MSE Parents Club Part 11

pigpen

redstararnie76 wrote: »

Hi,
Can anyone help please? Did anyone have any issues with older children just before their babies were born? The reason I am asking is that my 4 year old is very excited about the baby coming next week, but she has started acting a bit out of character. She's normally a bit of a handful - loads of energy, but she's not normally destructive. Monday morning I woke up to find her in the bathroom and she had got nail varnish, mixed with various creams that she found and spread the goo all over the bathroom. When we asked her why she did it, she said because 'no one was looking!'
I'm convinced this behaviour is down to feeling insecure with the baby about to arrive, but I'm not really sure the best way to handle it. We tried to treat it as normal 'naughty' behaviour, because I don't want her to think she can get away with misbehaving, but I really feel for her, and I'm not sure what to do for the best - does anyone have any suggestions?

That is normal 4 year old behaviour and probably nothing to do with the baby.

getting across the cost of replacing these items and that she isn't going to make a maic potion just a mess is important. And anything precious keep out of her reach!

She was just experimenting with textures and squishy play stuff.. it really is quite normal!

csh_2

carlamagee wrote: »

woaw. I reall misread your signature, or maybe i glanced at someone elses by accident....doh. sorry!!

Im not sure what else to suggest; playpen, setting him in the buggy/pram for 2 mins if its handy, by babycage were u referring to a baby walker!? With Katie, I had a massive ring that I was able to put in the living room and put some toys in to keep er interested for a while until i did washing etc.

Baby cage is a play pen or travel cot. He has a baby walker but he can go it!

If they made a jumbo sized sit me up cosy it'd be fine!

Sami_Bee

Fitzio wrote: »

Sami - did you not go to the meet? Did I miss that post?

I didn't, you missed it
I've got a tummy bug so didn't want to risk passing on any lurgy

3onitsway

Sami_Bee wrote: »

erm here's a brief overview http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/how-to-conceive-a-girl.html
basically it works on the prinicpal that girl sperms are like long distance runners and boy sperms are sprinters so you need to get jiggy at the right time

When trying to conceive a girl, Shettles recommends that you don’t orgasm during sex as the body produces substances after orgasm that makes the vaginal environment more alkaline, which favors the “boy” sperm.

:rotfl::rotfl:Where's the fun in that! :rotfl::rotfl:

(I conceived V the day after ovulation so she should have been a boy?!?)

Sami_Bee wrote: »

ooh 3 I was thinking of going to the new wallace n gromit thing at the docks once the school hols are finished, if you go there too let me know if it's good!

Is that over at Spaceport? If so, that's my side of the Mersey.
The space port is ok - we went when there was a Dr.Who exhibition there. Liv liked it, and i'm sure Christopher would

Let me know if you're going.

My_Fathers_Daughter

3onitsway wrote: »

Sami What does Tara's book tell you to do?

Speaking of Tara - has anyone heard from her? Is she still having internet problems?

LOL - I remember picking up on something someone said about you being more likely to have a girl if you don't have an orgasm...so I look at my friends with baby girls and think 'aw, she's cute but my sex was good' :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:


Obvoiusly a massive generalisation - please don't all start telling me how good the sex was to get your girls



csh - do you have a bumbo?


Edit - LOL 3, see my memory isn't that bad after all!!!!

pigpen

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Obvoiusly a massive generalisation - please don't all start telling me how good the sex was to get your girls

I had totally crap sex with KH.. I still had 3 boys..

SugarSpun

SeptemberBaby wrote: »

SS, how much is your idea of splashing out on a hotel? Yours sounds wonderful!

xx

This is it, but we booked via laterooms.com and Quidco and it was just over €100/night and then I think 5% cashback. It might be more expensive in the summer, we were there in February.

Fitzio wrote: »

It’s the same debate as the other day. It’s not about wrapping your baby in cotton wool, it’s about doing your own risk assessment and being happy with what you choose to do.

I totally agree. Molly's a free range baby in the living room, which is babyproofed to a reasonable extent (she could bang her head on the piano but the dangerous and breakable stuff is out of reach). The computer room is not babyproofed and we put her in a babycage, the L&G or the door jumper when she's in here to keep her safe from sharp edges, bags of sharp stuff, computer scroowdrivers and so on.

Actually csh, what about a door bouncer? You can take it down when he's not in it and it'll take up almost no space?

Also, the event that produced Molly was memorable for multiple reasons IYKWIM and she's definitely a girl. (edit: missed the bit where you asked not to hear about it MFD, but it was so good I'm not deleting )

3onitsway

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Obvoiusly a massive generalisation - please don't all start telling me how good the sex was to get your girls

OK then, I won't.



Right, i'm going to do J's hair. If i'm not back in half an hour, i've been strangled by the clipper cord!

csh_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

csh - do you have a bumbo?

Yep! Hes hates it and can vacate it with his trademade back arching!

SugarSpun wrote: »

Actually csh, what about a door bouncer? You can take it down when he's not in it and it'll take up almost no space?

Have a door bouncer but can't leave him in it on his own cos he'd terrorise the hound.

He was just hanging over his highchair wafting toast about until the dog came over then whipping the toast away and eating it!

SusanC_2

kindofagilr wrote: »

Although OH is back at work next week which will make more of a routine happen, OH Likes to go to bed at 9 when he is at work, he gets up at half 7 (lazy isnt he lol)

And people thought it was strange that I went to bed at nine when I had to get up at six.

tiamai_d wrote: »

I don't baby proof. I Christopher proof. Much, much worse. I caught him chewing the table earlier. Just sitting there gnawing away.

That was the first thing I had to teach Alice not to do. (Although her not having teeth at the time meant it wasn't so destructive.)

Sami_Bee wrote: »

lol, I want to resist the urge to just jump him at every oportunity though, we're gonna be trying for a girl using Tara's book (not written by Tara but used by Tara and passed on;)) we're gonna tell everyone it's our late honeymoon though I know #3 will rock the boat even more than #1 and 2 did /:p

Did people give their opinions on your child choices? It's none of their business how many children you choose to have.

3onitsway wrote: »

I somehow didn't have stair gates when DS & DD1 were little. (Until they could get out of bed/cots - then I put one on their bedroom door).

Maybe now I've got one because i'm [STRIKE]lazy[/STRIKE] old and cba getting up every two minutes to get her back down the stairs. :rotfl:

In fact, I probably only have the stair gate now because MIL went out and bought it when I was first pregnant!

We're on our third stair gate and still haven't actually used one. First was present from in-laws and didn't fit so we took it back. Second one was for Alice's bedroom door but it wasn't what we wanted so changed for the third before discovering we had weird metal door frames so we just use the North Pole (aka an old broom handle) under the door handle at night.