn out to be our Summer holiday, which I don't want to take in June but in August so I can have a holiday with my son.
3. The cost is going to be around £2500 just to go!
4. They all expect us to take DS out of school for a week which I refuse to do!

So now we're the black sheep of the family and have had 'well its going to cost us money to come to your wedding'! Yes but only travel as we're paying for their accomodation and not asking for gifts.

So mad as we compromised on our date to ensure no-one had to book time off work and have made sure its not too expensive for all to attend. Yet we're expected to book a weeks annual leave, take DS out of school for a week and possibly have to fork out up to £3k to go to SIL wedding!

Grrrrrr

That's terrible!!!!!!!!!!!

Just tell them that the school won't let DS take the week off. Poor you. Have a hug xx

AutumnBride85

Im a Bridezilla and my confession is

1) No screaming kids to ruin the service

2) No cold chicken legs, cheese and pineapple on sticks or MIL's trifle on the evening buffet!!

Hollie84

I am a bridezilla and my MIL annoys me
we told her the seating for the top table which didnt include step parents as in OH's step mum and dad as then he would have to have his sisters and nan on the table,she pulled a face about the fact her hubby wouldnt be sat with her so i told her its a max of 2hrs and its our day after all.then we told her we werent inviting 2 out of 4 of OH's uncles to the evening as they dont bother with us and never have,only time they speak is if they bump into each other which is rare.his mum didnt say anything until 3 days later when he rang her and she asked if his one uncle,wife and daughter could come and she would pay the buffet price for each of them !!!!!! simply because she dont really talk to one of her brothers over the fact she sorted the will out when her mother died and the one brother (whos invited)never got anything and they blame her so there is an atmosphere.not my problem,so now she has put us in an awkward position and OH has said he will feel bad taking money from his mum,sorry but we have a budget and they werent invited.what is it with people not understanding they arnt invited,our day!!!!! our way!
when we first told her we had booked a date she didnt say anything,seriously not a word came from her lips,OH's step dad said about time and that was it.we have been together 6 yrs and have 2 kids.she isnt one of them excitable persons but OH is her only child for goodness sake.he is feeling upset about it all as its like his mum cant for once be excited about something especially our big day!

abi-em-mum83

double_mummy wrote: »

abi cant you find a venue with a chapel attached?

Hi no we've already booked our venue and paid deposit and more, its a gorgeous hotel that we got for a steal. I stupidly just assumed you could get a catholic priest to marry you anywhere, as Id been to weddings where they had a religious ceremony before! The minister we called kept getting our names totally wrong, Katie instead of Tracy and Stephen instead of David, could you imagine that on the day! Im wondering if it would just be easier to have a registrar marry us :-(
Im also stressing over bridesmaids dresses! My maid of honour is 5ft 4/5" a size 10 and doesnt like wearing heels, and my other adult bridesmaid is 6ft, size 18 and loves heels! So trying to find off the peg dresses that will fit them both, and suit both body types (slim,small chest and curvy, well stacked!) is a nightmare. Doesnt help that they are 400 miles apart so its not like we can go shopping, and we have all said we'd prefer long dresses!
Add to that Im in a quandry of junior bridesmaids dresses!! Im having my 2 daughters who will be 4 and 6 years as flower girls, and picked gorgeous dresses out. Also having my 2 stepdaughters who will be 11 and 9, but in a real dilemma with their dresses! They are both very very slim, and are too grown up for the dresses Ive picked out for the little 2, but not grown up enough for the junior bridesmaids dresses Ive seen!
Any advice anyone?

mildred1978

Hollie84 wrote: »

I am a bridezilla and my MIL annoys me
we told her the seating for the top table which didnt include step parents as in OH's step mum and dad as then he would have to have his sisters and nan on the table,she pulled a face about the fact her hubby wouldnt be sat with her so i told her its a max of 2hrs and its our day after all.then we told her we werent inviting 2 out of 4 of OH's uncles to the evening as they dont bother with us and never have,only time they speak is if they bump into each other which is rare.his mum didnt say anything until 3 days later when he rang her and she asked if his one uncle,wife and daughter could come and she would pay the buffet price for each of them !!!!!! simply because she dont really talk to one of her brothers over the fact she sorted the will out when her mother died and the one brother (whos invited)never got anything and they blame her so there is an atmosphere.not my problem,so now she has put us in an awkward position and OH has said he will feel bad taking money from his mum,sorry but we have a budget and they werent invited.what is it with people not understanding they arnt invited,our day!!!!! our way!
when we first told her we had booked a date she didnt say anything,seriously not a word came from her lips,OH's step dad said about time and that was it.we have been together 6 yrs and have 2 kids.she isnt one of them excitable persons but OH is her only child for goodness sake.he is feeling upset about it all as its like his mum cant for once be excited about something especially our big day!

TBH I think this is the problem when you sort out so much of the detail so far ahead of the wedding - it gives people the impression they can change things.

Our venue was booked 9 months before the wedding, and we organised nothing else for 5 months. Guest lists were sorted out with 3 months to go, and the seating plans etc the weekend before the wedding. Meant there was no time for wider discussion and people just sat where we told them to.

Maybe you need a few weeks/months off from talking wedding 24/7 and then come back to it resolved to keep a bit more to yourself.