MSE Parents Club Part 11

Evansangel

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

EA- I meant to say on my earlier post but if you want to share your BF concerns on here then someone might be able to help, and even if not then you might feel better having talked about it. Big hugs to you and Lily anyhow :kisses3:

I just wrote out a massive pm to kindof about it as i didn't want to bother you all with my woes

Its mainly everytime i BF i start feeling resentment towards BF'ing and towards Lily and it was making me cry loads. I dont cry anymore but i still feel down whenever im BF'ing. But i feel guilty completly changing to FF. The breastfeeding counseller made me feel guilty about FF by bigging up BF and saying that FF stretches baby stomachs, etc.

Lily is crying now, i think she's hungry. Night all!

x

MadDogWoman_2

Hugs to Kindof, EA and FR - you have to do what is best for you and your babies

Maz - I get a combination of mummy, mum and my name from DD!

Interview went OK, I think, I should find out tomorrow, as the person I'm replacing finishes next week and they need a replacement in ASAP.

ETA - EA have a read of this

chopsticks

Hi fishcake :wave:

I know we haven't "met" yet, but 8.5 months ago I could have written your last sentence. I don't know if all mummies feel like this but I can barely remember Caitlin's first two weeks. Everything was such a blur and I was just going from one day to the next, just feeding and doing practically nothing else. DH, my mum and my sister were all great. Everyone said get people to do stuff for you, so I did (although most of the time I didn't have to even ask them). People want to help, so don't feel guilty about making use of them!

It does get so much easier hun, but if you decide to FF, you mustn't feel like you've failed. I had so many problems with BF and wanted to give up so many times but kept going with it. I was sad when it finally came to an end but I still have an issue with myself and think perhaps I should have given up sooner and I might have had a happier baby. Anyway, that's another story, but I just wanted to let you know that everything you're going through and feeling at the moment is totally totally normal, although I know it doesn't feel like it.

xxx

SugarSpun

Sorry elle I misunderstood.

Definitely off to bed now. OH is passed out on the sofa [STRIKE]in the nudey buff[/STRIKE] so I have written him a list of things still to be done for when he wakes up at 3am for the night. A devious wife am I.

Happy week ahead, lovelies xxx

emlou2009

Elle, definitely dont watch it, I'm well 'ard, me, and I bawled

got-it-spend-it

Evansangel wrote: »

I just wrote out a massive pm to kindof about it as i didn't want to bother you all with my woes

Its mainly everytime i BF i start feeling resentment towards BF'ing and towards Lily and it was making me cry loads. I dont cry anymore but i still feel down whenever im BF'ing. But i feel guilty completly changing to FF. The breastfeeding counseller made me feel guilty about FF by bigging up BF and saying that FF stretches baby stomachs, etc.

Lily is crying now, i think she's hungry. Night all!

x

Aww, hugs honey. It's been said tons on here today, but you need to do what is best for you and best for Lily. Remember that the BF counsellor is giving you one point of view, and you need to add that to all the other information that you have and make a decision as Lily's mummy.

Is it that fact that you feel a bit 'stuck' under Lily that make you feel resentment? Or the fact that only you can feed her, not OH? I've felt like that too, but I just try and remember that I am also the only one lucky enough to have an excuse to put my feet up 6-7 times a day and snuggle with my baby. I also try and remember that it won't be forever and that soon enough he'll be off running around without looking back at his mummy! I'm not saying that to make you feel bad, that's just my way of dealing with those feelings.

I know I keep banging on about it, but also please remember that hormones are still playing a big part in your feeling tearful but that will settle down soon.

jennynoo

Aww, all these people suffering with BF. I don't know if this will help but here is my experience of breast feeding:

I remember thinking this should just be natural and easy but nothing ever is and it took ages to learn how to do it right and even now we still have occasional issues. I couldn't have coped without having my sisters to ring to ask them for advice (both had just given birth a few months before me) so do try and get advice where you can if you want to continue. Things that helped me were putting finger in Erin's mouth to the roof of her mouth before latching her on so she remembered how to suck! Stopping her falling asleep while feeding so she would get on with it. Practising how to de latch a baby without pain! (So you can retry the latch when they do it wrong.) Lansinoh -lots of!, occasional expressing in the shower, telling myself if I could make it to two weeks I would be ok, trying different positions - inventing some of my own - lying on my back was sometimes quite useful when I was really struggling. Pulling on Erin's chip/lip after she was latched on incorrectly. And what a relief when I found out I could feed Erin lying down and fall asleep There might be more but I can't remember now, thinking back on it it's been quite a struggle but I've finally got to the stage where I love doing it and am really going to miss it when I have to stop.

Hugs to those who are struggling and I hope you find the help you need or can move on to FF.

Glamazon

Aless - did DH ever get his road tax back?
I had forgotten about mine and found the special delivery ticket in my purse.

£120 I had forgotten about! :j

Right, I'm off to bed and hope I can fall asleep before midnight *sigh*

pigpen

For those with BF woes...

Feel free to PM me I will do my very bestest to help.. I have seen a few of you are struggling but not read through anything but the last few pages.. I have a couple of years training (NCT BF counsellor) and 12 years experience I could offer to you if you wish?

EA.. Lily is a whopper of a baby.. many people struggle to BF larger babies that is the way of things. It actually takes 6 weeks to get bf established but if you decide to mixed feed or even move fully to FF before then does it really matter so long as you are happy and healthy and baby is growing and happy.. is there anything else more important?

There are so many things in life to make us feel bad and so many choices to make regarding our children sometimes the right ones are the hardest ones but does FF really count as neglect? You are providing an adequate source of nutrition for your child.. There are so many worse things you could be doing!

Chill.. stop beating yourselves up.. and employed bf counsellors are the most judgemental of people when it comes to supposedly giving impartial advice.. hence I refused to work with them!!

tiamai_d

Girls, it took me 3 babies to get BF 'right' and even then we had problems. I'm not in any way less of a mummy because I chose to ditch the stress and use formula.

Anyhoo, I'm off to bed now I have had my Caprica fix nighty-night xx

Oh, should I send Chris to nursery or keep him off so I don't have to get up and dressed and run about? Is it really lazy to keep him off or is my rest more important that 1 day of nursery (DH is off thurs and fri so I can bully him into taking him). Actually, I will take my own advice and keep him off.