I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

Hadley1

So sorry to hear about your mum.

Very , very big hugs coming your way and I hope things become abit clearer soon.

TamVilla80

Hi Aj. I can completely relate to your situation because I was in in last month. I knew straight away what I wanted to do, it wasnt the most practical / financial option, but there was no way I was getting married with my dad sitting in a hospital bed down the road. He was taken into hospital at the beginning of May and we were getting married on the 3 June, but a week before it became obvious that my dad was waiting for an operation and wouldn't be able to get out so I (with full support of my lovely oh) postponed the wedding. We still went on our honeymoon because everyone told us to, but unfortunatly my dad took a turn for the worst while we were away and passed away. My dad wont' be with us when we get married now anyway, but I stand 100% by our decison to postponed it until we thought my dad could give me away. You will be covered on your wedding insurance for illness of a parent and all of our suppliers have been very understanding. If you are honest with people and say why you are doing it, then it can all be sorted. Hope it goes all ok for you x

LEJC

Tam ....its all about making the decision and compromise thats right for the situation isnt it?....and as long as you do what you think is for the best then people will respect your decisions and help or accomodate changes willingly...

Even now years on...I wouldnt have done it differently given the situation that it was mum that was ill...although there is still a part of me that wonders if it was the other way round and my dad was the one in hospital...I may have chosen a different option...I guess that just goes to show how fine the line of decision is.

Theres really no right or wrong way of dealing with this type of situation other than going with whats right for you or the gut instinct...

I hope you have your wonderful day soon even though its never going to be as you originally hoped....

ruthybabs

ajmoney wrote: »

It is nice to hear that someone went ahead anyway. We have 2 plans. If my mum is well enough to temporarily leave hospital we are going to see if she can travel up just for the ceremony with my dad and then go back to the hospital (but we live 3 hours away). Options 2 is to go down early on the morning of the wedding with the chaplain and have a blessing with my mum (and my dad if he will not leave her) then come back up and get married. It all depends what the hospital will allow. I know of someone else who would walk me down the aisle, I asked OH last night if he would do it but he found it a bit wierd.


We checked the wedding insurance clauses as soon as we heard and are covered. May have to use photoshop on the official photos. We have already changed a few things with my new name so it may be easier to go ahead anyway. We have until 15th August on our current licence to get married so we could postpone it. They have to be involved somehow on the day even if we have to travel loads, if the hospital don't allow it then it may be postponed. Final idea is we go ahead anyway without them then when mum is well enough the four or us go away for a blessing and holiday. I would get to wear my dress again.

Sounds as though you have really thought about finding the best way to include your mum. I hope you have a wonderful day-however and whenever you do it and that your mum recovers soon.

ajmoney

We are going ahead with the wedding. We still don't know if mum or dad will be coming but have a plan in place if not. Although I would kind of like dad to come for a few hours just to give me away, he could be back for evening visiting times if um is still in hospital, don't think he would do it though. While we were visiting today the hospital chaplain came to see her, we have talked our idea of a blessing through, they have done it before and said there would be someone there to help us.

I have the wedding dress here now and everyone elses clothes too so they only have to worry about getting here. Things appear to be working out so why do I feel more unhappy now than this morning?

LEJC

You are feeling aprehensive,purely because its not how you planned it...and obviously not how you would want it to be.....but you need to remain positive....and those around you will be extremely supportive and very proud of you...you are doing a fantastically well....big hugs!

becca0417

(((aj))) xxx

cathy_j87

I am a bridezilla and my confession is.....
My fiances best-man is in fact a best-woman and I want her to wear a suit and have bad hair and makeup because I think she's too pretty and I don't want her to look nicer than me!

White_Sapphire

cathy_j87 wrote: »

I am a bridezilla and my confession is.....
My fiances best-man is in fact a best-woman and I want her to wear a suit and have bad hair and makeup because I think she's too pretty and I don't want her to look nicer than me!

Just find out what colour least suits her and make her wear it

cathy_j87

I like your thinking White_Sapphire! A friend has already suggested I make her wear her hair tight up because she has a reasonably large forehead
H2B doesn't seem to understand why he gets glared at when he says to her "sure just wear whatever you like"......she's quite gothy and likes the idea of a top-hat!