I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

twirlypinky

Although the wedding is over, i'm still having bridezilla moments.

Firstly - why can't people put their pics on our photobox page like we asked? What is so hard about that?? We're still waiting on three couples (out of the seven that came) and i don't think we'll get them. It irritates me because before the wedding when we explained that we didn't want a professional photographer etc, they were all "yeah, great idea, we'll give you our pics no worries". Grrr.

Secondly - in the ten days running up to the wedding MiL moaned and moaned about her hair, we had to go and find her a hairdresser etc etc. My sister was doing my hair and i'm the bride!!! I love my MiL but that did my head in!!

codemonkey

Urrrghh, I've suddenly taken violently against my junior bridesmaids dresses.

My bridesmaids are 13 and 10 (although the 10 year old is so tall, she's actually in the 13 year olds dress and the 13 year old is wearing an age 12 dress). It's this one,



and I've replaced the ivory sash with a burgundy one, allowed the ends of the ribon to cross and to drop to the bottom of the dress, and secured at the side of the waist with a pearl and diamante brooch thing. Only thing is, from the photo I thought it would be long, but it's mid calf length and when I tried it on them, they didn't seem very enthusiastic. I reckon they think it's babyish.

Now I'm considering buying the merlot dresses from BHS instead but I didn't get my adult bridesmaids dresses there so the burgundy would probaby be different.

Arrrggh..

stationaryace

Urgh! It's been three months since the proposal and we haven't set a date yet. I know that our family will need time to make travelling arrangements, book time off (there is a large foreign contingent who we are close to and desperate to come) plan outfits etc but guess what - WE need to know the date more as WE have things to book too. Like the whole ********** WEDDING!

Eloping is starting to sound like fun....

We want all our family there, we really do, but just without the pressure to pick a date, pick a date. There is a reason we are taking our time (although it could be that we are being a bit fussy:p), we haven't forgotten!

ajmoney

Meant to be getting married in 3 days but my mum is in the critical care unit at the hospital after having heart problems on Monday and so far we have no diagnosis. Not sure if the wedding can take place yet and if my mum can come up. Why every now and again do I think how unfair it is that we won't be able to have the chilled out day we wanted. It goes again really quickly but I feel so guilty for having those thoughts.

ruthybabs

ajmoney wrote: »

Meant to be getting married in 3 days but my mum is in the critical care unit at the hospital after having heart problems on Monday and so far we have no diagnosis. Not sure if the wedding can take place yet and if my mum can come up. Why every now and again do I think how unfair it is that we won't be able to have the chilled out day we wanted. It goes again really quickly but I feel so guilty for having those thoughts.

Hugs! Hope your mum is better soon. I can imagine you must alternate between worry for your mum, frustration at the lack of answers and just being naffed off at the inconvenient timing after working so hard to plan this special day. It doesn't mean you don't care about your mum, just that you've put a lot into this and might have to wait a bit longer for it. Think you're very brave to admit it as many people will be shocked at what they consider selfishness, but I understand you want to scream at the unfairness of it all! Hope it all works out xxx

LEJC

OH AJ thats not a bridezilla moment...thats totally normal in the situation you are in....I cant advise you what to do...you have to do whats right for you and the family...but I know exactly what you are feeling...it happened to me...
my mum went into hospital the week before having suffered a heart attack...we made the heartbreaking decision to carry on without her there but involved her as much as we could with final preparations etc and lots of messages on the day...there were tears of joy and sadness...and we did have in hindsight a very beautiful and moving day...
everything happens for a reason...and whilst I was all for cancelling again with hindsight Im glad we didnt...my dad died suddenly and unexpectedly the next day.....


My mum made a recovery and is still very much with us...but it goes to show that fate sometimes deals you a difficult hand when you least expect it.

Sending you lots of hugs at your difficult time...

codemonkey

Wow. That puts things into perspective. I'm so sorry about your mum AJ. Wedding insurance should cover cancellation due to illness of one of the wedding party if you feel you need to postpone.

I hope she gets better soon. :grouphug:

Tiara_2

I'm really sorry to hear about your Mum AJ. I hope she is making good progress and that you can get some answers from the doctors. Look after yourself my dear :grouphug:

ajmoney

LEJC wrote: »

OH AJ thats not a bridezilla moment...thats totally normal in the situation you are in....I cant advise you what to do...you have to do whats right for you and the family...but I know exactly what you are feeling...it happened to me...
my mum went into hospital the week before having suffered a heart attack...we made the heartbreaking decision to carry on without her there but involved her as much as we could with final preparations etc and lots of messages on the day...there were tears of joy and sadness...and we did have in hindsight a very beautiful and moving day...
everything happens for a reason...and whilst I was all for cancelling again with hindsight Im glad we didnt...my dad died suddenly and unexpectedly the next day.....


My mum made a recovery and is still very much with us...but it goes to show that fate sometimes deals you a difficult hand when you least expect it.

Sending you lots of hugs at your difficult time...

It is nice to hear that someone went ahead anyway. We have 2 plans. If my mum is well enough to temporarily leave hospital we are going to see if she can travel up just for the ceremony with my dad and then go back to the hospital (but we live 3 hours away). Options 2 is to go down early on the morning of the wedding with the chaplain and have a blessing with my mum (and my dad if he will not leave her) then come back up and get married. It all depends what the hospital will allow. I know of someone else who would walk me down the aisle, I asked OH last night if he would do it but he found it a bit wierd.

LEJC Would you have gone ahead if your dad hadn't been there either? Was you dad ill prior to the wedding day? Sorry for your loss and a terrible time around your wedding.

We checked the wedding insurance clauses as soon as we heard and are covered. May have to use photoshop on the official photos. We have already changed a few things with my new name so it may be easier to go ahead anyway. We have until 15th August on our current licence to get married so we could postpone it. They have to be involved somehow on the day even if we have to travel loads, if the hospital don't allow it then it may be postponed. Final idea is we go ahead anyway without them then when mum is well enough the four or us go away for a blessing and holiday. I would get to wear my dress again.

LEJC

Speak to the hospital....we found them to be incredibly accommodating especially in the circumstances...

Our plans were progressing normally until the week before...then mum was taken ill...we decided to go ahead...there was not really a point where my dad said who he would be with on the day...I assume he and mum may have discussed it but it was the natural choice for him to be with me...and for us all to visit mum both before and afterwards...we were lucky in as much as it was only a half hour journey...so from that point of view we envolved mum as best we could....and although balloons and flowers were not normally allowed at the hospital they did thier best to make her feel special on the day too

Its very strange to say..but my dad was as fit as a fiddle and we had absolutely no warning of what was about to happen.

When mum eventually came out of hospital we actually took her out on a sunday so we could go to a church service at the church and then on to the hotel where we held our reception for a sunday lunch...again they treated her like a queen...and whilst shes always said shes sad she missed the actual day...she doesnt regret at all that we carried on with it....

Youve thought of some wonderful options to include your mum in the day...I really hope that one will be suitable...whatever decisions you make,your guests will be totally supportive of you...make the decisions that are right for you and everyone else will fall in with your plans....