How many of you blame you OH for just being 'men'?!

BitterAndTwisted

I certainly don't want a man to act like a woman, if I did I'd probably be in a same-sex relationship, but what I would like is a man who can at least put his own underpants in the laundry-basket. Actually, in the same room as the laundry-basket would do.

euronorris

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I certainly don't want a man to act like a woman, if I did I'd probably be in a same-sex relationship, but what I would like is a man who can at least put his own underpants in the laundry-basket. Actually, in the same room as the laundry-basket would do.

Haha! My other half also has the bad habit of leaving his clothes all over the bedroom floor.

It used to annoy me that I was always picking up after him, so I just stopped. Eventually, he ran out of clean pants, socks etc and I got 'Oh my God, where are all my clean clothes??!' in a panic one morning. My response: 'Well, did you put the dirty ones in the washing basket?', OH 'Erm.....no..', me 'Well darling, if they aren't in the washing basket then they aren't getting washed'.

When I got home that night all his dirty clothes had made it to the washing basket and have done so ever since.

Lotus-eater

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

I certainly don't want a man to act like a woman, if I did I'd probably be in a same-sex relationship, but what I would like is a man who can at least put his own underpants in the laundry-basket. Actually, in the same room as the laundry-basket would do.

We have this thing every night, where I take my dirty clothes off and throw them over her head into the laundry basket. I usually get it.

On a couple of memorable occasions dirty underpants have landed on her head We have a laugh about it really. :rotfl:

And who picks them up when I miss? Erm she does

Person_one

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Seriously though, women like men to be men (mostly ) they want him to be strong and in charge, that's traditionally what the female of the species want in the male.
But there's no doubt about it, that men are being emasculated in alot of the UK, not up north so much though.
You women want a man to be a traditional man, but still act like a woman. You can't have both!

Mainly, I want a man who doesn't make generalisations about 'women' as though we're all identical clones!

I guess you'd say my Oh acts like a woman. He cooks, cleans up after himself and shockingly he doesn't even like football. We're northern.

You mustn't think much of your half of the population if you truly think you're all grunting bags of testosterone incapable of an equal partnership. I give men more credit and expect them to be able to act like capable human beings.

Lotus-eater

Person_one wrote: »

Mainly, I want a man who doesn't make generalisations about 'women' as though we're all identical clones!

You have a whole thread of women making generalisations about men though?
Just evening it up a bit :kisses3:

I don't like football either and I like cooking.

Person_one

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I don't like football either and I like cooking.

Oh no! You're emasculated! How quickly can you get to Sheffield?

clairehi

Well its a generalisation for a reason - because its usually true.

I think the rot really sets in when you have kids. Before then OH was messier than me but it didnt matter too much. When I was at home all day on mat leave I started doing all the housework etc, partly because it got me down being in a messy/dirty house with a small baby. Epecially when the baby started to crawl I couldnt leave OH's stuff lying around or have dirty floors.

Then when I went back to work it was very hard to get OH to do half of the work involved in keeping the house up to the standard I would want with small children and we had a lot of rows.

The difference really came when he got promoted and we could afford a cleaner and for me to reduce my hours at work. He and I both work long hours the difference is that his working hours are nearly all at the office and a fair amount of mine are at home. I make sure I "subcontract" as much as I can and do online shopping at Tesco so I dont end up spending all my free time on chores.

It still annoys me that I have to take responsibility for organising family life, but his strength is in doing his job that he gets well paid for so let him stick to that. If he was not working such long hours, it would be a different story though and he would have to do a lot more around the house . He was made redundant once and it was a nightmare trying to get him to do anything, he always said he was too busy doing job applications - hmmmm - but thats another story!