OH just left.......I'm 11 weeks pregnant....UPDATE

emsywoo123

I have spoken to his bro via text this evening-he knows what he is like, but not to the extent. I asked if he had spoken to him for his version of events, and apparently he reckons he had one beer and I went mental.
So he is lying to everyone. And I sound psycho.

mountainofdebt

Don't worry hun about what he is saying to other people - i have no doubt that in a few days his drinking will become more evident to others as well

emsywoo123

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Don't worry hun about what he is saying to other people - your dad saw him so he knows you weren't making things up - and i have no doubt that in a few days his drinking will become more evident to others as well

Dad didn't see him........was just DD and I, but this has happened before, and my parents believe me.
Unfortunately we go way back 16 years, from when we took the school bus together, he was my first boyf
So we know the same people, and he can give such a charming impression.

Dave_liverpool

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Dad didn't see him........was just DD and I, but this has happened before, and my parents believe me.
Unfortunately we go way back 16 years, from when we took the school bus together, he was my first boyf
So we know the same people, and he can give such a charming impression.

sorry to stick my nose in

'he can give such a charming impression'

but that was when he lived at yours and drank there, I presume, behind closed doors but now he is at a new home and behind other peoples closed doors.

emsywoo123

Dave_liverpool wrote: »

sorry to stick my nose in

'he can give such a charming impression'

but that was when he lived at yours and drank there, I presume, behind closed doors but now he is at a new home and behind other peoples closed doors.

Please do not apologise
He is only at his parents, and they know what he is like. His dad is a drunk, so not bothered, and his mother is blind after years of turning the other way for his dad.
Its when he sees people we know, (i.e his bro) he will feed this "1 beer she's mental" story

mountainofdebt

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Dad didn't see him........was just DD and I, but this has happened before, and my parents believe me.
Unfortunately we go way back 16 years, from when we took the school bus together, he was my first boyf
So we know the same people, and he can give such a charming impression.

Sorry hun - realised that after I posted so I edited it.

BitterAndTwisted

Angel, you don't have to justify your decision to people who are not part of your relationship. Let him tell other people anything he likes to avoid having to tell the truth. I'd advise you not to discuss the reason for the break-up with any of your friends, they will be able to make up their own minds once they've seen how he behaves, if they don't know already

BeenieCat

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Its when he sees people we know, (i.e his bro) he will feed this "1 beer she's mental" story

But anyone with half a brain will know he's talking bullocks because you're hardly gonna be getting drunk on a regular basis when you're pregnant. Plus, for him to leave you while pregnant, after all those years over an incident with one beer, well it's going to make him come off worse IMO.
Don't worry about it, people will either -a) not want to know why you split for fear of prying, or b) know that there's blatantly more to it than what he's claiming.

Anjiedee

Hi, i really hope you get things sorted, my dad was an alcoholic, and me and my sister and brother grew up seeing various things, my dad coming home drunk and falling over smashing a massive glass round vase off his head,blood everywhere, he was verbally abusive and used to shout a lot when he was drunk, and we used to sit at the top of the stairs and listen to it all. He had a lot of buisness problems when his partners took money from the company, although he drank before this, the downward spiral started from there. His cup of tea in the morning started into a glass of Strong white cider, i can not really remember a lot of the time he was sober and my mom bless her put up with a lot i think because she loved him and to keep the family unit together, they met and married within 6 weeks of meeting. He sadly got worse and worse and died a slow painful death at 63, i loved my dad so much but he put us all through a lot. I do not drink as i see what it can do to people. Also in my job in Bereavement i have seen death as young as late 20s due to alcohol. Children do remember things as i still have all these memories, and perhaps the best thing for you would to make a new start for yourself and your family without him. Even when my dad was dying in hospital he was begging me to take a drink into him. It was very sad to see.
I wish you all the best and hope that you make the right decisions.:)

emsywoo123

Anjiedee wrote: »

Hi, i really hope you get things sorted, my dad was an alcoholic, and me and my sister and brother grew up seeing various things, my dad coming home drunk and falling over smashing a massive glass round vase off his head,blood everywhere, he was verbally abusive and used to shout a lot when he was drunk, and we used to sit at the top of the stairs and listen to it all. He had a lot of buisness problems when his partners took money from the company, although he drank before this, the downward spiral started from there. His cup of tea in the morning started into a glass of Strong white cider, i can not really remember a lot of the time he was sober and my mom bless her put up with a lot i think because she loved him and to keep the family unit together, they met and married within 6 weeks of meeting. He sadly got worse and worse and died a slow painful death at 63, i loved my dad so much but he put us all through a lot. I do not drink as i see what it can do to people. Also in my job in Bereavement i have seen death as young as late 20s due to alcohol. Children do remember things as i still have all these memories, and perhaps the best thing for you would to make a new start for yourself and your family without him. Even when my dad was dying in hospital he was begging me to take a drink into him. It was very sad to see.
I wish you all the best and hope that you make the right decisions.:)

Thank you, I know that this cannot have been easy to post, and it really is appreciated.
I am starting the task of sorting his stuff today.
Dreading it, but needs to be done.