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eatandspendaholic

I felt horrible so I would eat, then I would buy clothes in the hope of slimming back into them, and then I would feel so unattractive that if any bloke showed me attention I would stop thinking with my brain and use other bits instead. Oh man, that walk of shame feels bad, doesn't it?

You took that straight from my head !

Thankyou

bargainbetty

I hate exercise too - I found portion control on food better for me. Little and often.
My friend Rachel and I used to go swimming and referred to ourselves as the Chunky Birds Swimming Club. We found a local place that did ladies-only nights, which meant you had older ladies, pregnant ladies, and ladies of a certain size who preferred to wear a t-shirt over their cossie - we all took the mickey out of the skinny barbies. Call your local pool and find out what they offer.

BBx

bargainbetty

Hon, there was a period in my life where my best friend had the song 'I'm just talking about tonight' as her ring tone for me......

You're not alone out there. Huge realisation, isn't it? It took a while, but I am now a happy size 14, no bloke at present, but don't care, got lovely friends, just paid off my credit card, and am joyously eating a sausage sandwich without guilt because I have a healthy meal planned for this evening. You too can be me!!!

I wouldn't recommend it, because I pick my nose and giggle at farts, but I blame that on having a male Geordie flatmate.

eatandspendaholic

Hiya BB, You sound as if your in heaven from where I am. There is someone in my life. My Husband and what makes my situation 10 times worse for me is "he is a star". Which makes me feel worse. As far as he is aware, I am one wonderfull happy go lucky girl, who he loves to death. You would think that would be enough to make me feel good but noooooooo. He does know about my loans. As I handle all of the money, he is totaly unaware how much money I waste. If anything is needed I always find the money from somewhere !!!

Although I am far from "cured" today as been a great relief, to be able to talk to people, who take you as you are and willing to help. I can go to work tonight, knowing there is "hope" for me. Plans in the making at work tonight.

Thankyou

bargainbetty

I am glad our ramblings and my confessions of debauchery have been of use. I used to be ashamed of myself, but frankly I can't be bothered with that anymore. That side of my life is now full of anecdotes to cheer people up. (Sometimes filthily funny).

Have a great night at work, and feel better again tomorrow.

eatandspendaholic

Ok, Im off for a bath and get ready for work. Put some music on and think over all the advice I have recieved today.

Thankyou to everyone who as supported me today.

richardvc

What great support you guys have given eat&spend today. You all deserve a pat on the back.

You must always remember eat&spend that we have all ventured onto this board because we have had a problem be it money or other reasons that have shown themselves as money problems so you are not alone.

Whilst I wasn't an overspender myself, I was careless and had no idea about personal finance. The irony was that I ran a tight ship as a business but never thought about applying it to my own personal finances - how ludicrous ??!!

Anyway, I digress. Well done for coming on here E&S and well done to all of you kind souls who have helped her on her first day here - this has restored my faith in MSE as I have noticed that there seem to be loads of idiots posting at the moment which never happened when I first started lurking on here 5/6 years ago !

fritillaria

Hey, just wanted to let you know that I'm another one who's craved male attention in the past. It was definitely due to low self esteem for me and didn't make a difference if I was in a loving relationship or not - I still needed that validation that I was still attractive to other men!
I'm not 'cured', I still have the low self esteem, but now I'm a mum (with another on the way) I barely notice men at all - just too tired!! Luckily I also have a loving and loyal OH.

Anyway, I hope you keep posting so we can see how you do. I'm really just a lurker but already found this thread useful. Thanks fayjmck for the link to the spending diary, I'm using it already!

eatandspendaholic

Hiya Everyone. Just in off night shift and typing through more tears. I am overwhelmed, with the support and advice i have recieved from you :A people..

richardvc and iambrianblessed thankyou for your posts, I will reply to each shortley, just wanted to say thankyou now.

Also thankyou to those who have sent me private messages, I dont want to give the names, as some of them contain personal information. I gained great comfort from these, knowing that there are people on here with the same issues as me. I will reply to Private Messages too, shortley.

Thought about all advice given to me yesterday on the eating, spending and . I have wrote some stuff down and decided to start a Journal.

One private message said "hope I am not overwhelmg you with information" Not at all. I cant put into words, how good it is to be able to get all this out. All advice and information greatly appreciated. I just cant thankyou all enough

Thankyou :A

bargainbetty

Keep posting hon, it's always a relief to know that you're not alone out here.....