But that's the point, if they're not told how the money was saved, and are not aware it is being saved for them, what's the difference what it's used for?
Not going to argue freebie-junkie, but if you think the relationship to a mortgage provider and a parent are the same then you have real problems. I am not nor ever will be my children's landlord.
Incidentally I have never been in the situation to be able to give my children their rent back, for whatever purpose, but I would have liked to have been!!
that was an example about teaching your offspring to live in the 'real world' but thanks for your in-depth psychological review, i needed that from the likes of you and if you provide a room and board for a fee, yes you are a landlord by defenition.
if you remember i apologised and was trying to be nice but i guess you kinda do want an argument otherwise you would have just said 'thanks i accept your apology' wouldnt you?
Yes.......but hyperthetically (sp) :rolleyes: I wouldn't be giving it back to her on a golden platter.
When my kids started a job while still at school, me & DH said however much you save we will match to buy yourselves a car. This is a secondhand car. They had a couple of years to do it. This was an incentive. They would put x amount away and so would I.
It's quite ok to help your kids, I have no problems with that but I think they should make the effort as well and not be given it all on a plate. OS saved the least, DD saved more than him, and YS saved the most. Of course, YS got the better car. To me the greatest gift I gave my kids is their independence.
Wow Aussielass, I think that was so generous!! And well thought out! I think if I recall that's what the posters were all saying, let the kids save for whatever, then when they move out, either into rented or to buy, surprise them with a donation towards it.
I don't think there were many if at all, that just wanted to give lazy bums a golden handout!:D
Oh OK.............sorry I mustn't have read it properly. I did speed read through it. I won't say anymore promise.
LondonDiva wrote: »
that's what I did when I first graduated!
It costs to have another adult in the house to feed & maintain & all those capable should contribute by a combination of paying 'keep', house work or whatever is agreed.
3onitsway wrote: »
I think Sami is right, as always!
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