How many of you blame you OH for just being 'men'?!

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Treacly wrote: »

I think there's a difference between being a bit messy, and expecting your partner to constantly clear up after you - that's not laziness - that's contempt!

True. Like... my hubby thinks it's okay to leave dishes to "drip dry" overnight but I prefer to dry and put away immediately - so, I do it myself! I guess it would be different if he told me to do it.

Person_one

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

I go to work and work very hard. I sacrifice a lot for my family so they can have a nice lifestyle.

So if i sometimes forget to put the lid on the coffee jar, or don't IMMEDIATELY put away a few blankets i had used, or if i want to drop my Y-fronts on the bathroom floor, or if i want to walk around around the house in my pants or make a cup of coffee first thing in the morning with the curtains wide open, wearing either:

a. pants
b. no pants

I bloody well will.

And I hope you have fun doing it. The only problem would be if you expect your partner to pick up your nasty y fronts and wash them for you, or you get angry when the blankets that you didn't put away are still where you left them two days later.

There are no housework fairies, someone has to do it, it there's no law that a Y chromosome exempts you from basic cleanliness.

Ivrytwr3

There are no housework fairies, someone has to do it,

OK smart a$$, so how come when i come home my pants are washed and cleaned and the blankets etc are put away?

Don't diss the housework fairy.

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Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

OK smart a$$, so how come when i come home my pants are washed and cleaned and the blankets etc are put away?

Don't diss the housework fairy.

LOL. I'm sure she's happy to be appreciated.

belfastgirl23

I do think that men don't always see things the way women do though. I know that at times DH has been genuinely baffled by things I'm cleaning or tidying since they do really look fine to him. I remember having a blind spot myself about certain things (cleaning bathrooms being the big one) because my mum always did it and therefore it never looked dirty

Luckily his tolerance level is much lower than mine on some things so I just take advantage of that. And he is willing enough to do things, I just had to get over the annoyance that I had to tell him to do them. I would prefer he just did things without being told but I'm figuring this is probably a compromise.

He's working away at the minute though and I do plan to make full use of the fact that he has now learned to use a washing machine and no longer has plausible deniability

Pee

I am really lucky, because I am pretty untidy and my boyfriend is slightly tidier in some ways and slightly untidier in others meaning we live in almost domestic harmony, although previous people who tried to live with us separately found us verging on impossible.

I think it is the same as any other difficulty in a relationship - do you both care enough to try and work on it i.e. him do a bit more, especially when he is just being stupid and piling the washing up and you worrying about it a bit less or do you have to accept the position as is and understand that it will not change and decide whether he is worth it despite this incompatability.

It has to be said that unless becoming lesbian is an option, which is certainly not 100% certain to work, your chances of finding a male you do not consider lazy when it comes to house work are fairly low.

Lotus-eater

Pee wrote: »

It has to be said that unless becoming lesbian is an option, which is certainly not 100% certain to work, your chances of finding a male you do not consider lazy when it comes to house work are fairly low.

Oh pleeease, we're just going to get posts from women that have perfect husbands now.
Just makes the rest of us look bad.

If god hadn't wanted men to be lazy, remote controls wouldn't have been moulded round the shape of the male hand.

pigpen

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I'm really messy, I'm a man!

Just reinforcing the stereotype.

I'm really messy and not a man *doubles checks*.. nope I'm not..

My OH tidies up after me.. I leave a trail of devastation wherever I go.. he thought he was messy.. his family think he is a hog.. we think he is a neat freak.. :eek:

Person_one

Pee wrote: »

It has to be said that unless becoming lesbian is an option, which is certainly not 100% certain to work, your chances of finding a male you do not consider lazy when it comes to house work are fairly low.

How depressing. Several of us just on this thread are living with men who know how to clean up after themselves and pull their weight.

lynnexxxo

I have the opposite problem, my OH is a clean freak and it drives me nuts. I'm not lazy, but he honestly thinks that there should never be a dish, or a single item in the washing basket. He even moans that I have not done the dishes while I am still eating my dinner!

He also moans that the babies (nine months) make to much mess when they are eating and he will have to clean the kitchen floor again !

I wouldn't mind so much if he didn't insist on moaning about it all the time...