MSE Pregnancy Club 18

xmaslolly76

My ex was always awkward with my first two when they were very tiny but once they could hold them selves up he was fine. I never made a big thing of it but seeing how my now OH was with bubs i wish i had have pushed him a bit about it as babies arent made of glass you wont break them unless your doing something stupid you just have to be gentle they are very resiliant little things and quite bendy and flexible. The other thing is Daddy bonding time is so important my first two were very much all mommy as daddy never really held them which put alot of pressure on me and made him feel pushed out as they got older. If i was you i would try and make a very concious effort to get over your fear start small, even just sitting on the sofa feeding him/her on your own it will pay dividends in the end :-)

ManOnTheMoon

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

My ex was always awkward with my first two when they were very tiny but once they could hold them selves up he was fine. I never made a big thing of it but seeing how my now OH was with bubs i wish i had have pushed him a bit about it as babies arent made of glass you wont break them unless your doing something stupid you just have to be gentle they are very resiliant little things and quite bendy and flexible. The other thing is Daddy bonding time is so important my first two were very much all mommy as daddy never really held them which put alot of pressure on me and made him feel pushed out as they got older. If i was you i would try and make a very concious effort to get over your fear start small, even just sitting on the sofa feeding him/her on your own it will pay dividends in the end :-)

I'm okay with them sitting down as long as someone puts the baby in my arms. Standing up, attended or unattended, is a no-no. I have a habit of dropping things and this probably is where my fear comes from. When a baby cries when in my arms I also panic, as I don't know what i've done and most of the time I haven't - babies cry.

This is one of the reasons when the mother of my 2 eldest walked out, I hired a live in nanny straight away - it just turned out she had my next 5 Fortunately when she left, the youngest were just about to turn 6, so less panic.

I've no worries about the bonding as me and the girls are incredibly close (we've had to be) and I always played with them and done everything with them when they were babies, I just didn't like it alone as I was put into 'what if this happens' mode. I am a natural worrier over the girls though.

MERFE

my hubby dropped DS down the stairs at about 5 months, he bounced, he also let him roll of the changing table at about the same age, the boy is indestructible and now has no fear of anything. He managed to fall himself down the stairs at about 9 months whilst in OH care too, he just doesn't watch them closely enough. Not sure I'm gonna let him near this baby but if its another girl maybe he'll be more careful.

MERFE

I have just been informed that OH watched him fall down the stairs at 9 months, he is a right idiot sometimes. DS was peering down the stairs then looking at OH and smiling (at this point I'd have probably picked DS up and moved him away), he went to peer down the stairs again and his hand missed the top step and he rolled down. I don't think his experience made him any more careful but it probably did make me not leave them in OH care so much. He is much better with them now they are school age.

xmaslolly76

The only one of my three that has ever been dropped so to speak was the first one i took her up to bed with me to have a nap and not thinking i lay down with her on the outside of the bed instead of in the middle. At some point during the nap she did that jolt thing in her sleep where your body just kind of jumps for no reason and off the edge she went luckily im not the tidiest person and there was a pile of clothes there to break her fall and no lasting damage was done just a few tears i felt so flaming guilty though and ever since then baby goes in the middle of the bed with pillows down the side of them so they cant roll or jump off.

Motm i cant believe you have coped so well with all those little girls on your own you must have the patience of a saint. You must also be so very proud of them and yourself :-)

rach

my DH has no real experience of babies, he held his neice once and after about 2 minutes said 'does anyone else want a go?'....but last time we saw her at nearly 2 I got him to sit with her on his knee and they read a book, I've got a lovely pic of it. Just took a bit of encouragement really I think however that he will get stuck in when the baby is here, his friend at work has told him that though he'd never held a baby til his own was born he found it came quite naturally. We were all completely surprised by how my BiL took to everything, he was just the same but when my sis was unable to do anything he just got on with it!

Slightly irritated I've not slept in a bit longer as working from home again today. Have a meeting here at 10 though the girl is always early so I'd better be ready by 9.30. Want to empty all the carp from the cot and put the mattress in (think I'll leave it in the plastic for now though.

oxclairexo

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA wrote: »

I'm hoping I'll go sometime this week, I'm 37 weeks today and my last was almost 2 weeks early, I've had a show, lots of back pain and every evening I get what seems like the start of contractions then the just die off but now I'm starting to get them throughout the day also my constipation has miraclously been cured
but I'm holding out for the special poo !!!!

Special Poo! So much to look forward to :rotfl:!

DH was really insensitive last night. Ended up sobing, cuddling into Poppy our dog...stupid hormones . He'd been watching the news...something about being obese is just as bad for the baby as smoking or drinking and that I should take the dog for a walk. Now, on hindsight, I think he just thought I would be interested in the story (and couldn't be bothered walking the dogs in the rain himself). But what I heard was that I am fat, lazy, unattractive, and not doing everything I can to keep this baby safe....wouldn't mind but I'm only a size 12-14 and I'm not even showing yet! Anyhoo he apologised, gave me a cuddle and made dinner and I walked the dogs so all was well in the end. I bet he got the whole story wrong anyway.

delain

Well I'm monster free till 12 so could lie in as long as i wanted, but I was up by 8! Gahhh lol

Oh well, still got lots to do :rotfl:

I hope Durham Girl gets on OK today

DON79

I saw that story too Claire, never believe anything 100% the stupid news people report! and your OH should know better too... hugs xx

thing is that they can't make up their mind - what's dangerous or unsafe for baby 20 years ago is now safe and vice versa! you only have to look at the advice about how to put baby to sleep to see that - on their back or on their side or on their tummy etc etc etc!

yesterday seems to have been the day for insensitive husbands - certainly was for mine and for another poster on here anyway.

rach

and mine too yesterday, he was grumpy with me!