Trying to stop an impending family rift...

seven-day-weekend

Kay_Peel wrote: »

The daughter was uncomfortable with the request to 'hide' the baggage from airline staff. She mentioned it to her mother. Understandably, mother was very upset and disappointed that her daughter had been used in some sort of dodge. Whether it was or wasn't a dodge is not the issue - the fact is that the English Family felt compromised and let down.

Yes, this is it exactly. I would have felt the same and I'm obviously in the minority because most of you think that it is no big deal.

I think their reaction was over the top though. I'd have just told her not to ask me to hold her bag again for such a reason.

Lotus-eater

lufcgirl wrote: »

She's now had a message saying she has no right to be upset as the relatives are 'going through a huge amount of pain and suffering due to her actions'.

Personally I don't want her having anything more to do with them, she was old and mature enough to decide whether or not to hold the bag (a no wouldn't have been out of place if she had decided not to!) yet she ran to her Mum.

Some people you just don't get on with, it sometimes takes something like this to find it out.

I bet if the other side posted, it would be full of truthful righteous indignation of how they are the wronged party.

They truly believed you are in the wrong and you believe they are completely wrong about the whole thing.
You can't be friends with everyone, distant family or not, time to completely cut your OH's losses and just forget about the whole thing. Forget flowers and letters, complete waste of time and pointless, not only that, but the more you protest your innocence, the more they will think you did something. Letters to them saying that they have been childlike and stupid about the whole thing, will only get their back up.

Cousins 4 times removed... I think even for an Irish family it is OK to just forget they ever existed.

Lets_Say_2

Oh the perils of researching your family tree!

Butterfly_Brain

pigpen wrote: »

nobody ever is!!

Sadly I have to agree

lufcgirl

OH's has sent a letter declaring an end to all contact and a postal order for £300 to cover all of the 'accommodation and lifts' she has been given. Whils she was insisting on getting the bus each time!

*Louise*

HOW MUCH??? :eek:


I would have sent a cheque....and tested whether they were cheeky enough to cash it....

Lotus-eater

lufcgirl wrote: »

OH's has sent a letter declaring an end to all contact and a postal order for £300 to cover all of the 'accommodation and lifts' she has been given. Whils she was insisting on getting the bus each time!

How pointless, hope it makes your oh feel £300's worth of better.

jackieglasgow

I don' see it as pointless at all, I would not like people to say I had been scrounging from them, either, even if they originally facilitated me in some way, wnd called it helpfullness or "just family" they obviously are quite mean if it's even crossed their minds that lufcgirl's OH was taking them for a ride.

OP you should tell your partner that it was £300 quid well spent on a life lesson, and draw a line under the whole thing! (although I agree, I would have sent a cheque to see if they'd have cashed it, and if not, spent the money on some Ryanair flight allowance to somewhere nice for the weekend! )

Lotus-eater

Pointless for me then, I'd never see or hear from them again. Just how pointless is it to throw £300 down a dark hole for no reason?

If it would make you feel £300's worth of better then great, I'd prefer to spend it on something more worthwhile.

SugarSpun

I wouldn't have sent it, but if I'd felt obliged to offer money it would have been a cheque to see if they were hard-faced enough to cash it.

A lesson best learned early-ish - people are unfathomably odd and when they are you sometimes just have to back away.