should have known better and yeah love is blind

burntfingers_2

wahooo:j

Just went online to pay my rent to my LHA and its a rent free week :j £64.00 transferred to my debt account....:T

Plus made a car payment £146.60

burntfingers_2

Have also made a payment of £250 which is half of my contractual payment for my mortgage (which is April's payment) had to ensure it was at their bank for the 1st so sent it by faster pay and was there within 2 hours .....have one more left reduced payment which will be May's payment.

By the time June's payment is due we will have moved back into the 'new house' and will no longer be paying the rent so then we are going to resume the contractual payment of £500 plus an amount towards the arrears.... Plus by then I should know whether my funding has been successful, but if not will be receiving my redundancy payment which will then clear the arrears.

My OH has said that he will then cover the mortgage payments until I can find another job....:A

funnyflipp

:TFor other half

Hurrah for the horse ride and for you for getting up there, keep going xx

burntfingers_2

Nothing much to report really yesterday was a low spend day of £2.00 which was a sandwich I was at HO and there is a greggs so close by....downfall...:o

OH came home from building up his bike and as he said 'she is on her feet again!!' and was really chuffed so off to the pub we went for a few swift one's before tea...which was mediterranean veggies and jerk chicken...bit of a concoction but was using up all the tired looking veg in the fridge and its dead easy to do...plus OH and DS love it too...:):)

Talked to OH with regards to it being my wedding anniversary the day before and he asked as to how I felt with the upcoming move? I told him that it would be around the time that the abuse first started ...he said that we could put it off until after that time and I said no, that I felt that it would be a positive move forwards...:T if we moved back in :A

Was aiming for a NSD but as DS is back from his dad's and eating me out of house and home think I had better go to Mr A's tonight...hoping to not spend more than £50 though as I don't want to end up moving all the groceries etc.

Hope everyone is having a good day so far....xx

LittleBoots

Great news that you are officially now moving back into your new home. If that makes sense! Happy decorating

little_h_2

hi burntfingers,

I moved back into my old house that I had lived in with my ex hubby. There wasn't any abuse or anything like that thankfully, but it still felt a little strange and I was very apprehensive about it.

I completely redecorated the living room before I moved in, and the bedroom not long after. Combined with new furniture (he had most of it as I felt I needed to have new stuff) and a completely new layout, it really felt so different. Just things like the sofa and bed facing a different way will completely change the feel of a room

Wishing you lots of luck and happiness with your move

(PS I ride motorbikes and while I am not particularly girlie in my choice of attire, there is some really lovely stuff available at the moment with some subtle feminine touches without being too much. There is so much more choice these days compared to when I first started riding - and that was 'only' 15 years ago!)

burntfingers_2

little_h wrote: »

hi burntfingers,

I moved back into my old house that I had lived in with my ex hubby. There wasn't any abuse or anything like that thankfully, but it still felt a little strange and I was very apprehensive about it.

I completely redecorated the living room before I moved in, and the bedroom not long after. Combined with new furniture (he had most of it as I felt I needed to have new stuff) and a completely new layout, it really felt so different. Just things like the sofa and bed facing a different way will completely change the feel of a room

Wishing you lots of luck and happiness with your move

(PS I ride motorbikes and while I am not particularly girlie in my choice of attire, there is some really lovely stuff available at the moment with some subtle feminine touches without being too much. There is so much more choice these days compared to when I first started riding - and that was 'only' 15 years ago!)

Hiya thanks for all the messages of support to you two and all other lurkers and posters etc...thats what I love about this site, no matter how low you feel there is always someone to lift your spirits, the times when you feel that you are going stir crazy with trying to make the right decisions or just not knowing what to do and when....you can come on here and find that support from your virtual friends...:)

Littleh - I have read your diary well should I say I started to read it, I got from the end to around page 5 but was soooo tired last night that I had to take myself off to bed - reading through all the things that you have been through and I must say I am only halfway through....you deserve a huge big pat on the back. Since your first post your determination has shown through and I wish you continued success for the future. I have subscribed so will stop lurking and post I promise

As for the bike jacket - thank you for the offer it was really kind but somewhere I read on your diary that you are 5ft and a size 8/10 whereas I am 5ft 8 in bare feet and a plus size...but it was a lovely thought....:) I am slowly building up my gear....but the helmet that I do like is a shark s600 folies...in the black and pink....as I said its a bit girlie for me, but it is soooooo nice...better than the white and blue one.....my OH has a black one and also a dennis the menace doing the one fingered salute....need I say anymore?!?!?! ....he is a hardened biker...lol but that one usually just comes out during the summer...:):)

OH is working on getting his bike back on the road and so far its going well, although there has been a technicality in that the log book hasn't arrived back yet, so he can't tax it and the ride that he had planned won't be going ahead on Saturday...well it will be but he won't be ..although on a positive note he will still be able to MOT the bike and it will be insured just awaiting the log book. :T

As for the move into the 'new' house I know what you mean about moving the furniture about etc and repainting it feels like its new, plus as it will be 4 months since I lived there and at that time it was with my DS. So this time instead of two there will be three...thank god that DS and DD get on well with OH :A they hated my !!!!!! hubby.....:rotfl:

B & Q have got a sale on this weekend with 15% off everything, was going to kidnap my mum and take her with us to get 10% off today as it 10% off for peeps over 60 on Wednesdays but well 5% in our pocket is better than 5% in theirs !! :money: so we are waiting to get our wallpaper etc on Friday. :T we have been saving for a holiday so have decided to use that towards the decorating costs so we have £200 towards that hopefully it means we don't have to pay too much towards these costs.

Today will be a NSD as I have everything that I need.

Last night my spend at Mr A's didn't happen went to Mr T's express instead and just got 6 pints of milk so spent £1.85 instead of £50 which I had budgeted for....although don't know what we are going to have for dinner tonight at this present time but can always make a corn beef hash or something...I have the ingredients for a curry/rice for dinner tomorrow and Friday I am off for the day. Although have a planned spend of £15.00 as I am going to go halves with my friend for a Costco card...might just have to succumb to their carrot cake, although will cut it up into portions and freeze it....:) and use as and when needed.:T

Saturday I am aiming for a NSD as we are going to a house warming party and nothing planned as such for Sunday although think it will involve painting or decorating so we MUST get motivated with that....look at me already talking about Sunday and its only Wednesday !!! Can't be wishing my time away like this.....

Expenses have been paid £67.80 so that has come off my loan account (with employer) so will have to update that signature when my buddy emails me the balance...:)

On that note I suppose I had better get on and get some work done....ya know the stuff that I get paid for.....

Hope everyone has a great day

bf xx

abba1772

thats for the tip on B&Q need to get a shed and saw one at £135 just a basic one but it'll do for the kids bikes and a shelve for the paint pots lol but need to put in permission from the HA to put a shed up first lol

tattycath

You're doing brilliantly bf!!!
Well, yesterday i decided to have a 'serious' sort out upstairs and i paired about 100 pairs of socks! :eek:
We also had cavity wall insulation done yesterday so i had loads of dust to clean up too!-but at least it's finally done and hopefully it will save a little on the heating costs (when we have the heating on).
I haven't been on a motorbike for a few years-I haven't even got my leathers any more. My lovely husband isn't into bikes-luckily for me he isn't into football either.
Good luck with your move-it'l feel so much different moving into the house with your OH and DS- a new beginning for you hun!! x

burntfingers_2

OH has sent me an email to say that he has been to Mr A's and is making tea tonight.....:j:j:eek: :T as this never, ever happens then I am astounded...lol :rotfl::rotfl:

OMG !! the estate agent rang just now and has said that someone wants to view my house tonight at 5.40pm I have agreed to it, the Estate Agent says that the lady is quite keen but I am 100% positive that she will not want it just from her surname alone. Or she will want it at a giveaway price but that just isn't going to happen. Then once she has been the door will be slammed, locked and bolted and the Estate agent will be sacked and we will continue with our own plan of moving in

Am I crazy or what?? Felt like I should have said NO!!! to the agent but that what harm will it do?? My OH is still in the same frame of mind which is that he doesn't care where he lives as long as its with me......

Its because I have the debt :o and the temptation of being able to pay that off if the house sells - this is what keeps pulling me in two ways...but hey will update later when I have done the viewing.

Hope everyone has an enjoyable evening

Bf xxx