How many of you blame you OH for just being 'men'?!

gabyjane

LOL ok not going to reply individually but just wanted to say thanks for the replys!

He does work hard and i think maybe reading this he is just oblivious of whats around him most of the time!

Last night i redecorated the hallway and sat down at gone 9pm after being up since 5am..his excuse for me being tired is 'get a decorator in' or the mess 'get a cleaner in'..i dont see why we should tbh..i like decorating and i like cleaning but there is a fine line between keeping a home and living in chaos. While he was sat watching tv last night dd put a load of washing on and cleaned the lounge, put the washing on the line away that he had screwed up and even commented herself on it being thrown on!..she is 11..he is just oblivious i guess.

the funny thing is when him or dd just dump stuff i go round with a abg now and put everything in, his then goes in the corner of the bedroom and hers in her room..shockingly he hasn't missed one bag for weeks now so im thinking we could have a very minimilistic house at this rate!

I would also like to say to the men who posted on here i do the mowing of the lawn, the car, the decorating, change bulbs, cook, clean and generally do 90% of it..of course i will get slated for not 'using' the cleaner, gardener, decorator etc but imo it's a waste of money..i don't mind doing everything if theres a little give and take at times.

jackomdj

ninky wrote: »

it's not a man thing it's all to do with how you were brought up and what you were taught to do as a child. if men are messy it's because they learnt this was okay when they were young.

Totally disagree with this, my Mum NEVER did any housework...my Sister & I were just saying how we both used to go into the hallway to take phonecalls & roll the dust/hair on the stairs into balls!!!! I was never made to do anything around the house as a child.

Now our house, although lived in & full of child clutter is hoovered daily, dusted etc both OH & I hate it being messy. OH does his fair share, which is a bit less than I do as I only work part time.

We both hate how our parents houses are....OH's Mums is full of clutter & cobwebs!

sazza42

Everyone is different and just being a bloke is no kind of an excuse.

I'm moderately messy, but I shared a flat once with a girl who lived like a total pig and it gave me a different perspective on how my own mess might drive someone mad... She had been brought up by a mother who ran round after the whole family and saw to their every need when they were growing up - it was brilliant when she came to stay with us as we never had to lift a finger!

However, my partner's mother also runs round after everyone, but somehow she's managed to bring up two totally domesticated men. My partner is brilliant round the house (thankfully). He's never happier than when he has an overflowing laundry basket to deal with and his brother is busy doing the bulk of the household chores in a home with 4 small boys!!

euronorris

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Look, ladies .... don't you think that the sooner we all accept that it's always the mother-in-law's fault that her darling son is such a pain to live with, as well as the fact that men are a totally different species, the happier we'll all be?

Not so sure about that. We're essentially all blaming each other for men's faults, thereby making them blameless in the process. :eek: Don't like the sound of that! :rotfl:

blue-bells_2

I've heard many female friends complain that their OHs don't do anything around the house, but I have to say my hubby actually mostly does more around the house than me, and does most of the cooking as well! His mother is, shall we say, quite a strong character and his dad has always done an equal amount of cleaning and cooking so he definately grew up in a house where men and women had were 'equal' in their household jobs. Think this must have set a good example for him!

Person_one

euronorris wrote: »

Not so sure about that. We're essentially all blaming each other for men's faults, thereby making them blameless in the process. :eek: Don't like the sound of that! :rotfl:

Me either! :eek:

And if we're blaming in-laws why not father in law too?

Lotus-eater

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Look, ladies .... don't you think that the sooner we all accept that it's always the mother-in-law's fault that her darling son is such a pain to live with, as well as the fact that men are a totally different species, the happier we'll all be?

I wonder sometimes what sort of men you lot live with

And as for the rest of you, if you want a man who cries at the drop of a hat, is totally in touch with his feminine side, cleans up the house, cleans the toilets, does the dishwashing, the laundry.
Do the right thing and marry a wo-man.



Have a chocolate, that's what women like isn't it?
:EasterBun

Person_one

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I wonder sometimes what sort of men you lot live with

And as for the rest of you, if you want a man who cries at the drop of a hat, is totally in touch with his feminine side, cleans up the house, cleans the toilets, does the dishwashing, the laundry.
Do the right thing and marry a wo-man.



Have a chocolate, that's what women like isn't it?
:EasterBun

Do you never get cold in that cave Lotus?

Lotus-eater

Person_one wrote: »

Do you never get cold in that cave Lotus?

It can be a little chilly sometimes.

But then I can go and get some firewood and kill a mammoth for warmth.

Lotus-eater

Person_one wrote: »

Do you never get cold in that cave Lotus?

Seriously though, women like men to be men (mostly ) they want him to be strong and in charge, that's traditionally what the female of the species want in the male.
But there's no doubt about it, that men are being emasculated in alot of the UK, not up north so much though.
You women want a man to be a traditional man, but still act like a woman. You can't have both!