MSE Pregnancy Club 18

Bufger

sir_monster wrote: »

I must confess of late as I know I'm finishing in about 6 weeks and will be off for a year, motivation to do a lot at work has wained somewhat - does anyone else feel like this??

Yes - and i only get 2 weeks paternity :-(

rach

sir_monster wrote: »

I'm sitting in the office waiting for my turn for training, which my team never run on time. I must confess of late as I know I'm finishing in about 6 weeks and will be off for a year, motivation to do a lot at work has wained somewhat - does anyone else feel like this??

fingers crossed for good news for your sil.

I feel exactly the same about work, I've always really cared about work but just can't get motivated any more! In a way maybe it's a good thing. It doesn't look like they are going to get any cover for me at all whilst I'm off (combination of lazy bosses and recruitment freezes etc) which makes me care less in a way.

sir_monster

I really enjoy my job, but a combination of a new boss that hasn't spoke to me since he became my boss (possibly over a month a go!) as he works at another location and I'm trying to organise something to help them for when I go off but people can't be fussed to help, tbh I can't be bothered anymore. Sorry for the whinge, I'm sure after a year at home with bubs I'll be looking forward to some adult conversation. Anyway back to waiting for my turn at training, they said 09:40 . . .

tinkwings

smartie12 wrote: »

Emsy - all talk, no action!! Idiots like him are good at that;) Ignorance is bliss... and so much better for you and bubs! Trust me - been there, done that, got the t shirt!

I agree! I also have that T shirt!!!

PP - You are a total star :A

tinkwings

Dh and I got the dreaded name books out last night. What a total nightmare that was

You would think with only half the book to choose from it would be easier! I was so convienced it was a boy that is was going to be Issac James that I am now totally lost because it is a girl. The only thing I LOVE for a middle name is "tiger lilly" but DH HATES it with a passion. :mad: It is a middle name and for me it's beautiful and how often do people use a middle name???:mad:

Is it me???????

xmaslolly76

Bufger wrote: »

I know it may be TMI but we're in the same boat. We both want to but it either hurts her or she loses the feeling during it (if she feels bubs kick or anything it just puts her straight off it!). Dont fake one at all, as a guy i can honestly say its the one thing that would really upset me. If its not happening its not happening, maybe try a different style of playing and he'll still be grateful of his happy ending :rotfl:

Dont fake orgasms! women are crap at acting and if your fella actually cares about you he will be devastated.

Aww buf my Oh is a darling which is why it is getting him down i enjoy partaking as much as the big O so its no biggy for me he can still get some and we are both happy or at least thats how i see it. The faking was a bit of tongue in cheek i wouldnt do that to him :-)

mumof1and1ontheway

Hey girls I am so sorry that I never acknowledge any of you personally. I do read the posts, but as soon as I go to reply I forget whos put what lol. I am terrible!!

Does anyone know how I'd go about asking for a membrane sweep at 38 weeks? I do not see the consultant now until term+2. I did text my community midwife yesterday as I didnt want to ring and disturb her, but she isn't the best of midwives for being helpful. I see her in a week, but I have a feeling she will just dismiss what I say and that will be that. She is one of those midwives who wants you in and out of the door as fast as she can

I have been trying to do research on membrane sweeps with vbac, and even though they are only 50/50 successful if your cervix is getting ready, there seems to be no evidence that it increases any risks. So worth the ask eh?

I am now 35+3 and the reality of everything being set up and ready has hit me like a brick this morning.. wondering how I will cope as a single mum with a toddler and a newborn.. even more so if I end up with a section. I think its the section thing thats getting me down a little atm? As if I have a section I will not cope... I have no friends or family who can help... DS's dad can have him for a week or so, but to me the longer DS is away the more problems that would cause. So I am thinking "what the hell will I do? how will I cope? will they take my kids away if I cant manage? will I get pnd?" arggghhh. I am doing my own head in

emsywoo123

Thank you all so so much for your support. Particular thanks to pigpen, Tigs and others last night, as I was a hormonal wreck! This is turning into an Oscar speech! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

DD has been up since 4.30 as she had a nosebleed, so had very little sleep. But morning has made things clear!

I would have forgiven alcoholism, lies, deceit, general !!!!ness with money, unreliabilty (painting a good piccie here :rotfl:) to enable to him to be a father BUT I will not forgive the threats and how he made me feel last night.

I have realised, that last night, what little love I had left for him has gone.

rach

tinkwings - we were a bit the same with the first time we looked at names. I am starting to almost dread the baby being a boy as we just have no boys names. I love our girls name so so much!! The only one I liked was Joseph (my grandad's name) but DH's sister just called her little boy that! We have 3 possibles but non that really do it for me!

re sex - we have been about weekly, no chance of an O for me at the moment, I'm too self conscious I think. I just like the intimacy really...and I usually instigate it as I think DH worries that I won't feel in the mood. We haven't shared a bed for weeks though, which is working well in terms of getting sleep but I'm a bit worried that the longer we leave it the harder it will be to share again!

sir monster we can meet for coffee when we have the babies and have some adult conversation!

mumof1 - you will cope, though it will be hard. They won't take the children away, don't worry. In the past many women coped with no help from the dad. Are there not any friends at all around?

kitkat5566

Bufger wrote: »

I know it may be TMI but we're in the same boat. We both want to but it either hurts her or she loses the feeling during it (if she feels bubs kick or anything it just puts her straight off it!). Dont fake one at all, as a guy i can honestly say its the one thing that would really upset me. If its not happening its not happening, maybe try a different style of playing and he'll still be grateful of his happy ending :rotfl:

Dont fake orgasms! women are crap at acting and if your fella actually cares about you he will be devastated.

Bufger & Xmas, I am also in the same boat, as your OH espec Bufger. I keep getting kicked by the baby and it just puts me straight off! We had a very nice weekend but things are defo not the same, it does sometimes feel abit like theres 3 in the bed and it all gets a bit wrong!

Bufger: thanks for letting me know the colour, I was just curious! Is it the one with the little bits of orange trim? Thats the one I went for, it looks very smart i also loved the red but OH wasnt keen!

Sir Monster: I feel the same as you about work, I just cannot be !!!!!d!! I have 4 weeks left and just feel like why should I worry about getting stuff ready, it doesnt help my job initially started as maternity cover as the lady I covered refused to show me how to do anything so I started the job blindly, in a wayI want them to realise how much stuff I do for them here!!