Kissing parents/family members

BitterAndTwisted

My family are not physically demonstrative at all. All this hugging and kissing cheeks business makes me feel very uneasy but I do my best to try and put it aside when greeting close friends who all seem to want to do it most of the time. I often find myself in a quandary because I don't know whether I'm expected to kiss one cheek or two or just do the air-kiss thing. Strangers get a shake of the hand if they're lucky. I'm another one who can't understand why people I hardly know want to touch me. I think I'd go mad in Russia where they cheek-kiss three times. Mouth-to-mouth kissing is reserved for private moments with very special people only

neneromanova

I'm an Aquarian too. (nearly put Aquarium ) I kiss my daughter on the mouth if we can as thats just a thing they go through when they're younger and they grow out of it. She mostly presents her forehead to be kissed though :rotfl:

I kiss my nan on the cheek when we say hi and bye and give her a kiss, but her generation just expect it I suppose which is fair enough to me.

I spoke to him about it last night and said when I'm around could he not do it as I feel uncomfortable. He didn't say anything....whups.

The worst thing was we went over on mothering sunday and she had just gotten out of the shower and came and greeted us in her towel....:eek: She's not exactly on the small side either:eek: I told my mum and she said she'd never do that to my OH.

Oh, by the way, I can't seem to stand this woman and I don't know why...:o

Ivrytwr3

as long as you don't use tongues, i don't see any harm.

SkintGypsy

Very strangely my own family aren't huggy kissy people, and I find any kind of embrace with my direct family to be awkward. Yet the admin lady at work, whom I have adopted as my Nana, will give me a cuddle anytime and I will happily and comfortably accept and return the hug. I feel the same towards by parents in law.

I kiss my own daughter (4) on the lips and tell her I love her many times a day. I can't help myself and can't see it changing anytime soon. Very odd indeed.

Curious_George_2

my uncle expects a kiss hello and goodbye from any and every family member and i go to many lengths to avoid being within reach! i find it really uncomfortable and the people that know this find it hilarious watching me manouever my way out of it at every opportunity!

my mum always goes to kiss me and i dont much like that either, she gets a cheek

im very affectionate with my little family, OH and the 2 kids we are very cuddly and kissy and there are certain friends i dont think twice about hugging or giving a kiss so i dont really get why it feels so alien with family...
i guess because they expect it... because i "have" too i dont want too?
(and im a stroppy capricorn )

xxlaurissaxx

My family are not the huggy Kissy type (thankfully) I say I love you on the phone to my mum but I only kiss my OH and nephew (6) on the lips. I think the last time I hugged my mum was the day I left to go volunteering to Africa in September.

I cuddle friends I haven't seen in a long time but don't do the kissing thing and find it awkward when they try and kiss me on the cheek. xx

TeetersOnHeels

My family are not huge kissy/huggy people. As an adult, the only time I hugged my mum was when my dad died two years ago. I used to kiss my dad sometimes as we left after a visit, and my mum kisses DS (15) when she sees him, usually on the cheek
My godmother on the other hand has always, for as long as I can remember, taken my face in her hands, and planted a smacker straight on my lips, both when she opens the door to us and before we leave (she does the same to DS, and to both ex partners)
I don't think its wierd, just part of how your family show affection....

Joelleski

Crumbs you're all making me feel like my family's weird! I have no problems with hugs and kisses - we're quite demonstrable in that respect. I'm quite happy with giving my dad a peck on the lips, to say hello or goodbye, and love having a hug off both mum and dad - I live a reasonable distance from them, and don't see them as often as I should. Every phonecall with them always gets signed off with a "love you", I mean, I do love them, so don't feel embarrassed by saying it, even when I'm at the office and they phone me at work! I guess, we're quite open in our displays of affection...

red_devil

we dont meet often but we kiss hello when we do maybe goodbye too. We dont say i love you though, maybe send our love on the phone but not say i love you.

i found on holiday abroad when we were introduced to people the tradition was to kiss the men twice on each side of the face. sometimes i would have rather not.

Raggs_2

26 male here, happily kiss my mum on the lips, generally kiss dad on the cheek, but occasionally on the lips. Plenty of hugs. As to extended family (aunts, cousins) hugs and kisses on the cheek, though I wouldn't be freaked out to get a kiss on the lips from one of my aunts (though cousin would be stranger, due to the much lesser age difference).

I'm very physical with my fiancee too, we're always holding hands, cuddling and kissing.

With friends etc less so, generally handshakes, cuddles on special occasions.

Personally I find the people who barely have any physical contact with their parents to be the really odd ones. If you can't feel comfortable hugging your own mother, who else is there?