Kissing parents/family members

jayII

Lydia82 wrote: »

There isn't anything wrong with it, and if my OH told me I shouldn't kiss family members on the lips then I'd probably have a little laugh at him. I'd think he was the weird one!
I asked him btw and we both agreed it's fine. Lip-smacking-kisses-ahoy!

Nothing wrong with it at all, as long as they don't do it to me. :eek:

OH can do what he likes, though I'd probably raise my eyebrows, if he kissed one of his lady friends on the lips too often. :rotfl:

babyhead

My family are completely non huggers/kisses/I love you type family and OH's family are the opposite and say I love you and hug all the blooming time!

When I was first with OH I used to find it a bit weird. Not long ago, mum and I had a talk about it and she just said, as some other posters have said on here, that she didn't need to say ILY/hug me as it was obvious and didnt need to be said! Since then we hug and kiss though!

My brother said to me recently 'u do realise we were brought up weird?' as his OH is huggy type too and he clearly isn't! I still haven't got the courage to hug him though. I would like too though. :embarasse

I hug my friends though and say ILY. Good thread topic though - at least I know i'm not alone in my weird upbringing :beer:

Kandipandi

I come from a cuddly kissy family bitut my OH does not. I kiss my mum on the lips every time I see her and give her a huge hug, I kiss my kids and DH on the lips and hug them every day and tell them I love them all the time.

Each time I ring my Mum or my uncles I tell them I love them before I hang up.
Its just what is normal to me, it's how my family were with me and it feels right. Its also someting I need, and I tell my DH as long as I feel loved I will be ok (that and chocolate from time to time ).

I know not everyone is like me so I restrict my kissyness to those that I love and my in laws and friends just get a hug and a cheek kiss (if appropriate )

My ex hubbie was very unemotional as were his parents, they were together for years and years and I never once saw them be affectionate to each other, I guess that's why my ex was a bit cold emotionally. I find that was a large part of the reason why he became my ex.

gwhizz75

What a great thread topic! I'm not very huggy/kissy with anyone other than my OH really but my mum does give me a hug as a greeting/goodbye now and then, and sometimes a peck on the cheek.

I hug friends if I haven't seen them in a long time, or if I'm not going to see them for a long time, and I hug people to say thank you (e.g. if they have given me a birthday prezzi).

My OH sometimes gets a peck on the cheek off his mum but it would freak me out a bit if they regularly kissed on the lips. I know it would probably be my problem... but still, I just personally find that a bit odd.

I think a lot of it is to do with people's personalities. Like I can't imagine my OH's dad giving him a hug or a kiss and it would be really weird if he ever did. But his mum is so jolly and happy, hugging her and getting kisses off her just kind of seems natural!

GSXRCarlos

someone said lesbian encounter :j

i still think kissing anyone on the lips is a bit wierd, unless they're gf/bf husband/wife

kissing on the cheek and hugging etc is ok, as long as everyone involed enjoys it

Raggs_2

Just to add at times I've also happily (for a laugh) planted a kiss on the lips to my uncle and male cousin (I'm male). Big family do's everyone says goodbye and gives a kiss, the blokes felt left out so we joined in. Made me understand why women don't like stubble. We're all family, we're close, and we enjoy each others company. I really don't see what the issue is.

GSXRCarlos

Raggs wrote: »

(for a laugh) - I really don't see what the issue is.

i think that answers your own question, but you wouldn't do it everytime you saw them???

snowmaid

I have always kissed my parents on the mouth and there is certainly nothing perverse about it. It is sad how distrusting we are becoming. Even a peck on the mouth is seen as perverse!

One of these days we will need gloves to wash our children and won't be able to hug them for fear of being branded a perv!

Touching is being discouraged. Teachers can't even hug and comfort a little child when they fall and get hurt in case they are branded as perverts. What are we doing!!!

One of these days we will be so robotic and devoid of emotion.

Anyway, thinking of kissing my mum on the cheek...noticed her upper lip is getting a little stubbly.....:o

Bufger

i always hug and kiss my mum, shes my one and only mummy! (im 25 btw). My dad prefers a shake hand into a kind of hug shoulder lean thing but im ok with that and my bro likes a nice big brotherly hug and pat on the back. I love it! (sloppy cheek kisses from Grandma can sometimes leave me eeeeeeew'ing though!)

I have no problems with any show of affection. My Mother in law has kissed me on the lips before as a thankyou for her birthday gift, its something she only ever does with her 2 children and her mother so i felt like i was accepted and was kinda happy about it (didnt freak me out, i can seperate sexual intention from friendly intention fairly easily so why should it?).

I'll also hold my partners hand in public or we'll link arms and we'll peck kiss. I wouldnt do any more than a quick kiss on the lips though, she has occasionally wanted a full blown kiss either in a park or a club when shes drunk etc and i dont feel comfortable with that in public.

Bufger

snowmaid wrote: »

Anyway, thinking of kissing my mum on the cheek...noticed her upper lip is getting a little stubbly.....:o

LOL! :rotfl::T