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shall we have a wedding chat thread?

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  • nessie216
    nessie216 Posts: 839 Forumite
    Why doesn't he want to do a speech?
    Maybe he's shy? For some peoplel even small crowds can be intimidating.
    My Dad was really nervous about speaking at my sister's wedding & kept asking me to do it!
    But in the end, my mum wrote a brief one for him that just thanked the right people with no silly jokes in it.

    Maybe if you offer to do the same it might help.

    Also, what does your OH think? He might be able to help, or suggest another groomsman to step in.

    Got OH to get his dad to make speech - apparantly the BM would feel belittled if my bro (or anyone from my family) done a speech because it is his job!
    Had arguement with OH about this last night - i said that it is our day - already had my idea of a perfect wedding ruined because of the kid thats coming & that we have made an exception to have the kid there - why can't he make the exception by making a speech or letting his dad do one!
    I also said that if the kid is dressed in white or cream i will not forgive them - he doesn't understand that she will look like a flower girl/bridesmaid i don't even want and he said there isn't a problem - but i don't want to look at the photos and see a girl i don't even know looking like a flower girl!
    I know i may be acting cruel/stupid but i simply want my way! lol - eyes should be on me on the day - not a little girl who looks like i want her there! I don't even know her - and to have been blackmailed into having her there in the first place is making it worse - i reckon if i wasn't blackmailed then it wouldn't bother me that much!

    But good news - my guinea pig gave birth yesterday to 6 gorgeous lil babies!
  • RainbowDrops
    RainbowDrops Posts: 4,674 Forumite
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    I think you need to take a deep breath & realise that your day wont be ruined if the speeches aren't the usual formula, or if a little kid is wearing cream.
    Of course it's your day, but you can't controll EVERY aspect of it, you'll only get yourself more stressed freeting about things that are out of your hands.

    All eyes WILL be on you, people are coming to your wedding!

    Seriously, take a step back & remember what the day is about.
  • nessie216
    nessie216 Posts: 839 Forumite
    I think you need to take a deep breath & realise that your day wont be ruined if the speeches aren't the usual formula, or if a little kid is wearing cream.
    Of course it's your day, but you can't controll EVERY aspect of it, you'll only get yourself more stressed freeting about things that are out of your hands.

    All eyes WILL be on you, people are coming to your wedding!

    Seriously, take a step back & remember what the day is about.

    Thank you - i keep forgetting about the whole reason i am getting married!

    Sometimes i just need a slap round the head to snap me out of it!

    Thank you for the slap x
  • RainbowDrops
    RainbowDrops Posts: 4,674 Forumite
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    Hehe no worries - it's good to have a rant & let it all out - that way you can then think about how important these things are & address them appropriately :)
  • Lexxi
    Lexxi Posts: 2,162 Forumite
    MOH has split wine all down her dress, I had her try it on last night so we could figure out hair and jewellery and she was messing about and split wine ALL down it, she didn't tell me though, it was when I picked it up I saw it, OH thinks she doesn't want to do it but won't tell me, if she doesn't we'll either fall out before the wedding or she'll just not turn up :(
  • RainbowDrops
    RainbowDrops Posts: 4,674 Forumite
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    Seems like odd behaviour - have you spoken to her about the wine?
    You could try bringing it up innocently - something along the lines of "After you left, I noticed you spilt wine on the dress, I hope you didn't feel to embarrassed to tell me, shall we see if we can get it cleaned ASAP"
    Hope it doen't become an issue.
  • Lexxi
    Lexxi Posts: 2,162 Forumite
    no, she was still there when I saw it and she said sorry, it's been taken to get dry cleaned today, so hopefully it'll come out. I'd not considered it was deliberate until OH mentioned it
  • LegalBlonde
    LegalBlonde Posts: 1,183 Forumite
    after just about getting through today..........wheuuuggggghhhhhhhhh if it's this hot next July, I'm toast! Literally!
    Debt Free Wannabe by 1 January 2016 :o


    Jan 2015 GC £520/£450
    Feb £139/£450
  • Lexxi
    Lexxi Posts: 2,162 Forumite
    We're not even in July yet, it might get hotter :rotfl:

    I was taking pics of MOH when she spilt the wine and I've just looked at the pics and she's done it like alomst to the end of pics but then either not noticed or deliberately not said anything, it's really weird, she must have had the dress on at least another 5 mins before taking it off
  • bubbles0169
    bubbles0169 Posts: 6,230 Forumite
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    lexi if i was you id just forget about the sabotage idea, youll have enough going on with out that to think about too x
    legal blonde i wonder if that magicool stuff would work, well have to get some a test it now also get those little handheld fans aswell
    I am not bossy I just have better ideas:p
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