The MSE Pregnancy Club

Bun

You need to bond with your baby and I don't think it is unreasonable to say so in a nice way. I had this to a lesser extent with my first, and just said it wasn't fair on anybody to be up all night when the baby cries so booked a b and b.

Becles

happiness_fairy wrote: »

We had a visit from my in-laws on sat, MIL,FIL and SIL - the thing is as they were leaving my SIL announced that she has arranged to take time off work when the babe arrives so she can come and help me!

I would try and polietly say you want to be on your own.

I'm not making it up when I say you'll feel rubbish in yourself. You'll be bleeding heavy which wears you down, your boobs will hurt, you'll be getting after-contractions which can hurt, your lady bits will be torn and sore and it'll hurt everytime you have a wee. On top of all this, you'll have a new baby who needs your care and attention at regular times day and night leaving you worn out, and have the midwife popping in regular asking personal questions about your blood loss and bowels etc. Do you really want SIL to witness all this?!

If all that is going on in your body, and you've already got reservations about SIL staying, then from an outsiders point of view, it looks like an explosion primed and ready to go off. You need to keep yourself calm for baby, not be getting stressed and angry with an unwanted visitor.

I've got my Mam and MIL to put off other visitors for a few days after birth, till I get myself sorted and over the birth and baby is settled in a feeding routine. I don't mind Mam and MIL popping in and seeing me in mess, but I wouldn't want anyone else to see me like that!

Would your MIL be able to have a word with SIL and either persuade her to stay elsewhere, or postpone her holiday until later in the year when you're up to coping with a house guest?

happiness_fairy

Unfortunately I suspect that MIL might be behind it as she doesn't drive and this will be one way of her getting to visit! MIL doesn't even think OH should be at the birth in case I shout at him!

My own Mum lives about 5 miles away and like you say there are somethings you can share with your mum but not anyone else - she has said that if necessary she will put them up which is a god send:rolleyes:

I just think they are v strange people eg on Sat was asked if I would be preparing my own baby food or buying jars? Err well was planning to breast feed for a couple of months! Was then told it all depends how much salt I put in my cooking!

sarahmoon_2

Hi all, scan was great really clear. 14 weeks and 5 days!! Due on the 11th September and its not twins THANK GOD!!!

happiness_fairy

:T
Breathe a big sigh of relief!!

Glad all went ok

india

sarahmoon wrote: »

Hi all, scan was great really clear. 14 weeks and 5 days!! Due on the 11th September and its not twins THANK GOD!!!

My SIL a twin and when she was pregnant she was worried about how she would cope if she had twins. The hospital told her twins often skip a generation.

Snaggles

So glad to hear all was well with the scan Sarah - hope the sickness passes soon!

sarahmoon_2

india wrote: »

My SIL a twin and when she was pregnant she was worried about how she would cope if she had twins. The hospital told her twins often skip a generation.

My mum was a twin and it (old wives tale though I think) should have hit me my sister or my brother, or our two cousins. So far it means that none of us have had twins and there's only my brother left to have kids. God help his wife!!

Snaggles thanks, even though its my fourth its still nice to get the all clear and see that baby is okay, I was beginning to think I wasn't even pregnant because they don't confirm it now, home tests are supposed to be 100% accurate so its the first real confirmation. Scan pictures are really spooky though, it shows the baby's face and it looks like ET!!

nadnad

hey all
i'm only 6 weeks pregnant, i was just wondering when you all told people - i know the usual thing is to wait until the first scan of 12 weeks, but we've told both sets of parents - sworn them to secrecy for a while mind! but i just wondered when everyone else shared the good news?

also may i just add that my boobs are now enormous - already!! i was a 36dd before but my bras are a little small looking, dread to think what i'll be at the end! and they are soooo sore but i love it - cos it just reminds me that im pregnant and its great!!

sarahmoon_2

Hi Nadnad, and congratulations. we told everybody at about the same time as you, my OH couldn't keep his mouth shut! I also had a similar problem with my boobs, they were roughly the same size as you and have only just settled down now and I'm now 14 weeks.