JC's kick up the butt diary!

jasperconran

well done a quick tally up, the bingo monies to come and my loose change comes to a grand total of £109:j I was going to use this to pay some more off of OH's cc, but this will have to go into the bank unfortunately.

But, at least it means we wont go over our overdraft:j

much happier now! right, must have some brekkie then off to the bank!

savingwannabe

Well done. Roll on tomorrow and you can chill i hope! You deserve it!

:j

jasperconran

savingwannabe wrote: »

Well done. Roll on tomorrow and you can chill i hope! You deserve it!

:j

thanks hun, I know it probably sounds awful, but I am sooo looking forward to him going. This house is gonna get such a good make over! lol. lets hope OH actually notices and appreciates it! cos if he doesnt im gonna be really :mad:

I will take some time out during all of this, I've got sooooo much I would like to do, but I dont want to end up burning myself out! lol

hope all is well with you x

savingwannabe

Yes. I have come home from work and i am on way to counselling in an hour! so am having a cup of tea first whilst looking out of window at the fantastic view!

jasperconran

ive just made a startling discovery! lol. My findings have made me even MORE determined to beat this debt and stay motivated.

IF and its a big IF I can get OH's spending under control, I have worked out that by December 2011 our combined debts (inc the secured) will be down to just a tad over £60,000!!!!!!:j

how fab would that be?!;)

Off to do some more number crunching now, goodness, I think Im becoming obsessed!!:rotfl:

watch out, these could become serious:rotfl:

hope you are all ok and enjoying the weather:cool:

40somethingmum

Hi JC,

Only one more sleep till........:j:j:j FREEDOM;)

savingwannabe

Well done in being so cheery JC. It is infectious!!!!

:j

jasperconran

morning everyone!

Morning savingwannabe and 40sm, thanks for popping in yesterday.

Well, today is the day!:j:j:j:j:j:j:j I am sooooooo excited, sad isnt it! :rotfl:Its a beautiful day outside and for the first time in ages I feel great!!! lol

So tonight I will be starting my rather long list of things to do! first things first, ebay ebay ebay! lol. I must stay focused and start getting things listed. The house needs a major de-cluttering and I've got loads of stuff to sell, plus I need the money!

nothing much else to report as yet, so Im off to walk the doggie shortly.

hope you all have a great day, speak later x

moo2moo

It took me a long time to realise this but theres absolutely nothing YOU can do to keep OHs spending under control. Only OH can do that and he has to be able to do it his way on his terms, when he wants to, otherwise you're wasting your time and energy banging your head against a brick wall. Harsh but honest.

You have to be selfish and focus on the things you can do something about. That way you will achieve somethig. It means that you'll only half reach your goal but at the point you are debt free at least you'll then be in a position to bale him out without going under yourself. As it is you kee p doing something positive only to find that hes done something stupid and you're right back where you started. You've done the bingo and the e-baying and the chat lines and he's spent the money. I know marriage is a partnership but it should be give and take on both sides not you giving and him taking.

jasperconran

hiya moo2moo,

thanks for stopping by. I know exactly what you are saying, im doing everything I can. I have just started to do daily clicks, I do surveys for vouchers for birthdays. I do everything I can. I know I shouldnt help him, but I cant stop myself. I dont know why I keep doing it, I think maybe I feel partly to blame. after all, I didnt try very hard to stop him really. I HAVE tried to talk to him in the past, but I get ignored and/or told its all my fault, I have even been threatened with violence.:(

I just want a debt free life. I will sort myself out first, as I have only actually got 2 cc's and 1 loan. OH has got 1 loan and 3 cc's and his balances are all high:eek:

will keep you all posted as to how I get on with ebay etc.

speak soon x