Any questions about registrars or register offices let me know!

ljbnotts

blue_skies wrote: »

I've got a Q!!

How late in the day would majority of registrars be happy to conduct a service in a civil venue.

We are opting not to have a big wedding breakfast sit down meal, just the service and then an evening do. We therefore didn't want to tie the knot till 4/5pm ish

Do you think this is something which could be accomodated and isn't totally out of the norm?

Thank you!

I think this will depend in the distrcit you are in, I know that out latest wedding takes place at 3pm at an outside venue and 4pm at the register office, but every venue is different I would suggest asking your local register office as they will be able to advise you better, I don't think it is totally out of the norm though!

dizziblonde

Can I just say the staff in Sunderland civic's registry office have been lovely and helpful every time I've emailed them with little queries regarding the wedding - so it's worth asking if you're sat wondering anything.

I'm worried about the objecting bit to be honest - my ex is a bit psycho, well, very psycho and verges on the stalker-esque at times... have visions of a gatecrash moment a la Eastenders.

ljbnotts

dizziblonde wrote: »

Can I just say the staff in Sunderland civic's registry office have been lovely and helpful every time I've emailed them with little queries regarding the wedding - so it's worth asking if you're sat wondering anything.

I'm worried about the objecting bit to be honest - my ex is a bit psycho, well, very psycho and verges on the stalker-esque at times... have visions of a gatecrash moment a la Eastenders.

We generally are a friendly bunch! We are used to people calling us about questions and are happy to put peoples minds at ease.

Please try not to worry about your ex objecting, it can only be for a legal reason and it really is very rare for people to gatecrash. If you are free to marry and aren't being forced to marry then the wedding will go ahead! I know it's hard but try not to worry about it.

If it happens the registrar will take him to one side and find out the reasons why the marriage can not go ahead. (although because you have already given notice there shouldn't be any) After the registrar has found out the reasons and they are nothing legal the ceremony will continue again.

It might be an idea to mention it to your registrar that somone may try to disrupt the wedding as some people try to cancel weddings beforehand etc, although again it is very rare and there are procedures in place so that it can't happen.

Try not to worry, it will be an amazing day, it will fly by and you will happilly be mrs ....!

l*g*d

Hi! Sorry to dredge up an old thread, but we're booked for one of the new 'enhanced ceremonies' with NottsCC and I was wondering what that will entail? I've never heard of one before!

mshelsbels

I think it gives you a little more flexibility, choice and the ceremony lasts slighty longer? heres some info I found on the net, but your registrar should give you more information.

Hels
Enhanced Ceremony or Licensed Venue Options

• An enhanced ceremony can be held at any of our Registration Office ceremony rooms or any of our Licensed Venues.
• It can be held on a:
  • weekday (subject to office opening and availability);
  • Saturday morning (Licensed Venues only);
  • Saturday afternoon (subject to office opening and availability);
  • Sunday (subject to office opening and availability).
• There is an opportunity for the bride to be given away (where possible and if wished).
• A choice of three basic and three enhanced ceremonies - each with three choices of words for the bride and groom to say.
• Additional vows for the bride and groom.
• The option of including readings by yourselves or a member of your party. We have a suitable selection available on this website.
• Your choice of music (CD or perhaps live) played:
  • before the ceremony;
  • for the entry of the bride;
  • for the photographic session;
  • for the exit of the bride, groom and guests from the ceremony room.
• Extra time for photographs.
• The bride may be attended to by bridesmaids and/or pageboys, if wished.
• The marriage may be sealed by the giving/receiving of a ring(s).

Please note: readings, words and music at Marriage Ceremonies must be non-religious in content. The fee for Enhanced and Licensed Venue ceremonies is higher.

l*g*d

That's great, thanks!

sarah-b8

I hope this is not a silly question but what happens in the meeting with the registar just before the ceremony?
Am I right in thinking it is just to make sure your not being forced into the marriage and we are who we say we are? What questions will we be asked?

Thanks
Sarah

Cookiemonster24

Can you have music to come into for the ceremony other than what the registry office would normally use,my daughter wanted to sing for me but I didn't know if this would be possible?

mshelsbels

sarah-b8 wrote: »

I hope this is not a silly question but what happens in the meeting with the registar just before the ceremony?
Am I right in thinking it is just to make sure your not being forced into the marriage and we are who we say we are? What questions will we be asked?

Thanks
Sarah

All they do is literally go through the info they already have about you (name, address etc) You might've had a birthday since giving notice, so it really is just to make sure all the info is bang up to date. They'll confirm which optionsyou've chosen for contractual vows and declarations, if you're exchanging rings, if you're being 'given away' etc (You may have already discussed this with them) They'll ask if you have any questions too, so dont be scared to ask!
It doesnt take long - 5 mins in my experience!
Hels;)

mshelsbels

Cookiemonster24 wrote: »

Can you have music to come into for the ceremony other than what the registry office would normally use,my daughter wanted to sing for me but I didn't know if this would be possible?

I'd contact your registrar to ask - we used to have a cd player and couples used encouraged to bring a cd of the tracks they wanted (at least 3-4 tracks ... 1 for entrance, 1-2 for signing and photo opportunity, and 1 for exit) If they didnt have a cd we had a couple of classical cds and one by Enya which I learned to hate over the years!!
Live music was only 'allowed' in outside venues (i.e a civil venue such as a hotel etc), but this was a few years back and things change! There are now 'enhanced ceremonies' where you have more flexibility (see post above), but certainly contact your registrar first and ask.
(I would've let your daughter sing - as long as it didnt contain any religious content!)

Hels;)