MSE Parents Club Part 11

elle_gee

csh wrote: »

Flexible working advice needed!

When you return from maternity leave after six months (different rules if you returned later), you have the right to your old job back, same terms and conditions as you left it on. If you don't want that job anymore, you need to write a letter with your requested change to terms (in the case of flexible working, the change to your hours) and might want to include the ways you can see working around such request - can some of your jobs be done by other people; can you change a way of working, etc. You don't have to give a reason why you want flexible working - it's assumed you have children under 16 (or under 18 if disabled) because that's what enables you to have the right to request flexible working anyway, and your arrangements for childcare are none of their business or concern. If they say no, you can appeal (not argue!) against their decision but they can still refuse it on a vast number of business reasons (there is almost always a way for them to refuse it if they really want to). If they refuse and you don't want the job they do offer, you need to hand your notice in and walk away.

ETA: Just done the maths - K will be older than six months if you're going back in May. In which case, you have the right to a job on the same terms and conditions (hours, rate of pay, holidays etc) as your old one but not necessarily your old job back.

gill_81uk wrote: »

.. It seems very unreasonable to expect the mother of a 6 month old baby to work so many hours, and I think you would have really good grounds for appeal if they do refuse you

There would be discrimination outrage if employers assumed just because you have a child you can't work the same hours as you used to! If you don't want to work those hours, it's up to you to request/arrange a suitable alternative, be it in the same role or otherwise.

Glamazon

would someone like my son?

I can send him via DHL 24 and you can have him tomorrow

AGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

He is driving me nuts!!!! He wants me, then he doesn't, he's hungry then he's not, he's tired but won't sleep :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

elle_gee

Can you put him in the pram/sling and go for a walk, Glam? That's what I did with Rhys this morning We've been out to see the horses with my friend and her one year old daughter Not that Rhys saw the horses cos he was asleep before we'd even left my friend's road!

Glamazon

elle_gee wrote: »

Can you put him in the pram/sling and go for a walk, Glam? That's what I did with Rhys this morning We've been out to see the horses with my friend and her one year old daughter Not that Rhys saw the horses cos he was asleep before we'd even left my friend's road!

We've been out for a walk for an hour - he slept for about 15 minutes. He's just being really whingey, I try to comfort him and he just screams, pulls my hair and headbutts me. I know he doesn't realise what he's doing but it bl00dy hurts!

He is now in his cot with the hair dryer blasting outside his door cos I can't listen to his moaning anymore.

elle_gee

Hmm.. you've just described Rhys' behaviour for the last week so I'm no use with suggestions other than the walk which helped today

Buttonmoons

Has Weezl posted any pictures of the delicious new baby yet? I've hardly been on this thread lately and It goes so fast I can't catch up

I have to go to a 50th Birthday tonight. There is going to be a stripper who apparently takes EVERYTHING off. That is just super cheesy to me. Things like that totally embarrass me. I'd love to phone and say "I'm ill cough cough" But I do it all the time with my friend, so she'd know hehe.

So, how is everyone doing?

Sami_Bee

elle_gee wrote: »

...There would be discrimination outrage if employers assumed just because you have a child you can't work the same hours as you used to! If you don't want to work those hours, it's up to you to request/arrange a suitable alternative, be it in the same role or otherwise.

was gonna say, it was csh's choice to have a baby and stay in her job, it's not their problem/duty to change her role to suit her circumstance

elle_gee

Reposting for Button

weezl74 wrote: »

hi again, just a little piccie for you all

Sami_Bee

eww BM gross! I don't understand why people like male strippers, I'd rather see a nude woman than man :rotfl: winkies are gross

Weezl posted a pic it was lush I won't go find it coz I bet elle is already on the case

eta- told ya!

elle_gee

Sami_Bee wrote: »

... coz I bet elle is already on the case

eta- told ya!

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